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Monday question: Age-appropriate weddings?

Posted by Robin Abrahams  September 12, 2011 06:50 AM

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Here's one of the more unusual wedding questions I've received:

My best friend has been happily married for 34 years. She has two adult sons and a sixteen year old daughter. She eloped when she was 21 and has mentioned more than once that she regrets not having had a wedding. So when she announced that she was having a commitment ceremony for her thirty fifth anniversary and asked me to participate, I was thrilled. 

However what she is planning is is far different that what i had imagined. Long white dress with a full train, waist length veil , close to a hundred guests and she has asked me to be her Matron of Honor!!! I feel that this is something much more appropriate for for a twenty something first time bride, not a fifty seven year old adult who looks her age. I fear she is making a ridiculous spectacle of herself. And yes, of myself also. So how do I tell her this or am I just be being an old wet hen myself? I am completely supportive of an age-approriate ceremony.

What do you think, wise readers? I'll post my advice on Friday, as usual. (And of course, there will be lots of interesting things posted here between now and then.)
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