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    [QUOTE]Jewish toolbox = free labor
    Posted by Corporate-Hippie-Chick[/QUOTE]


    Wow.

    Jewish women want free labor? Never heard of that.
     
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    [QUOTE]That was funny, RT. But what's a Jewish toolbox? I'm half Jewish, never heard of it. Was Snyder on that show supposed to be Jewish? It was the midwest, which has a lot of Germans. I thought he was a midwesterner of German descent. "Break out the Jewish Toolbox!" It sounds funny, though.
    Posted by reindeergirl[/QUOTE]

    You don't know what a Jewish Toolbox" is?......the Yellow Pages! Wink
     
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    I read - yah, what? comics? Playboy? Boys Life?

    I'm fine with all that. As long as he digs the Bard's work or some other from the classics. Or the Classics. I myself am a big fan of Sophocles, particularly Oedipus at Colonus. I have a (male) friend who worships Emily Dickinson. When he was seeking a mate, she had to dig ED, too. He met his mate, the mate loved ED, they've now been married a couple of years. They have many other interests, but ED was a hard limit.

    I don't care if a guy looks at porn. As long as it's consenual on the part of the person being photographed. As long as the man knows that *I'm* the woman in his life, his real life.

    I have a huge collection of "Thor" comics from childhood. In fact, comics are an assist in learning a foreign language.
     
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    [QUOTE]That was funny, RT. But what's a Jewish toolbox? I'm half Jewish, never heard of it. Was Snyder on that show supposed to be Jewish? It was the midwest, which has a lot of Germans. I thought he was a midwesterner of German descent. "Break out the Jewish Toolbox!" It sounds funny, though.
    Posted by reindeergirl[/QUOTE]

    Snyder, from "One Day at a Time" with Philips & Valerie Bertinelli....Wink
     
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Books : Snyder, from "One Day at a Time" with Philips & Valerie Bertinelli....
    Posted by RogerTaylor[/QUOTE]

    Are you in my generation? That's a very mid-70s reference. Smile
     
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    [QUOTE]I read - yah, what? comics? Playboy? Boys Life? I'm fine with all that. As long as he digs the Bard's work or some other from the classics. Or the Classics. I myself am a big fan of Sophocles, particularly Oedipus at Colonus . I have a (male) friend who worships Emily Dickinson. When he was seeking a mate, she had to dig ED, too. He met his mate, the mate loved ED, they've now been married a couple of years. They have many other interests, but ED was a hard limit. I don't care if a guy looks at porn. As long as it's consenual on the part of the person being photographed. As long as the man knows that *I'm* the woman in his life, his real life. I have a huge collection of "Thor" comics from childhood. In fact, comics are an assist in learning a foreign language.
    Posted by reindeergirl[/QUOTE]

    I tried reading Oedipus...it gave me a complex!

    You sound like a cool chick RDG! Wink

    My deal breaker for the next date, she has to know the two sexiest words in the English language that drives a man crazy and longing for more -
    NO EXCEPTIONS!
     
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Books : Great story, Sandwich....whatever happened with the restaurant guy?
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    We had a few dates.  But then I realized that all our dates were of the "indoor" variety (as a restaurant manager he didn't have much interest in going out to eat for instance), and I kind of phased him out of my life.  Interestingly, he was one of the guys who later called me to get together, and I was able to say, "um, well, I can't because I'm engaged."  One of the advantages of getting engaged soon after meeting Mr. Right!  8^)



     
     
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    STD Test

    Ha ha!
     
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    Why, I thank you, RT. Smile I don't know about cool, but I have my own style and ways. CHC is pretty cool, too!

     
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Books : We had a few dates.  But then I realized that all our dates were of the "indoor" variety (as a restaurant manager he didn't have much interest in going out to eat for instance), and I kind of phased him out of my life.  Interestingly, he was one of the guys who later called me to get together, and I was able to say, "um, well, I can't because I'm engaged."  One of the advantages of getting engaged soon after meeting Mr. Right!  8^)  
    Posted by EnjoyEverySandwich[/QUOTE]

    Great story, EES.

    My pastry chef friend says no-one ever makes sweets for him, they assume that he'll want to handle that part of a dinner or dinner party (which he doesn't; after a day of pushing frosting starting at 3am, he likes to try something else).
     
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    [QUOTE]RDG gives good chat.  It's all that literature she read over the years
    Posted by Corporate-Hippie-Chick[/QUOTE]

    You're sweet. You give good chat too, CHC.
     
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    My deal breaker for the next date, she has to know the two sexiest words in the English language that drives a man crazy and longing for more -
    NO EXCEPTIONS!
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    This is going to keep me awake tonight, trying to figure it out in my obtuse brain. But I'm sure it's not "F* me" or "Don't stop."
     
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    [QUOTE]Let's turn this thread in a positive direction.  What makes you respond to an online ad? For me, it's someone cute, clearly comfortable in his own skin, and good writing skills.
    Posted by Corporate-Hippie-Chick[/QUOTE]

    Variety of pics, and the date stamp on the pics...funny when somebody posts a pic with a date stamp of 2-12-1989 in 2011...lol...I'm looking for a date stamp of 2010/2011

    An articulate profile, the longer the better. I also like to see where the kids come into the profile.  I want to be with someone who puts the children first! not at the bottom of the profile like..."oh yeah! I have two kids 12 and 16..blah, blah, blah

    I actually drilled down who I was looking for and where I was looking to travel on Match.com - 0 matches!

    Embarassed
     
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    [QUOTE]My deal breaker for the next date, she has to know the two sexiest words in the English language that drives a man crazy and longing for more - NO EXCEPTIONS! ---- This is going to keep me awake tonight, trying to figure it out in my obtuse brain. But I'm sure it's not "F* me" or "Don't stop."
    Posted by reindeergirl[/QUOTE]


    "Thank you!"
     
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    [QUOTE]RDG gives good chat.  It's all that literature she read over the years
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    My ex-wife gave great head ache!Wink
     
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Books : "Thank you!"
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    You sound like a very polite man, RT.

    Good manners always win points with me. He doesn't have to be Emily Post (Lord Knows, I'm not), but some semblance of refinement (without snobbery) helps.

    In what instances aren't women saying "Thank you," RT? I have a pet peeve when I say "thank you" for store assistance, and the clerk says "no problem." But that's not dating.
     
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    [QUOTE]In all my bad date experiences, I only had 1 guy who misrepresented what he looked like.  
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    I don't think I ever did (except for the guys who didn't post pics, and wouldn't send them, telling me to wait until we met).
     
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Books : You sound like a very polite man, RT. Good manners always win points with me. He doesn't have to be Emily Post (Lord Knows, I'm not), but some semblance of refinement (without snobbery) helps. In what instances aren't women saying "Thank you," RT? I have a pet peeve when I say "thank you" for store assistance, and the clerk says "no problem." But that's not dating.
    Posted by reindeergirl[/QUOTE]

    Ok, a little insight into my failed marriage.

    First and foremost, I AM NOT PERFECT! never claimed to be, and never will.

    - When my wife was prego's with our first child she had complications - I was at her side for every DR visit holding her hand and asking questions.
    - When the children where born I rolled up my sleeves changed diapers, baths and getting them dressed. I have been puked on, peed on, and pooped on and would gladly do it all over again! This is called - being a parent!
    - there where no "sexist roles" in our house - I mopped the floor, vacuumed, laundry, cooked and shopped among other things.
    - I coordinated a babysitter for a night out with the Misses, I also arranged trips for us.....

    ...at the end of the day a simple "thank you" would have felt great.  Unfortunately I was married to my wife and her three sisters - B*t*h, P*ss and Moan!

    I hate being taken for granted. I did what I did, not for "kudos" but, because I felt as a husband I was obligated to pull my weight. The ex was a score keeper!

    I'll never forget she rattled off a list of what I did and didn't do over the weekend - my punishment? No sex...

    While this phrase has no meaning here in Massachusetts courts, I was the victim of "constructive abandonment". So, when she filed for - separation with support - I pulled the trigger on the divorce!

    I'm older and wiser now but, those two words mean a lot to me.

    Thank you..........

    Laughing

     
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    I'll never forget she rattled off a list of what I did and didn't do over the weekend - my punishment? No sex...
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    That's terrible! Sex is part of marriage. And while I feel it shouldn't be forced (yes, that's rape - I'll leave the BDSM consensual stuff aside in this post, a whole 'nother ball game), I feel that to deny your life's partner, your best friend, is nothing short of cruelty. Constructive abandonment, indeed! (But doesn't constructive abandonment open up a legal can of worms? I'm playing devil's advocate.)

    Besides, sex is life. Not to have it, to deny it to both one's partner and one's self, is to die a bit. I love sex, but alcoholism (my ex) can kinda ruin that in a man.

    My ex called childcare "babysitting." It wasn't! It was called being a father. To this day, 12 years after he walked out, he and his brother call visits with the fawn "babysitting."

    My husband was a big PITA in the delivery room. I wanted him out of there and back home walking our dog. But there were complications with our birth, too. If it hadn't been for then-DH making a decision when I was too out of it to do so ... well, he probably saved two lives. I thanked him for that, and still do. He's problematic in other ways, but he saved us. To this day, I whisper, "Thank you."

    You sound like a great Dad, RT! And a fine husband you were, as well. Any woman worth her salt would want you.
     
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    Constructive abandonment, indeed! (But doesn't constructive abandonment open up a legal can of worms? I'm playing devil's advocate.) - only in New York.

    Massachusetts is a "no-fault" state for divorce.

    Despite overwhelming support to adopt a no-fault or irreconcilable grounds for divorce, New York remains the only state in which a party must allege and prove marital fault in order to obtain a divorce.

    By far, the most common fault based ground for divorce in New York is constructive abandonment. In the recent case of Mehl v. Mehl, the Appellate Division defined the elements of this ground for divorce.

    It is well settled that to establish a cause of action for a divorce on the ground of constructive abandonment, the spouse who claims to have been constructively abandoned must prove that the abandoning spouse unjustifiably refused to fulfill the basic obligations arising from the marriage contract and that the abandonment continued for at least one year.


    “Basic obligations arising from the marriage” is legalese for sexual relations.

    In order to rise to the level of constructive abandonment, the refusal to engage in intercourse must be "unjustified, willful, and continued, despite repeated requests from the other spouse for resumption of cohabitation'"

    Further, as the Mehl case illustrates, the person seeking the divorce cannot be the party who refused to have sex.

    and No..........I never cheated.
     

     

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