Wedding Pet Peeves

  1. You have chosen to ignore posts from laryan. Show laryan's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    Hi Everyone,

    I just read the thread on "Garter Toss". Its one of my biggest "pet peeves" about weddings.

    Several other "pet peeves" that I have about weddings:

    Bouquet Toss
    Conga Lines
    chicken dance/macarena/electric slide dances
    smooshing cake in the face of the bride/groom by their new spouse
    people who are excessively drunk @ weddings and aren't turned off by the bartender, and nothing is done by the family of the drunk..

    My question to everyone: What are your biggest wedding "pet peeves".

    This was done a year or two ago, but where we have so many new posters, i'm sure there are new "pet peeves"!
     
  2. You have chosen to ignore posts from starbuckslas. Show starbuckslas's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    Any silly wedding game... This is not a birthday party for a small child, it is a wedding. I was at one where they played a version of the newlywed game...
     
  3. You have chosen to ignore posts from downtoearth. Show downtoearth's posts

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    waiting for the bride and groom and family (hosts) for hours while they take pictures. You invited us, why are you spending all this time without us?

    Paying for my drinks. no explanation needed.

    another vote for the stupid games to claim the centerpiece.

     
  4. You have chosen to ignore posts from bride2Bsoon. Show bride2Bsoon's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    Wow! I am glad I didn't go to your wedding! I like to have fun at weddings and I like the tosses - I feel like people enjoy them and I like the fun dancing. A coctail hour is a nice gesture, because the bridal party are taking pics! When would they be able to do this?
    As far a paying for drinks_WAKE UP! Wedding are expensive BE honored your invited! Glad I don't know YOU!
     
  5. You have chosen to ignore posts from CityGirl07. Show CityGirl07's posts

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    An awkward amount of time between ceremony and reception (too much time to go straight to reception, too little time to go home/to hotel).
     
  6. You have chosen to ignore posts from CityGirl07. Show CityGirl07's posts

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    An awkward amount of time between ceremony and reception (too much time to go straight to reception, too little time to go home/to hotel).
     
  7. You have chosen to ignore posts from princess-cal. Show princess-cal's posts

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    GAMES! Also outdoor weddings when it's 100 degrees and no shelter from the sun.
     
  8. You have chosen to ignore posts from Giordana. Show Giordana's posts

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    Destination weddings. It's one thing to have a connection to someplace far away, it's quite another to expect your closest friends and family to take a very expensive vacation just to attend your wedding.

    Cash bars, especially when I have to pay for non-alcoholic drinks.

    The Dollar Dance.

    Smashing the cake in the bride and groom's faces. Why?

    DJ's who try to be the center of attention.

    Guests who insist on bringing dates.

     
  9. You have chosen to ignore posts from ralphluv. Show ralphluv's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    Bride2besoon...learn to read..it wasn't a post about how you feel about Auntie. It was how you feel about weddings. It's a free country and that's how she feels. Grow up.



    Strapless dress on the bridesmaids

    Crappy toasts

    Gross makeouts from the bride and groom...

    Drunken cousins who fall at your reception and have to be escorted out by your angry aunt. Oh wait...that's just my family. Awesome.
     
  10. You have chosen to ignore posts from Bishky. Show Bishky's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    Enumerating these is a bit of a guilty pleasure. And while I'm being a little snide, I should go ahead and admit that this list is by no means exhaustive.

    1. Long slideshows - If the B&G feel strongly about presenting one, I think it's better suited for the RD or a spot off to the side at the reception, rather than on a giant screen during or after dinner. (And, yes, this means I have been subjected to the latter.)
    2. No face time with the B&G - I understand it requires extraordinary effort and organization, as well as time budgeting, and I would never expect the B&G to have a lengthy conversation with every guest, but I think thanking people for coming and exchanging a sentence or two is a must. As much as I dislike receiving lines, I suppose I prefer those over never speaking with the B&G. You'd never invite someone to a party at your home and not greet him/her, so why is it okay at an affair as formal as a wedding reception?
     
  11. You have chosen to ignore posts from MM379. Show MM379's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    This is a good topic!
    1) No thank you notes.
    2) No face time with bride and groom - they don't have a receiving line and don't go around to the tables thanking people.
    3) Guests who don't RSVP.
    4) Guests who don't read the invitation's envelope and inquire about bringing kids, friends, or dates who were not originally invited.
    5) Too much of any one style of music... a variety will appeal to more guests.
     
  12. You have chosen to ignore posts from greenclown. Show greenclown's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    Tosses
    Cake smashing
    Silly dances
    No thank you notes
    Long gaps and/or long drives between the ceremony and reception
    Annoying DJs
    Slideshows (I'm fine with them at RDs, or off to the side, but during dinner is too much, IMO)

    Things I have never personally experienced but would not like:
    Cash bar
    Games
     
  13. You have chosen to ignore posts from bride2Bsoon. Show bride2Bsoon's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    ralph-All I am saying is that some of the posts sound like you all are snobby.
    what makes a wedding fun is all the unique styles of ways things are done.
    I am shocked and thank god I don't know some of you people. I think some of you all forget that wedding are VERY expensive and be honored you are invited. WHO CARES if you have to buy a drink at a bar. CHEAP you all are. You all should be ashamed for thinking thats a pet P />

     
  14. You have chosen to ignore posts from Sepbride. Show Sepbride's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    I happen to agree with BtoBe. I think it's wrong to say that a wedding pet peeve would be tosses, and silly dances. Yes, you may not like them and it might not be your taste but to call it a pet Peeve. I think a pet peeve would be more like not sending a thank you, not saying hi to guests, not having a significant other be included on an invitation, even black tie weddings. I agree with BtoBe, wedding are very costly and in today's world the couple has to pay for thier own wedding, student loans, and find a place to live. The bride and groom are forced to be face with cutting guest list or keeping open bar. Some people may thing different, and thats fine. I don't think anyone should judge if it's open bar, how many apps, if there is favors and anything else caddy. A wedding is a celebration for 2 people joining into one.

    My pet peeve in weddings is people who thing why to much and judge!
     
  15. You have chosen to ignore posts from Brighton1. Show Brighton1's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    At the last wedding I was at, we had to dance for the centerpieces. Yeah, I really don't need flowers that badly!

     
  16. You have chosen to ignore posts from BNY. Show BNY's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    Please keep your opinions of other posters comments to yourself. This post is hilarious and it would be nice to keep it on topic. Thanks.

    Cash Bar: At least have open bar cocktail hour. It has nothing to do with $$. It's just proper ettiquete.
    Friday Weddings: Sorry if your having one, don't mean to offend. But it's becoming more of a trend and personally I would never ask my guests to use vacation time or leave work early to drive in rush hour traffic for my wedding.
    No shuttle from the hotel
    : If I have to drive I can't drink so I don't have a good time.
    Too much of the music that the Bride and Groom like: It has to be well balanced to make sure everyone has fun.

    I've started to see a trend in people cutting back at the expense of the guests. If I couldn't afford to host guests properly and make it as convenient and inexpensive for them as possibly I would cut back on extras like flowers, cake, decor and other little things that no one will notice.

     
  17. You have chosen to ignore posts from Brighton1. Show Brighton1's posts

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    I think people who need to drink in order to have a good time are tacky. I love my wine, but that's just lame.

    We're still on the fence as to whether or not we'll be providing transportation for our guests. Personally, I feel wedding guests should be mature enough to have a designated driver (my friends and I always have one), but if it happens to be in the budget, we'll provide a shuttle.

     
  18. You have chosen to ignore posts from downtoearth. Show downtoearth's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    [Quote]Wow! I am glad I didn't go to your wedding! I like to have fun at weddings and I like the tosses - I feel like people enjoy them and I like the fun dancing. A coctail hour is a nice gesture, because the bridal party are taking pics! When would they be able to do this?
    As far a paying for drinks_WAKE UP! Wedding are expensive BE honored your invited! Glad I don't know YOU![/Quote]

    a half hour for formals is one thing, keeping your guests waiting hours is impolite.

    I love dancing at weddings, but I do not like being told to dance like an idiot around the table waving a dollar bill so someone can claim the centerpiece. don't do it - it is tacky.

    I do not like paying for a part of the reception. I expect the hosts to 'host' cocktails as well as food.

    And as for your final comment, my goodness, can we not be civil on an etiquette post?
     
  19. You have chosen to ignore posts from downtoearth. Show downtoearth's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    The posting catagory is wedding etiquette. The topic is - what do you dislike about weddings you've attended?

    It seems to me perfectly appropriate to discuss etiquette issues as well as party planning issues.

    I like the annoying DJ comments. Our DJ was such a jerk he nearly ruined the day. But I kept seeing people dancing and so I continued to see the postitive. Of course 20 years later, I'm still annoyed at him. :))
     
  20. You have chosen to ignore posts from Lakehousegirl. Show Lakehousegirl's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    1. Cocktail napkins, favors, or any other type of disposal paper item that has your names and date on them. I'm not stupid, I know who you are and what day it is and after I wipe the aoili off my chin (from eating the delicious crap cake you provided), with your monogrammed napkin, I'm throwing it directly in the trash. I really don't understand why people insist on doing this, it is so incredibly stupid to me.
    2. Photos of the couple everywhere (I went to a wedding where there was a framed photo of the couple at the sink in the bathroom)
    I can't stand the attitude of "EVERYONE MUST LOOK AT US FOR THE NEXT 6HOURS AT ALL TIMES...and if you can't see us in person, we have provided an extensive selection of photos you can view at any location during the reception because we are so attractive and you must see us in all our glory".
    3. Sit-down dinners that last so long that by the time the dance floor opens after dinner, you have a 1/2 hour before the reception ends.

    Whooo, I'm snarky this morning.
     
  21. You have chosen to ignore posts from erinkat. Show erinkat's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    I have no problem with a cash bar. Every wedding I have been to save one was cash bar. My friends and family must be low class according to these boards. I like 'em anyway and would never hold the $20 I spent on drinks against them :)
     
  22. You have chosen to ignore posts from 300dpi. Show 300dpi's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    now really . . . im getting tired of having to post just to see replies
     
  23. You have chosen to ignore posts from CityGirl07. Show CityGirl07's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    Smithie - I'm with you!! People routinely spell my name wrong, and often get FI's name wrong too. Same thing happened to me recently - woman got a shower invite, came to shower, I sent thank-you note with my name spelled out inside and on return address, then I got her wedding invitation and it was spelled wrong! Pay attention, people!! Happens at work too and I don't get it - you see my name three times - in the body of the email, in my signature, and in your inbox. Grrr.... :)
     
  24. You have chosen to ignore posts from Moneypenny424. Show Moneypenny424's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    WHOA! I am so glad I've never experienced some of these things. I thought some of you were joking! Dancing for centerpieces? Who wants these this badly??? Games? Oh dear lord.

    My pet peeve would be cash bar. Like others said, I think you need at least an open cocktail hour...and table wine is nice.

    Something that people in WI (where I grew up) do is the Grand March. This is when the wedding party is introduced, but instead of a normal introduction, you have to wear a costume and do something silly. We had to wear Green Bay Packer jerseys over our bridesmaid dresses. Since I had no idea what this was, I thought I was supposed to be wearing this down the aisle! I've seen other people wear camoflague as well. If I'm in your wedding party, PLEASE don't make me do anything embarassing!
     
  25. You have chosen to ignore posts from ralphluv. Show ralphluv's posts

    Wedding Pet Peeves

    Did you read the title before you came to this post? If you don't like, it don't read it, but don't make my eyes bleed because I'm looking forward to some good snark from my peeps on here and you two bleeding hearts are trying to make us feel bad for our opinions.

    I appreciate your wide eyed optimism that all weddings are beatiful, but frankly, many weddings are tackalicious and it's fine talk about them on an anonymous wedding message board.

    PS. Since you are new, you probably don't realize that Aunty is always a model of decorum, so settle down with getting on her case.

     
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