Re: James Gandolfini Dead at 51
posted at 6/24/2013 6:41 PM EDT
In response to ms_obstinate's comment:
In response to miscricket's comment:
I was saddened by this news..and MsObstinate..as you know..it hit a little too close to home for me this week.
You are right when you say that sometimes your time is just up. There have been a lot of stories about his lifestyle..diet..alcohol and drug use..etc. All these things can take a toll on your body for sure..but sometimes these things just happen for no reason.
As you know, I have a friend who is a cardiologist. Used to be my PC before he gave up the practice. He has always told me not to obsess about a little extra weight. Plenty of exercise and keeping the cholesteral levels and blood pressure levels down is the most important thing...but even then no guarantee.
The bottom line is you should really try to live healthy..everything in moderation and appreciate the time you do have on earth. Life is a precious gift. You never know when it will end.
One thing I do know...is when it's my time..I hope it's quick like that. I've seen too many people with long..lingering..debilitating illness. Long goodbyes are worse.
" Above all..be the heroine in your life..not the victim" Nora Ephron
I try to live a healthy live style... I also enjoy when I may stray from that a little. I want to look back and say I lived and loved my life.
A rule I live by...I refuse to be preacher and tell someone how to live their life....to each his/her own. My only advice is.....life is way too short, live it....before it's gone.
I too would hope when my end comes, it's quick and like Gandolfini's. I watched my dad suffer, and it broke my heart. The long goodbye was sadder than I could have imagined.
I hope you have some good news coming your way soon miscricket. My thoughts are with you.
Thank you so much Msobstinate. We are in somewhat of a holding pattern right now. The doctors we've seen agree to take a "wait and see" attitude since he is basically stabilized. I think as time goes by my anxiety over the situation will diminish...he's taking it in stride for sure but that his his personality...lol ( sadly..I was born a worrier and a worrier I'll always be..)
To make matters worse..the poor guy now has a kidney stone! He's hoping to pass it in the next day or two.
You are wise to not preach to others how to live their lives. There is no "one size fits all" in this game of life. No one knows another's medical history etc. The world is full of conflicting opinions even among the experts.
I think we all know our own bodies best..and you are right. Life is short..and it's precious. I just try to live it with no regrets and focus on what really matters.
There are no doubt many contributing factors to Gandolfini's death...but you know what? No one knows when their time is up. Perfectly healthy and fit people drop dead of the same thing all the time. Young basketball players go into cardiac arrest etc...