Poll: FI help?
posted at 11/12/2007 1:13 PM EST
He he he. It helped that clm77 was planning hers at the same time! I got lots of tips from her... And of course these boards helped tremendously too.
We talked about eloping. We talked about having a very small, immediate family wedding only. The issue was family expectations. He's an only child, I knew my mom really wanted me to have a wedding- we had to make a choice. So we decided to do the whole she-bang, although we kept it to 100 people.
I kept things as simple as possible. We got married at a hotel, which narrowed a lot of stuff down- they used specific vendors for some things and it also gave us a day-of coordinator as part of our package.
I got to a point where I had to remind myself that if I stopped all the planning, we were still going to get married. I scaled down my favors idea. I had very basic cake and centerpieces. The stuff I put the most work into were the parts I enjoyed.
The parts he participated in I had to tell him to do... but he did them. I basically put the honeymoon in his hands, and so he did that part. You might have to give your fiancee certain jobs. "I need you to do this for the wedding..."
Two weeks before our wedding we had a stupid fight (one of few we've had ever) about I don't even remember what. But I ended up hysterically crying in the middle of Harvard Square saying "I feel like I'm doing all the planning for the wedding and that I'm planning MY wedding not OUR wedding." My husband said "Well, sweetie- you shouldn't feel like you are doing all of the planning because you are doing all of the planning." He definitely appreciated what I was doing (even if he needed to be reminded sometimes that I was doing so much) and was at least emotionally supportive...
Seeing my very reserved husband grinning and dancing all night at our wedding ended up being a very sweet reward for all the work I put into the wedding. We both have wonderful memories of that night and everything worked out beautifully.