Here's a nice, juicy question to start the New Year with. What do you think?
I have a rather odd Situation -- esp. nowadays. We have a relative (not on my side) who feels it acceptable to smoke in their home when entertaining guests. This relative has taken on the role of host for family gatherings. During the summer, no issue. However, the colder weather presents a different story. They think nothing of smoking in front of guests even when young children are present! A few other smokers take that as a green light to light up also (gratefully, most still go outside to smoke). As one of the many non-smokers, it is extremely offensive and I usually walk out of the room until the smoke clears but that can be difficult at times. If anyone notices, nothing is said.
I cannot say anything directly without causing a family rift, after all it is "their home." The few we have mentioned it to are clueless -- no one wants to create issues. I find it mind boggling that anyone would subject their guests and esp. children to the dangers of second hand smoke! I end up coughing for days and wash all our clothes the next day. It may come to where I do not go and visit relatives at other times -- which could create other questions. Entertaining at our home is not an option due to distance. I am at a loss what to do, if anything.
What do you think, dear readers? I'll post my advice Friday. In the meantime, check back in for useful tips on New Years' resolutions, a Wednesday chat, and more. Happy (smoke-free!) 2012!
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