Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/9/2011 4:55 PM EST
- JEnvie
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Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?:
In Response to Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy? : Boy, stop the angst and get on board the Cosmo train. All of this second guessing is solved with eye contact and a healthy "what's this all about?" chat. A long pause to answer or the dreaded look away means split the books and LP's up and move on.
Posted by Bubs06
lps? what century are you living in dinosaur?
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/10/2011 11:53 AM EST
LPs keep kids safe. They are the only recordings you can listen to backwards to check for satanic messages. Fact: statistics indicate that just under 73% of hip hop and heavy metal songs contain such messages, often without the performers' knowledge. The Deceiver has made significant inroads of evil into the big record labels, and those labels are out to corrupt our children. Do not buy CDs or especially, MP3s, as these are the devil's mouthpiece. And you will not know your children have fallen into Lucifer's clutches until they begin masturbating furiously, piercing their bodies, and dressing like sodomites.
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/10/2011 1:37 PM EST
- trublusu
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Maybe he is on an online dating site to stroke his ego.....it makes him feel more attractive if other women besides Cambridge are interested. I think many men and women who are online are not really serious about dating....just fishing for compliments.
Another thing - if she will be spending 2 weeks a month with him in the new city....why doesn't she just move there?....You would think if he was serious about her he would have asked her to move with him.
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/10/2011 3:09 PM EST
- Bubs06
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In Response to Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy? : lps? what century are you living in dinosaur?
Posted by JEnvie
Gee, JE, kind of harsh aren't we? So what happened here? Conclusion? Fight? Breakup? Marriage? CTRL-ALT-DEL the guy? (Oops, Triassic types don't use such terms) :-)
You wouldn't be a Jet fan would you?
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/10/2011 4:36 PM EST
SOUNDS TO ME LIKE HES A LITTLE TO PERFECT!! WATCH OUT FOR HIM!! NO MAN GIVES GIFTS UNLESS THEY HAVE TO OR THEY MESSED UP!
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/10/2011 6:34 PM EST
- plasko
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SOUNDS TO ME LIKE HES A LITTLE TO PERFECT!! WATCH OUT FOR HIM!! NO MAN GIVES GIFTS UNLESS THEY HAVE TO OR THEY MESSED UP!
Posted by huntersmama72
Or they feel guilty for cheating, and are trying to appease their guilt.
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/11/2011 7:38 AM EST
- JEnvie
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In Response to Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy? : Or they feel guilty for cheating, and are trying to appease their guilt.
Posted by plasko
thats what the poster alluded to in their last sentence
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/11/2011 8:23 AM EST
- plasko
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In Response to Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy? : thats what the poster alluded to in their last sentence
Posted by JEnvie
Oh, I had assumed "messed up" implied a mistake, rather than something done intentionally like sneaking round behind gfs back for a bit of slap-and-tickle.
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/11/2011 8:50 AM EST
- kargiver
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Indeed, cheating is never a mistake, an unpurposeful act. It's always purposeful, but people confuse that all the time. Even in an apology, "I'm sorry I made a mistake by cheating," is a lie. The truth would be, "I am sorry I purposefully went behind your back and outside our exclusive relationship to have sex with someone else." Now, that's an apology for what actually happened.
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/11/2011 10:46 AM EST
- Frasky
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It doesn't matter if she confronts him. Doesn't matter what he says when she confronts him. She will never know if his response is the truth or not. The fact is, she will never trust him now. Best to get out.
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/11/2011 3:13 PM EST
- calmdown
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Aries, are you ready for the storm?
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/12/2011 11:06 AM EST
- Bubs06
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This is the OP. Yes, I finally confronted him and he lied through his teeth. He told me that his ex-GF, who is a bit of a psycho, created the profile to try and get him in trouble. I know what he uses for a password so I logged into the account and found that, although he had not emailed anyone, he had saved a number of profiles. I also saw that he paid for the account with his credit card. When I mentioned that someone paid for the account and asked to see his credit card, which of course matched, he said that she must also have access to his credit card. It was a little unbelievable that he was stupid enough to just keep lying. He acted all mad at his ex for trying to trap him and said that he was hurt that I believed he would do something like that. I am a little bit amazed that he thinks I am dumb enough to believe it all. I am totally out. I am very angry and of course feeling quite revengeful at the moment. Any ideas?
Posted by CambridgeGrl2
Well young lady, sorry you have to go through this but remember that while a person can change most everything about themselves, stupid is forever. Really stupid is incurable.
And this guy's brain is neither right nor left side. It is further south and middle.
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/12/2011 11:28 AM EST
- ALF72
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Why would you waste another minute on this guy? Schedule a hair appointment, massage or facial, or all of the above. Get all pretty and shiny and then go out w/ friends. Forget about the doofus.
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/12/2011 4:34 PM EST
- ariesgirl
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Aries, are you ready for the storm?
Posted by calmdown
Yes Calm, I have my box of wine, scented candles, fried chicken in a bucket and Barry White on the CD player. Only thing missing is you. And the snowplow.
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/12/2011 4:37 PM EST
- ariesgirl
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Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?:
In Response to Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy? : Well young lady, sorry you have to go through this but remember that while a person can change most everything about themselves, stupid is forever. Really stupid is incurable. And this guy's brain is neither right nor left side. It is further south and middle.
Posted by Bubs06
Good call Bubs, don't need a GPS to find that location! He must be the brother or distant relative of a few of the men I have dated!
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/13/2011 9:14 AM EST
I'm a natural skeptic, and the OP's description of events no longer adds up. Mister Wonderful turned into the World's Worst Liar awfully quick. Too quick. He also seems far too bad at lying to have really pulled the wool over the OP's eyes for many months. And now she's soliciting revenge advice?
This all sent me looking at the OP's history. Her very first post under her current handle has yet a third description of the early days of Mister Wonderful. There are three sides to every story. Seems to me that version 1.0 might be the closest to the actual truth:
http://www.boston.com/community/forums.html?plckForumPage=ForumDiscussion&plckDiscussionId=Cat%3aLifestyleForum%3a9664Discussion%3afcbac3eb-2f33-4910-8cf3-e258ded89ccaFor those who don't want to follow that link, Mr W seems to have made it abundantly clear that he wanted to date multiple people. And the OP was having trouble accepting this. And, oh yeah, she was spying on him way back then ("of course I had to go look"). One wonders if there really was "a friend" in this other city filling the OP in with the current events, or if she's just trying to make her self look better in this telling. But all of this is understandable and more or less normal.
However, she apparently didn't take any of the consensus advice from her friends or anonymous Internet Shrinks back then, so no reason to think she will now. But on the odd chance she does listen for a change:
The Guy can't give you what you require, he never promised to even try, rather he told you where he was coming from. You chose to dream up an alternate reality that you liked better, and now it's falling apart. Time to drop it and move on.
-Signed, Just a Guy.
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/13/2011 12:50 PM EST
If I could "like" Alf's post, I would. Stop wasting time on this guy, even for revenge. Take the classy road and forget about revenge. Do something fun for yourself.
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/15/2011 1:00 PM EST
Gotta agree with Slim. Some people tend to use forums like this as a writing exercise to see who they can get to beleive their stories.
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/17/2011 12:12 PM EST
Hmmm, was it something I said? The OP has pulled up stakes. Was she a troll, or just a drama queen?
Re: Is he a cheater or just a guy?
posted at 1/30/2011 3:34 PM EST
- catnmouse
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