posted at 10/23/2011 8:11 PM EDT
In Response to Re: Books
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Books : You sound like a very polite man, RT. Good manners always win points with me. He doesn't have to be Emily Post (Lord Knows, I'm not), but some semblance of refinement (without snobbery) helps. In what instances aren't women saying "Thank you," RT? I have a pet peeve when I say "thank you" for store assistance, and the clerk says "no problem." But that's not dating.
Posted by reindeergirl[/QUOTE]
Ok, a little insight into my failed marriage.
First and foremost, I AM NOT PERFECT! never claimed to be, and never will.
- When my wife was prego's with our first child she had complications - I was at her side for every DR visit holding her hand and asking questions.
- When the children where born I rolled up my sleeves changed diapers, baths and getting them dressed. I have been puked on, peed on, and pooped on and would gladly do it all over again! This is called - being a parent!
- there where no "sexist roles" in our house - I mopped the floor, vacuumed, laundry, cooked and shopped among other things.
- I coordinated a babysitter for a night out with the Misses, I also arranged trips for us.....
...at the end of the day a simple "thank you" would have felt great. Unfortunately I was married to my wife and her three sisters - B*t*h, P*ss and Moan!
I hate being taken for granted. I did what I did, not for "kudos" but, because I felt as a husband I was obligated to pull my weight. The ex was a score keeper!
I'll never forget she rattled off a list of what I did and didn't do over the weekend - my punishment? No sex...
While this phrase has no meaning here in Massachusetts courts, I was the victim of "constructive abandonment". So, when she filed for - separation with support - I pulled the trigger on the divorce!
I'm older and wiser now but, those two words mean a lot to me.