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Monday question: Foist 'er children

Posted by Robin Abrahams  September 9, 2013 06:41 AM

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What advice do you have for this LW, readers?

We live on a quiet street in the suburbs and my three (school-aged) children like to ride their bikes and play our driveway after dinner while I clean up. The problem is our neighbors will see my children outside and take this as a sign that their kids are welcome to join my kids in our yard. Their children are younger than mine and (in my opinion) should be watched by their parents. However, the parents walk their kids across the street to my house and walk home. No words are exchanged, I just look out my window and notice that neighborhood kids are in my yard. This is a problem, since I don't feel comfortable with them in my yard unsupervised, which in turn causes me to have to come out and watch them. On a few occasions, someone has ended up with a scuffed knee (no parent will come out to help, I had to tend to the problem) or I have had to correct issues with neighbor's son being physical. I don't know how to approach the subject, especially since it is on my property, not the street, so it's technically a playdate I didn't sign up for.
My advice would be to drop in on the neighbors, or "catch them in the act" of dropping off the kids, and cheerfully explain the situation and set some boundaries. I mean, who just dumps their kids in someone else's yard

But I'm curious to hear if there are nuances I'm missing on account of not having kids myself. I constantly hear people bemoan how kids are over-scheduled and over-supervised, in contrast to our own more free-range childhoods. 

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