Talk yourself up
Deborah Sloan, whose It’s a Date! service will help adults over 40 craft the perfect online dating profile and first e-mail message, said that people tend to shy away from talking about themselves too much in real life.
“There’s that fear that comes in right away,” she said. “How do I find that fine line between doing a good job of telling my story and sounding too puffed up?”
Sloan said to think of an online profile in two ways: first, as a movie trailer, and second, as a resume.
“Isn’t it annoying when you see a trailer that tells you so much about the movie you don’t want to see it?” she said. Telling a few compelling details, but not your whole life story, is key. So is spending time writing, rewriting, and editing your profile, the same way you’d rewrite a resume to get your dream job.