Re: Wedding Invites
posted at 9/3/2009 11:43 AM EDT
In Response to Re: Wedding Invites
Goodness, I just wanted to add my 2 cents since it sounds like your head is ready to blast off from your neck from stress! Whatever topic you happen to be stressing about at the moment, decide if it's something you can control or not... You can't control your MIL's behavior, her dress, or whatever comes out of her mouth, so just let it go. Tell yourself you'll think about it AFTER the wedding. Trust your vendors...don't worry/second guess/invent problems that aren't there. You hired these folks because they're professionals, and that's what you are paying them for. They will come through, you don't have to stress about them. If there is anything that's still on your "to-do" list, get it done, i.e. wrapping your attendant gifts. You'll feel less stressed if whatever needs to be done IS done. Finally, you're close to the biggest day of your life so far (or at least one of them...). It's reasonable to be anxious to a degree, so realize it goes with the territory and we have all been there. Try to plan small activites that will make you laugh or relax ... quick lunch with a friend, a favorite magazine, a walk, a TV show. Everything will be fine. Honest! Good luck!
Posted by cosmogirl
Cosmo, thank you so much for your words and for breaking it down for me. Really, looking at the big picture, it can be a bit intimidating. I don't like that part of myself, either. I stress SO easily. I go and check my blood pressure at that little machine at CVS and it changes all the time, but usually stays pretty consistent when I'm stressed. It's high :( Once I calm down, though, it goes back to normal.
The irony is, that I completely trust my vendors. I haven't even met all of them, but I just have this instinct about them. I know they'll do a good job. They all keep up with me on e-mail, and are very responsive.
I think I'm more concerned with making sure and knowing that everything will be ok with my in-laws after marriage. I know how excited his mom is for the wedding, and I know how she wants to look good, etc. I get that. Sometimes, it can be too much. I think in my head that I can't control what other people do or think, and I can't wrap my head around why I can't get it to apply to this - my wedding.
I just haven't been that
bride this entire time. I haven't stressed at all up until a couple weeks ago. When I'm calm and talking to friends, family, and just asking questions... when I get a "calm down" from them when I am calm, makes me wonder. Um, I am calm. Self fulfilling profecy :(