... is online here. What to do when already interfering in-laws want to pay for the wedding?
If you want a wedding ceremony, figure out your top priorities. Spiritual meaning? A good time for friends? A family reunion? Allocate your resources and creativity--and choose your battles--accordingly.
If your in-laws insist on contributing, ask them to sponsor a particular event or item (for example, the reception catering or the flowers) rather than donating unallocated funds. That enables you to retain control over the other aspects. The most important thing is for you and your intended to maintain a united front and make it clear that your main priority in life now is pleasing each other, not your parents.
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