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It's showering men!

Posted by Robin Abrahams  April 1, 2014 08:18 AM

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Sunday's column featured a bride who was being pressured by her future mother-in-law to have a shower, which she didn't want. Naturally, I took the bride's side on this and urged her fiance to tell his mom to back off. A reader sends in an excellent alternative method of handling the dispute:

How about suggesting to the groom's mother that she give a shower for her son? We had a double wedding in which our sons were the grooms. A neighbor gave a formal (hats and sundresses and tea) backyard shower for the two grooms. It was wonderful. People were clever and funny. The boys got things like rakes, hammers, paint brushes. It was such a success that a year later when another son got married my aunt had a shower for him with all my female cousins. Again, it was a kick. Husbands need stuff, too. The bride's family and bridesmaids were included in the three showers, but if, in this case, the bride does not want a shower it could be limited to the groom's family and ushers. It would work with less hostility, just fun.

Great idea!

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