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Monday question: Trick for treat

Posted by Robin Abrahams  January 17, 2011 06:17 AM

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Here's an anecdote straight out of a Dickens novel:

How would you handle this? I did a favor for a "friend" and he offered to buy me lunch. As expected he picked up the check. I said thanks but please let me leave the tip. It is a restaurant I frequent and I know and like all the wait staff. Service and food were great as usual so I left a generous tip, as usual. Imagine my chagrin when I saw him pick up and pocket about half of what I left. He did not know I observed this little maneuver since I had my back to him as I left the table and was holding the door and only turned around to see what was taking him so long. Busted red handed but he is not aware I saw his petty larceny. I said nothing and went back later and gave the waitress what she deserved. I have yet to give this "friend" what he deserves. I am quite proud not to have shoved him into traffic. What should I do when he calls for the next favor?

What do you think the letter-writer should do? And--for extra-credit points--if this were a Dickens novel, what would be  the name of the LW's "friend"?

I'll post my response on Friday, as usual, and we'll all gather 'round for a screenside chat this Wednesday at noon. Talk to you then!
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