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    [Quote]no doors, i work in a cube. I suppose I should have said I did a happy dance in my cubical chair then.[/Quote]

    even funnier. entertaining your cube-mates!
     
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    How did I miss this one?! I miss those guys, too.

    Brighton1 and others planning, we're here for ya, Baby! :) There are some great gals with a lot of wisdom still here.

    That's what happened to Ridley? That stinks. I'd have said another word, but...

    Love to you all, friends. Happy 2009!!

    ETA: By the way, I always misread helphelp as being Help Help I'm being Pressed. I missed the "re"! I thought she was feeling pressured by wedding planning! Oops. :)
     
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    just found this and laughed my xxx off ......

    Oh my!!  I keep forgetting, AuntBeth doesn't use vulgar language....

    I laughed quite hard.  :)
     
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         While it is up,  I have seen many old time posters since I have been back,  but nothing about Ralphluv and Millie.   Anyone know anything about them?
     
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    I got an email from ralphie not too long ago.  She's fine, but I do miss her humor here.  And GC1013's too!  I hope that some of the oldies who might lurk but don't write in will just say "hi".

    Miss Lily just had her twins, and 2BWEDN07 had baby Grace a few weeks ago to keep Jacob company.  There are some of the old gang on the TTC/Pregnancy boards but being post-menopausal, I don't have a lot to contribute ha ha.

    There are so many old timers I miss, but especially clm77, CT.DC, and Laryan and Belle918.  Where the heck are you, Lary?  I'm afraid if I start naming more names, I'll forget others.  (Brain cramp released, and I was able to remember Belle's name!) 

    Anyway, just hope some of you (and you know who you are) stop in and say hi, even for a sec. 
     
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    Just popping in to say hi. I enjoyed being a part of the wedding boards when I was engaged and have good memories of all my old friends on here. :-)
     
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    HI!!!!  hey, stick around!! it's like a cyber-reunion!!!! 

     
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    Home again, home again jiggity jig!   A little bird told me this post was up. 

    I have missed you!

    My little barbarian at the gate, left,  just had his sixteen month birthday the other day,  and honored us with his very first words -  My pool.
    Words to gladden mommie and daddy's heart.  His sister's first word, at 11 months,  was Kiki.  The dog.  When she says my Kiki, it starts a squabble, son will pull dog away, and hug it.
    Reminded me of the single minded way so many brides used to claim their venues,  color schemes, songs and an entire year sometimes, and raise a ruckus if anyone else thought they had rights to use them.   A quick read says they still do.
    At my twins' age, it is perfectly age appropriate.  Sad commentary on some of the brides, though.   For their birthday, they each got a copy of Goodnight Moon, and Mine!  athey do not get why the classic Mine! makes the adults laugh.

    Not a lot of news.
    How I spent my summer vacation:

      We have not had quite as many rainy days as Boston, but had loads 10 degrees or more below normal.  One good thing about finishing the main structural work to our renovations but not yet being able to afford to furnish several rooms is that there is plenty of space for the twins and my sisters twins, also a boy and girl 18 1/2 months.   For over a month we had the 6 inch deep kiddie pool set up in the sunroom, filled with four inches of water.  It has a tile floor, a couple of cushions to rest our butts, and hammocks.  Nothing else, so a 12 foot flexi-pool is our summer indoor pool.
    mother_pool.jpgMy sister and husband and kids now rent our extra space in the addition, since BIL has to be away working 15 days a month.  In the outdoor pool at my parents in Maine.  That whole lake at the doorstep has been too cold for the little ones, around 68, until the warm 2 weeks recently when it shot up to 77.


    A day in the life of a Mommie.  I put down a bag of groceries on the porch, nothing kids or dogs could get into.  I thought.  Minutes later I heard this splat, splat noise.
     While I was changing J not ten feet away, through the inner screen door, son opened a 5 pound bag of sugar, tipped it spread it, mixed in milk from his sippy cup, and was throwing handfuls of wet sugar at the wall, left.I was just following son G in to get a dustpan and brush when DH came in, said not a word, and reached for the camera.  Big smile.
    At 16 months, our daughter J weighs 22 pounds,  dead on for her age.  Son G is 31, not an ounce of fat though he eats and eats.  Big boy for his age.  I make 6 meals a day, 2 just for my son.  Otherwise he gets so hungry, he can't eat enough to fill up until the next meal.  I'm just beginning to have time to read on-line again.  I miss you ladies.

    Feature of the day: Aren't camera phones great? 
    Auntie Wag takes my 2 over her side of the house15-20 hours a week,  and often my sister's twins too, so we get a break.   For the very first time in the 10 months my sister has been our tenant, Wag and I went out and stuck Sis with the fearsome 4.   With grampa's help.

    Usually you have to drag Waggie ou shopping for clothes for her.  But ever since a new crew of exercise people and dieticians started at the Rehab and sports medicine place where my husband and Wag work, they constantly rag her,  because she eats every couple of hours.  Also, since she bends over patients real up close and personal while doing PT, she wears loose shirts and smocks, none of this spandex stuff . 
    So this weekend when they all come over for a party, Waggie is going to end all their fat jokes and diet tips once and for all. These bit!!!s do not realize it took her a year to gain back the weight she lost while sick, well over 30 pounds, and stay there since April.  Diet tips my ASSA, my DH says she just smiles or says something sassy and walks away,  but it has to hurt.  I remember how hurt I felt when I was hugely pg and people made all these rude comments.  How will you ever lose all that weight?   Are you eating for two, or for 6?  stranger thought these were jokes.  Meanwhile, minus the winter maternity clothes you could count my ribs, I could not eat enough to keep up with baby growth.  People made me go home and cry.
    Think this'll shut them up?
      I should take all my pictures in gray Melamine dressing rooms.  The perfect colorless setting .  Usually I take the worst pictures, always a kid's head or a bush growing out of someone's shoulder.
    I'll stop in again soon.  Took a while to find Help Help, and I swear 2 people are old poster's under new names, who have shed their wedding focus screen names.  But nice to see familiar ones. 
    Oh, time to go.  Wag's coming up from the boat house with my 2 in arms.  Time for supper.  Bye now.   Sarabeth

     
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    they're beautiful kids sarah :-). thanks for checking in and sharing with us.
     
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    Hey, Sarahbth, loved your post!  Thanks for all the great photos and laughs.  Loved the sugar splat story.  Can't relate yet, but we're working on it.  Right now, we're practicing with a puppy.

    Best,
    ~kar
     
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    Wow - what a great post!!

    Hello to everyone. 
     
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    Mmmm, started posting, but it disappeared.  I'll start again!

    Wow, its old home week here.  So nice to hear some updates.  I always confused Sarahbth and Waggie because of their long posts and interesting tangents! 

    For those who have experienced sadness, I hope this year you find joy.

    Here is my update---My baby is going to be 13 on Saturday and starting 8th grade next Wednesday.  We had her Bat Mitzvah in June (so I am pleased to say all my planning of huge parties is officially at an end...they're on their own for the weddings!) followed by a trip to China.  Really amazing.

    My oldest is 16, has a part time job and will be starting her Jr. year in HS next week.  She is about 2 months away from getting her license, which should be a scary event here.  Parenting a teen is a pretty scary endeavor in general.  Its hard to find the right balance and I feel like I spend all my time giving mixed messages (Don't drink!  But if you do drink, don't drive drunk, call me instead! Or Don't get pregnant!  But if you do, don't be afraid to tell me!).  I do have to say, though, that seeing her at the beginning of everything...thinking about college, boyfriends, etc is so exciting.  Her life is just starting and everything is in front of her.  Warms my heart.

    Let me just say, 2 girls = lots of melodrama.  Everything is conducted at such a dramatic pitch.  Its very hard to sort out what must be taken seriously.  I think its good prep for the wedding boards (or should I say, the wedding boards have been good prep for parenting teenagers!).

    I spent some time over at the Miss Manners board at MSN and finally had to leave.  Things were way too cliquey and crazy for me.  It was very much about making a mountain out of a molehill, not just with the people asking questions, but with the answers (in almost every single post someone suggested therapy, calling CPS, that the boyfriend was a controlling abuser, or the in-laws were totally out of line).  Then there were the people who were seriously mentally ill and needed way more help than a message board  The post that threw me over the edge was a "fake" written by a regular poster who was complaining that his wife was spending too much money. After 600 posts, he fessed up that it was fake, but that he was conducting some kind of experiment to see if he got positive or negative responses.   Everyone was all mad at him, a person none of them had never met--I mean enraged.  I was dissed because I pointed out that most people would probably run in the other direction if they ever met half the posters on the board.  I won't be missed because I was not in the inner circle.

    I found the Wedding channel board in my book marks, which I must have saved when a lot of people from over there went over and so I tried that out this week.  We'll see what happens.  Some of the stuff seems a little "I need some validation" and its hard to validate some of it.  Also, on all these boards, I notice some interesting validation and alliances going on--and some validation of behavior that you know who probably not be validated if it happened to the person doing the validating.

    I am finding it hard to express myself on some of these questions without coming across as an insensitive hardass.  I still have a lot of thoughts about Angel525's post that I am afraid to write because I think they will come out wrong.  I wish I had seen clocktower's original posts because I felt like her thoughts were well intentioned, but directed at the wrong audience.  I continue to wonder if we know the entire story in every post that is written and if we heard the other side, if we would come down so hard on the mother in law, bridesmaid, or friend in question.

    Anyway, those are my thoughts.  Thanks for listening.

     
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    ash - you are many things - but 'hardass' is not one of them!! Be assured!!!

    And what you tried to say?  I agree. 

    and thanks for the update.  Two teenage girls!!  Good luck!! And Have Fun!!!!
     
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    sarahbth....the kids are gorgeous!  I can just picture the crazy goings on at the homestead.  And P.S. your final picture?  Hardly the mother of twins sillouette!!!  Way to go.  Who cares what waggie looks like as long as we still have her with us! 

    rhm, my old friend, good to see your name

    and kargiver, your post could be taken the wrong way....."we're working on it but practicing with a puppy".  I cracked up, although I'm sure you weren't alluding to any beast-ility!  LOL
     
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    [QUOTE]Let me just say, 2 girls = lots of melodrama.  Everything is conducted at such a dramatic pitch.  Its very hard to sort out what must be taken seriously.  Posted by ash[/QUOTE]

    Ash - I am one of four girls (no boys!) and I know exactly what you are talking about.  I feel bad for my mom when I look back.  All of the arguing and screaming and emotional outbursts, stealing each other clothes, fighting over the phone.  My DH is one of three boys, and when they had a disagreement, they would wrestle...I think I would take that over the high pitched arguing.  If we end up having girls, he's in for a surprise!
     
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    [QUOTE]sarahbth....the kids are gorgeous!  I can just picture the crazy goings on at the homestead.  And P.S. your final picture?  Hardly the mother of twins sillouette!!!  Way to go.  Who cares what waggie looks like as long as we still have her with us!  rhm, my old friend, good to see your name and kargiver, your post could be taken the wrong way....."we're working on it but practicing with a puppy".  I cracked up, although I'm sure you weren't alluding to any beast-ility!  LOL
    Posted by cosmogirl[/QUOTE] 
    Cos - That's me in the black tights and top.  I did not know Sarahbth posted it, and the kid will pay for her heinous act.  But she is right about why I chose something uncharacteristicly form fitting.  Usually out with DH and friends, I dress to show off, never at work.  But having work folks party at my house, I am sick of the remarks and do want to thumb my nose at the select few always giving me diet advice,  "for my own good."

    Sarahbth is more petite and slender than I.  No one guesses she had kids 16 months ago. 
    Why don't people mind their own business ?
     
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    I always confused Sarahbth and Waggie because of their long posts and interesting tangents! ...

    followed by a trip to China.  Really amazing. ...

    I spent some time over at the Miss Manners board at MSN and finally had to leave.  Things were way too cliquey and crazy for me.  It was very much about making a mountain out of a molehill, not just with the people asking questions, but with the answers (in almost every single post someone suggested therapy, calling CPS, that the boyfriend was a controlling abuser, or the in-laws were totally out of line).  Then there were the people who were seriously mentally ill and needed way more help than a message board  The post that threw me over the edge was a "fake" written by a regular poster who was complaining that his wife was spending too much money. After 600 posts, he fessed up that it was fake, but that he was conducting some kind of experiment to see if he got positive or negative responses.   Everyone was all mad at him, a person none of them had never met--I mean enraged.  I was dissed because I pointed out that most people would probably run in the other direction if they ever met half the posters on the board.  I won't be missed because I was not in the inner circle.
    Posted by ash[/QUOTE]

         When Sarahbth and I get old we will sit on the porch in our rocking chairs and tell stories like all good NH and Maine folk do.  Oops-  we already do!
         The funny thing is that when we socialize with others, most people consider our husbands, two Northern Italian Tonys (imagine that)  mostly raised in Brooklyn, to be the storytellers.  I guess we met and married our matches.

         How long were you in China?    Was it an escorted tour for tourism, or did you get to do some planning of side trips?  A fascinating history, and so big, so many very different regions.  Tell more, please!

        I lurked a bit and read a lot on the Miss manners board on MSN, having enjoyed the Miss Manners forum on the Post -  Awful.  Cliquey and clueless pretty much sums it up.  I cannot see you there.  Half their knowledge comes from pop psych and the rest from new age crystals.  Life'e experience is something no one has.  If you mentioned it, they would look for it in the tv listings.   You have too much sense to get on there.

         Weddings will come in time.  I heard about the upcoming Bat Mitzvah then was not posting when it happened.  You must be proud,  but oh my, 13 to 16 is a challenge.  When 4 of us were in that age range, my Mom alternately declared that we should all be frozen until we passed the threshold of 20,  then thawed,   or else really enjoyed our liveliness and entering the wide world.  No middle.  I have always thought you would be a well grounded mother.
     
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    I'm totally resurrecting a zombie post now, but I just had to pop in- way way late- and say hello to all the old gang.  What a wonderful, diverse group of women, and what fun we had... I miss you all,  and that time, and truly think of you often!  It's kind of sad to see this board is not thriving like it used to be. Has anyone managed to organize another get together? Please get in touch with me if you do and I will be there!  (If you can even still send messages to people here?  It's so different now.... maybe someone knows how...) I'd volunteer to organize it, but really, I'm not especially reliable except in showing up. But if someone else puts it together, I'll be there! ;) PS.  I believe I've stumbled upon one of rid's new haunts. :)
     
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    Hi Everyone!

    Doing the "sleepless @ home" thing and saw this post.  Of course, I had to post.  Its been a "rough year", as I'm still out looking for a job, and can't get anyone to look at my resume, never mind call for an interview.  I've also been dealing with medical issues with my husband that have been ongoing since last fall that have been real difficult and a major challenge to deal with.   Things are looking up, and I promise to post more often.  I do miss my friends here on boston.com...
     
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    Good morning!

    clm, there is still no way to send private messages through here, anymore.  But, a lot of people set up anonymous gmail accounts (mine shows up as Kar Giver in your inbox - kargiverbdc @ gmail . com) to communicate out of the forums.

    Lar, sorry to hear you are still having such a hard time with everything and that "everything" includes your DH's health problems.  Praying God's best through these trials and a full recovery on all fronts.

    Miss everyone, too.

    ~kar
     
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    clm! it's been a long time :-). I hope all is well with you.
     
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    OMG, clm!!!!  I am so excited to hear from you!  I thought of you yesterday because someone's post had a pair of killer blue high heels as their picture and it made me think of you immediately, and I was SO sad that you had disappeared!

    Yes, these boards are a former shadow of their old selves, not like the golden years at all. 

    Are you still living in Central Mass?  Still etsying?  Still racing?  What's new?

    As for me, the last couple of years have been tough job-wise and other-wise, but I'm still happy with life.  Was working in  Boston last summer and had a standing lunch date with Aunt Beth every week.  That was fun!

    You can write me at cape cod 38 (gmail).

    Have thought of you often -- your posting has totally made my day!

    Much love,

    Cos
     
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    Hi Ladies...Although I was not a regular poster (well, as regular as some of the other posters!), I have enjoyed going back through the responses and reading the updates. We got married in 8/2008, and things have been pretty good since! DH lost his job last July, so that was REALLY rough for a while, but he's found part time work and is going to school part time, so it's really the best of both worlds. We took a great vacation to Holland and Belgium (decided against Paris, it would have been too much of a squeeze to get it in, and we loved Belgium and Holland so much!) in March. Feel like everyone around me is getting pregnant, and people are starting to ask us what our plans are. I have no idea what our plans are, but I know that babies are not in it at this present time. I feel like people are judging me a bit for that, but I'm ok with it and DH is ok with it, and that's all that matters. Quite frankly, I'd like to further my career and make more money before I think about babies! I'm getting questioned about it by some family members and friends, and it's getting old! Other than that, though, things are going swimmingly. Glad to hear everyone is doing well, and sorry about the job situation, Laryan! I'll send some white light your way...it's got to be your turn soon!
     
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    laryan- sorry to hear things are still down with jobs.  It must be especially worrisome with your DH being ill.  I do hope that things turn around soon.   Wish you the best.

    katel -  move on your own timetable, and do not let anyone push you  or nag you about kids.    Travel is one of the things that is not the same after kids, so it is a good time for you to explore.
    I have done little this past few years, used to get about a lot, and I miss it.
        But sinking money into house, work things,  keeps us busy  and I really appreciate that we held off a few years before thinking kids.  Having security from getting a few dollars put by makes a difference.
        The good thing about not making it to France - you will just have to take another trip!

        clm- I was just starting to post again after - maybe 9 months absence - when this post was resurrected before.  The Quest for Ridley made me laugh on WC.
     
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    katel, so glad to hear from you, too!  Miss you! 
     
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