Blind date tales
posted at 1/15/2008 12:29 PM EST
I have been divorced for 11 years and was busy soley raising my daughter until a year and half ago I decided it was time to start dating. "Where do you start?" At my age, there aren't many options meeting people unless you have a list of endless friends that can introduce you to someone. Or, at the workplace, but everyone your age is already in a comfortable long time relationship, or married.
So, I took advise from one of my daughter's college friends and signed up on Match......"ohhhhhh, what a big mistake!" It was very depressing as it was my first look at what was going on out there in the changing world when it comes to honesty, respect, responsibility, etc. I didn't have any problem getting a zillion responses, however every person I did end up meeting WAS NOT looking for a long-term (never mind manogomous) relationship, even though they indicated so during a few phone conversations. And, the first date was mostly a quick coffee..."let's do it in the parking lot", or, "do you own a house?", if so, let's get married! Thinking the "other" dating service was any better turned out much the same.
It wasn't so much as whether or not the men I met were "never married", nor was it because they were at the tail end of a previously gone sour relationship. What I found with all the dates I went on was ALL had health issues (i.e. alcholism, diabetes, cancer, emphasema). These men ranged from 38 to 54 years old!!!! What happen to keeping in shape since we are more educated than our parents were.
I'm keeping optimistic, but I think I'm going to wait until the right person comes along rather than speeding up the process!