Hey gang. My FMIL wants to plan a rehearsal dinner for about 60 people. Everyone who is either in the bridal party or coming in from out of town will be invited. It seems to be too big of a group to have at a restaurant since most places only have small event rooms. Apparantly she has looked.
My vision of a rehearsal dinner is formal, contemporary, and chic. High heels, dark suited men, and everyone in tables in front of us so we can present the gifts and make announcements. Perhaps this is just not possible with such a large group.
She wnats to have the dinner at her small home in the woods up in Nashua. They are willing to pay for the tent, tables, and a catering company and "do it right". I am picturing folding chairs (yuck) and BBQ! This would be fine for a housewarming party, but I just picture it more formal than this for the wedding. Everyone tells me to just bud out and let her plan it, but I cant help it~ its my wedding and I want to be able to spend my efforts planning fun things like the dinner and the shower even! I know, am I a bridezilla or something? Gluing all the invitations together is NOT fun, and this IS fun, so I'd love to help her plan it.
My questions: a) Is it rude to help her plan the dinner?
b) Is it possible to have a formal affair for 60 ppl in a house (and yard)?
c) How about a theme? I was thinking since our honeymoon is in Hawaii, of having a luau type theme with tiki torches, leis, and big buckets of drinks and perhaps some specialty cocktails like a "Blue Hawaaian" "Lava Flow", etc. Can this be done in a non-tacky way?
d) Should I drop this hope of a RD being formal? I realize its a personal choice, but I guess it is true that most people will be coming from the hotel to the event, not from the church (rehearsal) so the dress could go either way (formal or casual)
e) How do you term a khakis and skirt attire? Casual? Casual Formal?
Any advice you smart gals have would be faaaaaaaantastic!! :)