Re: Which would you prefer???????
posted at 2/20/2012 4:02 PM EST
If you go by perfume research, that men love the perfume scent of vanilla on their wives because it reminds them of mom's kitchen, if my husband were looking for someone who reminded him a bit of mom he wouldn't be alone. Women, too, seek men who remind them of their fathers, generally speaking. Not in an icky (aka sexual) way for either gender imo, although, Freud would have disagreed with me...ew. Anyways...
And, yes, I believe he needed me to lose weight and reduce his pain or he would have done so by himself. He was 44 for pete's sake - when was he going to do it if he, in fact, could? His understanding of nutrition was abysmally mythically based and getting him further into trouble year by year. And, losing weight and "getting healthy" was the first thing he asked me for help with. Men don't usually ask for help with things they don't need help doing. Women, either, for that matter.
As for my parents, my mom and I were alone; my parents divorced when I was 4.
I'm 40. I'm in the "balance of both" crowd. Not sure how that fits into your theory of age or if you think I'm old or young.
ETA: I think people often mistake needing one another in some capacity (i.e., filling in a unique set of life "gaps") with being "needy"/codependant. Fitting together like puzzle pieces is good, and it requires gaps and pieces cut to fit them. Codependance, however, is a killer of a problem.