Re: Plasko's observation triggered a thought
posted at 10/27/2011 2:46 PM EDT
In Response to Re: Plasko's observation triggered a thought
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Plasko's observation triggered a thought : Thank-you. But you are correct. I do like to be confrontational and to the point, but hopefully in a polite manner (but not always, I fully admit). I'd rather make people question themselves than others. Self-exploration is great fun. And deep+meaningful discussions are something I lack outside of the internet, currently. (Perhaps we should set up a "philosophy" Forum on BDC?). As for the jumping-to-conclusions part, well I am no different than every other poster who makes their own conclusions based upon their own biases (including yourself, you said "it feels good" to help so you are getting some sort of "kick" out of it, like everyone else), and interprets the presented evidence in their own way. But its the self-exploration that should make us aware of these biases that we can then compensate for. If people are previously hurt in a very bad relationship, perhaps they will always remember that pain, and try to steer others from repeating their own mistakes? Its coming from a good place inside of them, to try and save others heartache. Sadly, this means that a lot of times its a knee-jerk reaction to cajole posters to push that "Relationship Destruct" button at the first sign of trouble, like we are some sort of relationship jury. However, we cant walk in the shoes of others, and every situation is different. All I am saying is that we consider the consequences first before telling someone to make a life-changing decision. People are not objects to be discarded on a whim.
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If one is as "emotionally plyable" as you suggest based on advice columns, they have far greater issues than what to do with the advice offered via on line posts.
We all have "filters" that disseminate the information provided to us. I see the bias in Fox News, NBC and ABC - do I buy into it? No, I take the bits of info and subtract the "bias".
Ever been on a job interview? When you convey your successes from previous employment and boast on your resume about what you did, the potential employer perceives past experience to be indicative of future performance. Same with a pro athlete right? based on last years stats this years stats "should" be xxx. Or the athlete is worth $x based on performance.
So, if a poster says "he/she cheated on me! What should I do?" I can see the knee jerk reaction and telling them to push the "button!" but, I wouldn't think that every response comes from someone who's been cheated on. I think the on line posters come from all sorts of socio-economic backgrounds and life experiences, cultures, morals, values and religious backgrounds and I'm certain those characteristics play a role in their posts too.
BTW: I've enjoyed some of your posts in response to my questions here! It was like a smack upside my head that forced me to "think" in a way I wasn't accustomed to! And for that I Thank you!