Registering in time for the Engagement Party

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    Re: Registering in time for the Engagement Party

    Engagement parties are not gift giving events.  However, if people are telling you in advance that they want to buy you gifts, you can either spread the word through whomever is throwing the party that you intend to register at X store [and hope they give you GCs] or else you can set up a small registry w/ some linens and towels and kitchen appliances, and then add the big ticket items later when you have had a chance to figure out what you want. 
     
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    I think your idea of registering for a few small items now and then doing the rest once you're closer to the date is perfect.

    ALF's right that typically these parties aren't gift-giving events. At ours, the three people who did bring gifts brought small "everyone-can-use-this" gifts: candle holders, picture frames, ets.
     
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    Thanks for the input. I think we'll probably register for a few small things for now. 

    I didn't think engagement parties were usually gift-giving events either. Then again, the aunt who suggested registering would probably live at Crate and Barrel if they let her! 
     
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    It seems that the etiquette is changing regarding engagement parties, unfortunately (imo).  It used to be a non-gift-giving event, and I preferred it that way.  But, that ignores the issue - it's changed. People DO bring gifts to engagement parties these days. 

    It's now awkward to bring a gift AND to not bring a gift!  Fabulous, huh?!

    So, as much as I hate to agree with registering now and adding to it later, I do.  If people are going to give gifts at this occassion, and they will, you might as well register early enough to allow them to give you what you actually want.

    Congrats on your engagement!!
     
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    I think it's inappropriate for the average couple.  If someone wants to get a small token, that's fine but not necessary.  By registering, other guests will read it as a signal that a significant gift is expected.  And you certainly don't want to put out that message.

    Engagement parties are to announce/celebrate the new engagement.  If you've already registered, it looks like gifts are your priority. 
     
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    Hopefully, only people bound and determined to give a gift for this party will even know about the registry.  Others won't think to ask or look this early. 
     
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    In Response to Re: Registering in time for the Engagement Party:
    [QUOTE]It seems that the etiquette is changing regarding engagement parties, unfortunately (imo).  It used to be a non-gift-giving event, and I preferred it that way.  But, that ignores the issue - it's changed. People DO bring gifts to engagement parties these days.  It's now awkward to bring a gift AND to not bring a gift!  Fabulous, huh?! So, as much as I hate to agree with registering now and adding to it later, I do.  If people are going to give gifts at this occassion, and they will, you might as well register early enough to allow them to give you what you actually want. Congrats on your engagement!!
    Posted by kargiver[/QUOTE]

    Sigh.  Pretty soon any time you say the word "engagement" or "wedding" you are going to be required to throw money at the couple.

    I hate that pretty much every party is becoming a gift giving event.  Personally, I wouldn't register because I wouldn't want people to think I expect gifts.  At an engagement party, if people want to get you something, they can pick a small gift themselves.  But if you register, I feel like it sends the message that you want/expect gifts.

    But if in your case your family is really pushing it, I guess I'd start a really small registry with inexpensive items (nothing over $50).
     

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