The Wedding Rip-Off

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    In Response to Re: The Wedding Rip-Off : Last year my husband paid $3 for a CAN of coke at a wedding.  I am not joking - an actual can was handed to him.  Let's just say the wedding was a bit different from what we are used to...
    Posted by framerican51008


    OMG!  I'd have handed the can back and asked for a glass of tap water!  That's insane.  If you are this strapped for cash that  you can't even provide soft drinks to your guests, then maybe you shouldn't be having a big wedding.  I'd rather be told ahead of time that I am going to have to pay for any drink that I consume so that I can either stock the car w/ soda or slip a flask in my purse.  lol. Not really, but if I were going to have to shell out for non-alcoholic drinks at a wedding, I'd def. want to know ahead of time.  Egads!
     
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    You know, Alf, it's sad, but if I were told in advance I would have to pay for non-alcoholic drinks at a wedding, I would probably throw a couple of bottles of water into my purse.  Or I'd spend a lot of time at the water fountain.

     
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    I'd show up with a cooler ;) or maybe one of these:

     
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    I'd probably bring a tote too, lucy.  lol.  I don't think I could quite rock Pinkkitty's hat.  That thing is awesome!
     
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    I just remembered a comment on the original article that annoyed me.  Basically the poster said something like, "Haven't people ever heard of halls with catering?  We only spent $85 per person."  It sounded like he/she was talking about an Elks lodge or something along this lines... which is fine... and spending $85 per person is fine... but it ain't exactly a steal people!!!  I think I spent around that and I had my wedding at a country club.  Sometimes I think people don't do any research.  A friend keeps talking about this one venue and I think she assumes it is cheaper than others.  You have to at least contact the others to find out!
     
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    Honestly, $85/person sounds like a lot to me.  Sure, I've never rented a hall or thrown a formal event, so maybe I'm missing some perspective. But "only $85 per person" seems off.  Like "only" applies that it's a huge steal, where I feel like it's more in the middle of a reasonable range.

    But, again, I have no real frame of reference.  I only know what my parents spent for my sisters' weddings in the early 90s, and, both times, they got the hall for free (my mom worked at the church).
     
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    You do have to do your research. We are having our wedding at a very affluent private country club, and it is cheaper than lets say, the Westin in Waltham. We were shocked.
     
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    Also, in the interests of full disclosure, I pulled out the calculator and I said, "Ok... $85 per person times, what?  200 people?  That's.... $17,000."

    I don't really see myself inviting 200 people.
     
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    Lucy, bite your tongue! I thought I was going to have around 120 people, then I got the guest lists from my parents and FI's parents, and yeah...we are inviting 190.
     
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    Ugh.  More and more, I'm liking the idea of 10 people, City Hall, and S&S Brunch to follow.
     
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    S&S?? Stop and Shop??
     
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    S&S?? Stop and Shop??
    Posted by Peonie


    S&S Restaurant, in Cambridge.  It's delicious.  I would eat there every day if I had lots of money to waste on breakfast, an extra two hours in the morning, and a super-fast metabolism.
     
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    Also, in the interests of full disclosure, I pulled out the calculator and I said, "Ok... $85 per person times, what?  200 people?  That's.... $17,000." I don't really see myself inviting 200 people.
    Posted by lucy7368


    This reminds me of the remake of Father of the Bride where Anne and Mrs. Banks promised not to make the wedding too big or too grand and the first quote for the wedding was $250 pp and they had over 500 people invited. Can't even imagine that.
     
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    Ugh.  More and more, I'm liking the idea of 10 people, City Hall, and S&S Brunch to follow.
    Posted by lucy7368


    S&S is awesome.  Can I come and bring eveyone I know?  :)
     
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    In Response to Re: The Wedding Rip-Off : S&S is awesome.  Can I come and bring eveyone I know?  :)
    Posted by Winter2011Bride


    Sure!  The more, the merrier! 

    NL:  I don't even know 500 people.  I only have 204 Facebook friends, and I wouldn't invite most of them to my wedding. But, if I'm spending $250/person, there aren't going to be very many people there.
     
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    I thought we were only going to have 150 people. Then I did my side and our friends and got to 120. FI's family alone (aunts, uncles and first cousins) is 45! By that point, we knew we weren't going to have a small wedding and figured, why not invite everyone? Go big or go home! :-)

    $85/person can be outrageous or a steal depending on what you get. We looked at one place that was around that price. The facility was gorgeous but I didn't like that the appetizers for cocktail hour were add-ons. So it was really $85/person PLUS apps and then I had to figure out what kind and how many and it got too complicated. That $85 also included centerpieces and stuff that I thought we could save money on if we did them ourselves. So if you're getting the things you want, it's great, but if you have to add on to that, it's not so great. We ended up being able to get more of what we wanted for cheaper and closer to the Church, so it was kind of a no-brainer!

    I have to admit, I thought Stop & Shop too. I'll have to try this restaurant!
     
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    Posted by framerican51008


       Knowing I pay 4 - 12 packs for $10 at the grocery store, 21 cents a can, that is beyond rip off.  $1 would give a margin profit after for chilling it, handling, transporting it.

        Anyone negotiating for a contract should absolutely require that soft drinks, coffee, tea, and water  be covered as part of  the meal price.   Even cash bar should ONLY be for alcoholic or specialty drinks.
     
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    Honestly, $85/person sounds like a lot to me.  Sure, I've never rented a hall or thrown a formal event, so maybe I'm missing some perspective. But "only $85 per person" seems off.  Like "only" applies that it's a huge steal, where I feel like it's more in the middle of a reasonable range. But, again, I have no real frame of reference.  I only know what my parents spent for my sisters' weddings in the early 90s, and, both times, they got the hall for free (my mom worked at the church).
    Posted by lucy7368


    That's what I mean Lucy.  Maybe I didn't express it very well :o)  The person who posted a comment on the article acted like $85 was this fantastic deal.  I was very happy with what I got at my venue, but that doesn't make it a budget event that I would suggest to everyone!  You could find a deal for less if you wanted/needed to and it wouldn't necessarily have to be at a hall (not that there's anything wrong with halls!).
     
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    did she mean $85 pp for the whole kit and kaboodle? because usually when I see $Xpp I think that refers to only food & drink, but that could be just me.
     
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    $85pp?? Madness. I spent half that, and it included my cake, a limo, a DJ, and the event coordinator. 

    (Promises to Keep is awesome.)
     
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    WPP, I knew I should have gotten married in NH :(

    ETA: meaning, planned to have my wedding in NH...not married yet, duh.
     
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    the savings on the sales tax alone if the wedding was in NH vrs MA could be enough for the honeymoon.  6.25%...yeeesh!
     
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    You still pay the NH meals tax which is 9%! Highway robbery!
     
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    I did notice a huge price difference between Boston and southern NH (Promises to Keep is in Derry). DH grew up near there and his parents live there, so it was easy to plan it. I got a lot of my vendors from NH, which made them cheaper (and less expensive to pay for travel day of!). 

    The night before, my MOH and I stayed at my IL's house and DH and his best man stayed at his sister's in a nearby town. It was nice that we could establish NH headquarters and not have to drive back and forth from Boston.
     
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