Sympathy card - advice on sending a "late" card

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    Sympathy card - advice on sending a "late" card

    Hello Everyone,

    I did not know that the husband of my former boss had died until recently; he died at the end of May, so it is still quite recent, although I certainly missed the usual time when I would have sent a card.  Her husband had cancer, diagnosed when I was still working for her, but I was truly shocked and saddened to learn of his death; they had a very good marriage and I know she must be devastated. 

    This person was not my immediate supervisor, she was actually a high-level manager, but she managed a large group of people, and I was among them.  I really want to send a card, but feel a little awkward b/c of the lateness factor.

    Have any of you had this happen, and gone ahead and sent the card? 

    I am not planning on saying anything like "I just learned  ..." or making any references to being apologetic about the lateness of the card.  I think that speaks for itself and I don't want to draw attention to that, as the focus is to offer my condolences. 

    Any advice is appreciated.  I am planning on sending a card, but as I feel awkward, I would love some feedback.   

    Thanks for any advice you have to offer!!
     
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    Re: Sympathy card - advice on sending a "late" card

    At this point, I think it would be more apropriate to send a personal note rather than a card. 

    Dear Former Boss, I have been thinking of you so much lately. I was so sad to hear of John's death.  I know this is a difficult time for you.

    If you would like to get together for dinner or a drink, I know a nice little restaurant around the corner from (name of her company) where we could meet (name of day/s that are good) night! 

    Sincerely,
    Your name here.

    So many widows complain that their social life dies when their husband does, it is always good to invite them out!
     
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    Re: Sympathy card - advice on sending a "late" card

    Lemoncoke,
    What a wonderful idea. I was trying to put something down in words for yogafriend, but did not have the right words w/o sounding like a cliche.  Yours not only give sympathy, but friendship as well.
    Well said - Pingo
     
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    Re: Sympathy card - advice on sending a "late" card

    Thanks, Lemoncoke!

    That's a great idea and the wording is just right for the circumstances.  It seems like such a small thing, but I feel so awkward due to the time lag. 

     ...and thanks, Pingo.  I also agree that it will be nice to extend the hand of friendship at a time when someone is really hurting. 
     
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    Re: Sympathy card - advice on sending a "late" card

    No one wants to see another sympathy card three months later!  They are great in the first week or two, but later, no.
     
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    yogafriend,

    You are such a dear person.

    I would not worry too much about the card. I was getting sympathy cards a year after my dad passed, and I appreciated every one of them.

    lemoncoke's advice is awesome - as a letter, or, if you want, as a card. Either one.

    You have a good soul, yogafriend.
     
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    Re: Sympathy card - advice on sending a "late" card

    Very nice advice, lc.  I'd write the lovely personal note in a simple sympathy card that isn't printed with too wordy a verse.  The card might say, "Thinking of you in your loss," instead of 2 pages of Amanda Bradley.  Then, you can use the white space for the personal note and invitation.
     
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    Re: Sympathy card - advice on sending a "late" card

    That is a great idea,very thoughtful.b.g.
     
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    In Response to Re: Sympathy card - advice on sending a "late" card:
    yogafriend, You are such a dear person. I would not worry too much about the card. I was getting sympathy cards a year after my dad passed, and I appreciated every one of them. lemoncoke's advice is awesome - as a letter, or, if you want, as a card. Either one. You have a good soul, yogafriend.
    Posted by reindeergirl


    Thank you so much, RDG.   Means so much to me to see such a sweet message waiting for me, and helpful as well.   You are awesome.  

    Here it is the most dreary day of the summer, and I am smiling.  Many thanks. 
    xo
     
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    Thank you, all! 

    Great advice.  I no longer feel awkward about the timing of the card and love all of your suggestions.  

    ... and lemoncoke is a hot ticket, let's face it.    Thanks again!!Smile
     
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    Re: Sympathy card - advice on sending a "late" card

    Lovely of you to think of sending sympathies and even worry about the length of time passed before you did.

    Sending a letter with an invitation to dinner is a great idea. A card would suffice but a nice, chatty and inviting letter is a wonderful way to handle the situation.

    Blessings to you for your thoughtfulness -
     
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    In Response to Re: Sympathy card - advice on sending a "late" card:
    Lovely of you to think of sending sympathies and even worry about the length of time passed before you did. Sending a letter with an invitation to dinner is a great idea. A card would suffice but a nice, chatty and inviting letter is a wonderful way to handle the situation. Blessings to you for your thoughtfulness -
    Posted by Panney


    Thank you, Panney.   I appreciate your input and kind words.  
    Love all the advice.   Really made my day! 
     
     
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    Re: Sympathy card - advice on sending a "late" card

    The former boss is enriched because YF is her friend.
     
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