Wedding Pet Peeves

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    Wedding Pet Peeves

    Can I make it clear that I love weddings. I always have fun at them.

    However, weddings, like the friends getting married, are never perfect, and it's fun to have a chuckle over those flaws.

    Now, strapless dresses. It's not a case of bride and not bride that incurs the Tacky label. It's a matter of armpit flub. If wearing a strapless dress causes armpit flub, bride or not, the dress is unflattering and therefore Tacky.

    So sayeth ye gods.
     
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    Why, oh why, can't I see any new postings?
     
  3. You have chosen to ignore posts from helphelpImbeingrepressed. Show helphelpImbeingrepressed's posts

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    You can't see posts sometimes because they go up in batches.

    Posting again in a thread has nothing to do with it.

     
  4. You have chosen to ignore posts from boxerbuddie. Show boxerbuddie's posts

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    "* having the reception at a venue with no hotel closer than 20 minutes away, and not providing a shuttle"

    Missy, why is it someone's responsibilty to provide you with transportation? What do you do for a night out? Aren't we all adults who can organize our own transportation? In the scheme of wedding expenses this one is totally unneccesary. My brother and sister -in-law tried to do this and the cheapest quote they got was for a few thousand dollars. Call a cab or designate a driver.

    Now on the large gaps between ceremony I have to toally agree with you. I was at an out of town wedding where the ceremony was at noon and the reception at 6. what was I suppose to do during that gap?
     
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    There is nothing worse than a bridal party of nothing but severly overweight women all poured into dresses that are so tight, it looks like their heads are going to pop off. I mean ladies, you know you are going to be in a wedding in the near future...hop on the freaking treadmill for 20 minutes a day, and stop eating twinkies. Nothing worse that looking back at photos of your day and seeing your land whale of a friend taking up half the frame.

    The rest I can deal with. Cash Bars are fine, as long as there is booze. I can afford it, I dont care if I am paying here or at a bar for the night. Regardless, booze is being served to me.
    Food? Who cares. I am not here for a great meal. I am here to have fun with my friends. If I wanted a good meal, I would go to a nice restaurant.

    Lets remember that someone elses wedding is not about you. Its about what they want. If you dont like it, stay home...just make sure to keep the fat chicks home with you and out of the pictures...please!
     
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    Wow. So many options - where to start?

    1. I knew someone a few years ago who agreed to be in a wedding - and was only later informed that it was on New Year's Eve, with the bride and groom departing at 11:30. Way to ruin the holiday.

    2. I think the garter toss is unbelievably tacky. The bouquet toss is only insulting.

    3. I've never been to a wedding where I had to dance for a centerpiece - thank god. I would have gone to have a cigarette.

    4. One of my friends wanted to have a pot luck wedding reception. Thank god her husband talked her out of it.

    5. I understand that you want to share your happiness with the people closest to you, but I've been invited to weddings where I didn't know a single person there other than the bride and my guest. Ok, it was nice to get a free dinner, but - otherwise, it was really weird.

    6. Prior to the wedding, do not complain so very much about cost that, when I get there, I feel guilty for not eating every bite of the $75 prime rib. Your guests should never know what the meal costs - especially if they aren't related to you.

    7. If you have multiple children, and one of them is getting married, do not completely ignore the others for a year and a half (Yes, Mom, I'm talking to you!).

    I could go on, but I won't.
     
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    Oh, one more:

    I don't like it when its a buffet - but you are served by the staff. It feels like a bad combination of a soup kitchen and weight watchers!


     
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    [Quote]I have a question - since some of you seem to hate weddings so much, then why bother going? If you have a million pet peeves, then why bother spending money and time to go?[/Quote]

    It doesn't cost any money, as long as I can wear something I already own. Unfortunately, when the bride is your sister, it's very difficult to say "I hate weddings, I'm not going." And I have a lot of sisters.
     
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    [Quote]
    You know- if you go out West or to the Midewest or down South- cash bar is NORMAL.
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    That's not true. I grew up in California (not in LA). I have been to two zillion weddings there - the only time I saw a cash bar was at a shotgun wedding in Nevada, thrown together on about three days notice. I suspect that the only reason for the cash bar was that the bride was upset she wasn't allowed to drink.

    And no, my friends and family aren't all extremely wealthy.
     
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    Another viewpoint on the cash bar thing: for our wedding, we supplied ONE carafe of wine per table, and as much soda & water as folks wanted, but if they wanted additional wine or anything else alcoholic, they had to go down to the hotel bar for it -- we didn't even have a bar in the room with us. Tacky? maybe so, but there are several AA members in my family, and I didn't want to make alcohol widely available. Nobody missed the additional alcohol except one table of friends, and they just quietly ordered up (and paid for) an additional bottle of wine through the waitstaff.

    My only real peeve is one that's already been mentioned -- cake smooshing. I even remember seeing one bride in tears because the groom did that to her unexpectedly. The mother of the bride was surprised by this because she thought cake smooshing was "traditional".
     
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    ANYONE WHO SHOWS UP IN JEANS OR SNEAKERS!!!!!! Seriously, what kind of low life are you? I

     
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    I don't particularly have a preference on cash bar or not but I'm going to have to strongly disagree with the argument that couples usually do it because they don't have enough money for an open bar.

    First - open bars can be tailored to different budgets. If your reception venue doesn't offer you options up front then ask - many will do beer and wine only, open bar for a few hours, open bar for a few pre-selected cocktails, etc.

    Second - I am happy for the couple and excited to be with them on their special day but for anyone getting married to complain about the cost of my plate of food - get over yourself because you chose the menu. Oftentimes the children's chicken finger plates look better than the overdone fish in unpronounceable sauce you offered me.

    Third - I have yet to attend a wedding that didn't cost me several hundred dollars as a guest. Between the engagement party gift, shower gift, wedding gift, hotel/travel costs, bachelorette party outing I have spent a lot of money on other people's weddings. (That's not even being in the wedding, in which case tack on a few extra hundred for dress, shoes, hair and makeup, increased gift expectations, etc.)

    Wedding costs have gotten out of control but when you're getting married remember you're the one making the choice about what you want to spend. No one but you is going to notice what color the bow on the chair covers is.
     
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    [Quote]My peeve is that all weddings are the same. Most people are so caught up in tradition that all they change is one thing here or there -- outdoor instead of indoor, beef instead of chicken, dj instead of band ... where's the originality? [/Quote]

    It's not a contest to see who can come up with the most original/unique wedding. I'm just looking forward to spending the day with all of our closest friends and family all in the same place at the same time. That's what makes it memorable, not some lame theme that "reflects the bride and groom's individuality." If you're not happy just to go witness their joy, then stay home.
     
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    [Quote]I was at an out of town wedding where the ceremony was at noon and the reception at 6. what was I suppose to do during that gap?[/Quote]

    That's just ridiculous unless "out of town" is Vegas. I had a couple of hours gap in Lake Tahoe once - we all went to a casino, got free drinks, then headed up to the groom's parents room for the reception pre-party. Anywhere else, it's just rude to ask your guests to sit around in formalwear for several hours.
     
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    My pet peeve? Pretty much the entire scripted reception. They are all exactly the same. Goofy DJ, then comes the introduction with that disco song playing in the background. Oooh, aren't those toasts by the Maid of Honor and the Best Man soo funny! Clink clink clink clink... hey they kissed! Let's do it every 3 minutes! Bring out mom & dad for the first dance. Oh, I love "Unchained Melody!" Clink clink clink! Uh oh, let's single out all the single people! Ladies, time to fight for that bouquet! Time for the garter belt! Now guys, come on out... guys... guys... GET OUT HERE! Whoever's feet are the closest to where it lands on the ground has to humiliate himself! Clink clink clink! Hey, it's cake cutting time! I wonder if they'll smoosh it. Smoosh it!! Smoosh it!! Yeah!!! Whoah, the dollar dance! I didn't see that coming. Now is the time when we play Frank Sinatra. Now is the time when we play Love Shack. Now is the time when we play the Chicken Dance. Now is the time when I roll my eyes at how frigging generic and scripted these receptions are!!!
     
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    [Quote]There is nothing worse than a bridal party of nothing but severly overweight women all poured into dresses that are so tight, it looks like their heads are going to pop off. I mean ladies, you know you are going to be in a wedding in the near future...hop on the freaking treadmill for 20 minutes a day, and stop eating twinkies. Nothing worse that looking back at photos of your day and seeing your land whale of a friend taking up half the frame.

    The rest I can deal with. Cash Bars are fine, as long as there is booze. I can afford it, I dont care if I am paying here or at a bar for the night. Regardless, booze is being served to me.
    Food? Who cares. I am not here for a great meal. I am here to have fun with my friends. If I wanted a good meal, I would go to a nice restaurant.

    Lets remember that someone elses wedding is not about you. Its about what they want. If you dont like it, stay home...just make sure to keep the fat chicks home with you and out of the pictures...please![/Quote]


    bigone? who says we want to look at fat dudes? we'll have to make sure we leave the fat dudes home and out of the pictures.

    especially if they have huge, disgusting fat beer bellies.
     
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    [Quote]


    bigone? who says we want to look at fat dudes? we'll have to make sure we leave the fat dudes home and out of the pictures.

    especially if they have huge, disgusting fat beer bellies.[/Quote]


    I agree, but I have been subjected to more female heffers in wedding parties then men. There is something about 20-something women that just feel like they can eat like its their job, and then sit up at the head table taking up half the stage in dresses that were made for normal females.
    Don't even get me started on when they jam their oversized hoofs into strappy sandels and the blubber is hanging over the straps like they are stuffing a 5 pound sausage into a 2 pound casing.
    Just wrong...
     
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    [Quote]"* having the reception at a venue with no hotel closer than 20 minutes away, and not providing a shuttle"

    Missy, why is it someone's responsibilty to provide you with transportation? What do you do for a night out? Aren't we all adults who can organize our own transportation? In the scheme of wedding expenses this one is totally unneccesary. My brother and sister -in-law tried to do this and the cheapest quote they got was for a few thousand dollars. Call a cab or designate a driver.

    Now on the large gaps between ceremony I have to toally agree with you. I was at an out of town wedding where the ceremony was at noon and the reception at 6. what was I suppose to do during that gap?[/Quote]

    point i was trying to make boxer is that if there are alot of oot guests, there should be a hotel nearby your venue, otherwise it is nice if a shuttle is provided. Yes, I can take care of myself and drive myself. But at 1am after I have had a few drinks and I am out of town in an area I am not familiar with and do not know my way around, it is nice if the couple provides a shuttle if the nearest hotel is far away. If you have lots of people flying in that now need to rent cars, or are a few hours from their homes, its nice if there is a shuttle or hotel nearby. I didnt say necessary. but nice.
     
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    At the risk of being branded a callous and heartless b*tch... I can kind of see where Bigone is coming from. If you are on the larger side, fine (understand some people have health issues and therefore no control over their weight.... if it is not health related and a result of poor diet + lack of excercise, well, that is just unhealthy... but I digress). Anyway, if you are larger, okay, we get it, but try to dress appropriately. Honestly, on someone with chunk-a-chunk arms and back fat, a strapless corset top or a sheath style dress is never going to look good.

     
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    [Quote]
    At the risk of being branded a callous and heartless b*tch... I can kind of see where Bigone is coming from. If you are on the larger side, fine (understand some people have health issues and therefore no control over their weight.... if it is not health related and a result of poor diet + lack of excercise, well, that is just unhealthy... but I digress). Anyway, if you are larger, okay, we get it, but try to dress appropriately. Honestly, on someone with chunk-a-chunk arms and back fat, a strapless corset top or a sheath style dress is never going to look good.
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    Thank you...I may not be a man of tactful wording, but you get the idea...

     
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    [Quote]Another viewpoint on the cash bar thing: for our wedding, we supplied ONE carafe of wine per table, and as much soda & water as folks wanted, but if they wanted additional wine or anything else alcoholic, they had to go down to the hotel bar for it -- we didn't even have a bar in the room with us. Tacky? .[/Quote]

    Tacky? - not at all! Please do not confuse the idea of hosting your guests with one of your guests telling you what to serve.

    You made a decision on what to serve and then offered it with grace. Nothing tacky about that at all.

    Please understand, the basic premise to the cash or hosted bar question is this: Shall a host offer his or her guests libations at the guests' own cost? Or, on a bigger scale, should a host ever charge his or her guests for refreshment? In general - no, he or she should not. If one offers alchoholic beverages at a hosted event, such as a wedding reception, one should offer them - not sell them.

    You did not charge your guests, and your wedding was, I assume, quite lovely.
     
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    [Quote]
    And you may not be able to control if your friends are fat or not, but you can control if they are in your wedding party and on display for everyone to see. Just dont ask them to be involved.
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    I can't imagine telling my best friend of the past 11 years that she is too fat to be in my wedding. Besides - it's all relative. Perhaps "fat and disgusting" to you is beautiful to me.

    With that sad, I've never been able to figure out why brides go out of their way to put the bridesmaids in unflattering dresses. There are certain shades of orange that simply don't look good on white women. It's simply cruel to make all your friends put one on.

    Question: Going back to the cash bar conversation, someone suggested to me a ticket system - i.e., all guests get tickets good for, say, two drinks, then have to pay cash for the rest. Theoretically, non-drinkers can share their tickets with others. How do people feel about that?
     
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    [Quote]

    I can't imagine telling my best friend of the past 11 years that she is too fat to be in my wedding. Besides - it's all relative. Perhaps "fat and disgusting" to you is beautiful to me.

    With that sad, I've never been able to figure out why brides go out of their way to put the bridesmaids in unflattering dresses. There are certain shades of orange that simply don't look good on white women. It's simply cruel to make all your friends put one on.

    Question: Going back to the cash bar conversation, someone suggested to me a ticket system - i.e., all guests get tickets good for, say, two drinks, then have to pay cash for the rest. Theoretically, non-drinkers can share their tickets with others. How do people feel about that?[/Quote]


    I think the "unflattering BM dress" question needs to be addressed w/the wedding dress industry, in general. each & every dress i've had to wear has been disgusting and did nothing but rot in my closet after the wedding until I decided to donate all of them to the local salvation army...

    and youre right about coloring. i'm a very fair skinned white woman that dosent look good in alot of colors...orange included.
     
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    [Quote]


    Question: Going back to the cash bar conversation, someone suggested to me a ticket system - i.e., all guests get tickets good for, say, two drinks, then have to pay cash for the rest. Theoretically, non-drinkers can share their tickets with others. How do people feel about that?[/Quote]

    It depends on the formality of your wedding. I think tickets carry the look and feel of a carnival or fund raising raffle, not the look of a formal reception. I wouldn't.
     
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    Can't remember who wrote this but it made me think -

    "Thank you notes?? Who cares? While it's nice to be appreciated for your gift, why make it about "you'. If you gave a gift with the expectation of getting a "thank you", its not really a gift, it's a barter (you expect something in return)? I do send thank you notes as it is a show of class and appreciation, but if I didn't receive one, I wouldn't be offended. "

    I do like a response on a gift to know it was received and esp. if I took a lot of time thinking about what I gave to know whether my thinking had been right on target. But this is a valid point.

    I can't stand it when the bride and groom aren't enjoying themselves. There's a difference between being nervous at the ceremony and being hateful at the reception cuz something didn't go your way. Then guests feel guilty about having a good time

    Not a happy camper when someone seats all friends at separate tables in misguided attempt to make them meet new people, when they really were looking forward to reconnecting with some of their friends and relatives.

    I was raised that a party means being a host and offering food and drink. However I wouldn't mind if I paid for a drink at someone else's wedding. Though I nevere really have had to.

    Garter search and destroy creeps me out big time. And I wasn't going to do a bouquet toss, but the legions of jr bridesmaids kept asking me to so I did to make them happy. 13 yo niece caught it....again thankful we never considered a garter toss.

    Not enough food would also be an issue, though one I haven't experienced.

    This post reminds me of the old b.com - keep up the snarky...
     

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