... is online here. The first question is a real doozy. Here is the full, unedited version:
My stepson (33) married a young woman from England two years ago. They held their 3 day wedding celebration at my stepson's mother's home in New England. Their guests were asked to pay for the food and to do the cooking for the long weekend. His mother and my husband and I provided a tent and rented tables and chairs and paid for wine and did a lot of cooking for the 100 people for the wedding. Some parts of this were enjoyable but it was a lot of work and the wedding couple pretty much sat back and watched everyone work. Hard work, not just for the parent figures, but also for the guests who were cooking endlessly that weekend, after spending money on so many groceries - and paying for international flights.
Now the stepdaughter is turning 30 this summer and my stepson is asking everyone to do it again to celebrate her birthday. I am embarrassed by the wedding celebration that seemed to ask everyone else to take care of their life event. Can I say anything?
I was so gobsmacked by this I posted it on Facebook just to make sure that there wasn't something I was missing, that this was indeed as bad as it seemed.
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