Sexist Islam?

Mohja Kahf, author of the novel "The Girl in the Tangerine Scarf," fights back against the charge that Islam, or the Islamic world in general, treats women badly. Among many, many other points she makes is this one:

Medieval Christianity excoriated Islam for being orgiastic, which seems to mean that Muslims didn't lay a guilt trip on hot sex (at least within what were deemed licit relationships). Now that hot sex is all the rage in the post-sexual revolution West, you'd think Muslims would get some credit for the pro-sex attitude of Islam -- but no. The older stereotype has been turned on its head, and in the new one, we're the prudes. Listen, we're the only monotheistic faith I know with an actual legal rule that the wife has a right to orgasm.

She concedes there are still some challenges: Misogyny persists in some places, and some minds, in a form that is "almost as bad as American misogyny."

(I would, however, like to hear more about why she refers to "this nonsensical Western custom of teenage dating" and prefers having professional men make overtures to the families of young women, virtually out of the blue.)

UPDATE: A reader writes in to argue that Kahf is wrong on the orgasm point: The Talmud, she recalls, contains a similar injunction "that a man is obligated to give his wife pleasure before he takes it himself." She can't provide a citation, though. Can any other Brainiac reader? Reply in the comments or send an email to brainiac.email@gmail.com