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Posted by Robin Abrahams December 17, 2008 07:45 AM

Your last chance to ask Miss Conduct about your Christmas, Hanukkah, New Year's dilemmas before 2009! I'll be on boston.com from noon to 1 to answer your questions. Stop by! I'll post the transcript here afterward.

UPDATE: Transcript is online here. Excerpt:

Lyndey: I'm childless and really don't need to hear about the "biological" side of pregnancy, birth and child care. Is there any way to get people (both at work and in my personal life) to tone down the "diaper discussions"? It's especially tough when I'm eating.

Robin_Abrahams: "I'm really squeamish about medical stuff, do you mind?" should do the trick. I write about this in my book, actually. Disgust is an emotion we have for very good evolutionary reasons, but the parameters for disgust change radically when you have a baby (it wouldn't be terribly adaptive to freak out and abandon the child as soon as it pooped for the first time). It's hard for parents to remember that, sometimes. I'll post more on my blog about this!

Promised post to come tomorrow--in the meantime, comments are open if you want to continue the conversation.

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6 comments so far...
  1. FYI: There's a DELIGHTFULLY funny Scrubs take on A Charlie Brown Christmas. It's probably up on youtube somewhere.

    I wasn't able to ask this during the chat because I was at work. But my mom's family has decided to have the big old family Christmas in April or May due to scheduling difficulties....however the gifts people usually give me are gift cards that I use to fill the gap until the disbursal of my student loans in February. Is there a polite way to ask that if the various family members were planning on purchasing gift cards to my grocery stores that I would very much appreciate them being sent around Christmas for said reason? Or should I just hope that I will be living in the same place after graduation and will be able to use gift cards received so late?

    Robin says: It would be awkward of you to ask, but perhaps your mother (or whoever came up with Christmas in April) could ask on your behalf.

    Posted by veronica December 17, 08 05:32 PM
  1. Regarding the unwanted commentary on paleness: my best response has always been, "Yes, my dermatologist LOVES me!" It's true, it's funny, and may make a dent in the unnaturally bronze cancer culture. Okay, that last is wishful thinking; but melanoma is not something to be courted for mere social status (as important as that may seem at times...)

    Posted by Ajay December 18, 08 09:17 AM
  1. I mostly get compliments on my porcelain skin, but if anyone ever makes a wisecrack about it, I say "I'd rather look like a ghost than a baseball mitt."

    Posted by Noel December 18, 08 10:33 AM
  1. When I get remarks about my super pale skin, my favorite comeback is, "being a little transparent is fun - I can trace my veins all the way up my arm and everything!"

    Posted by Ariel December 18, 08 12:37 PM
  1. It *is* fun being pale! I tell people I'm going for the supermodel look, that I'm trying to bankrupt my dermatologist, that it makes me look oh so dramatic in black, that the look of a deep-friend lobster just doesn't suit me, I could go on and on.

    Posted by BlondMaggie December 18, 08 02:11 PM
  1. I actually found Dracula really misogynistic! Lucy's role as the vessel for the men to exercise their homoerotic attraction really turned me off, so by the time the book got to Mina's desire to be kept in the loop and not condescended to, I was disinclined to give it a charitable reading.

    Robin says: Really? I'm intrigued. I'll have to give it another go. One thing I've noticed is that English majors and theater majors--which is what I was--tend to approach texts differently. Y'all look for what's there, we look for what plausibly could be there, if we were to produce it as a play. I don't think it would be hard to stage a feminist version of "Dracula" ... so it's entirely likely that I was reading my version of it, and not what Stoker actually wrote. Off-topic, did you get my e-mail about dark energy? Was that as weird as I thought it was?

    Posted by Fillyjonk December 19, 08 11:27 AM
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About Miss Conduct Robin Abrahams writes the weekly "Miss Conduct" column for The Boston Globe Magazine.
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Robin Abrahams writes the weekly "Miss Conduct" column for The Boston Globe Magazine. Robin, who has a PhD in psychology from Boston University, has worked as a theater publicist, organizational-change communications manager, editor, stand-up comedian, and professor of psychology and English. She lives in Cambridge with her husband, Marc Abrahams, founder of the Ig Nobel Prizes, which are given annually for achievements that first make people laugh and then make them think.

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