2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

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    2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

    What if you went with the title of groomsmen and bridesmaids and no best man or MOH? The fact is that if there are two, neither of them is "the" best man let alone both of them. That way you could flip a coin as to who stands next to whom, and then when they are announced, they are announced as groomsmen. They share the title that makes more sense to share that way, and it may flow more naturally.

    P.S. You could either have both of them escort the MOH out, yes. And, it's a nice idea to have the further one be in charge of the rings, but you may want to give the honor to whomever wins the stand-next-to-groom coin toss for logistical reasons. It's easy enough to have the rings dropped or whatever; I think I'd want the person nearest the groom be in charge of the rings.
     
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    2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

    Okay, so coming off another thread about co-MOH's...here's my situation.

    So, my FH has 2 best men. His brothers. He can't choose just one, which I totally understand. We even had a priest before who was attempting to make him choose just one..we switched priests. I have 1 MOH.

    So, I'm looking for some suggestions..and because my sister sort of asked and I've never been to or been in a wedding with co-best men. Fiance was and bride had co-MOH's.

    Looking for suggestions on

    1. how they should be arranged in the church. Obviously FH is going to have to choose 1 to stand next to him. Should other hold the rings? That's what I suggested because he can't choose both to stand directly next to him.

    2. walking out of the church...should both escort MOH down aisle? that leaves 1 bridesmaid without a groomsmen. So, I'm thinking only 1 escorts MOH down aisle. The other can escort their sister? or does it get arranged by height. how does that work?

    3. Announced into reception..announce Best Men together and MOH separately?
     
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    2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

    2 Bestmen is no big deal. When Prince Charles married Diana he had both of his brothers stand with him. The oldest (Andrew) was directly next to the groom.
    Whomever is next to the groom should escort the MOH out. The next Best Man should escort the next bridesmaid.
    Introductions (I'm with AuntBeth here - we didn't bother) can go anyway you like - and you've gotten lots of suggestions already.
    To be quite honest, it's only important to the people directly involved; your guests couldn't care less who has which title. So as long as both brothers are happy with the arrangement, everything will be fine.
    Good luck!
     
  4. You have chosen to ignore posts from octbride09. Show octbride09's posts

    2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

    These are all great suggestions.

    I'm going to bring them up to FH. Thanks everyone!
     
  5. You have chosen to ignore posts from downtoearth. Show downtoearth's posts

    2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

    O-girl - breathe!! You are making WAY too big a stress deal over this.

    guy at altar escorts woman at altar.
    guy next in line escorts next bridesmaid. it's ok if their titles don't match.

    I like the hold the rings idea. Another is to give them boutineers or ties that are different than the other groomsmen if any, but the same as each others.

    Announcements (tangent - I think announcements are a waste of time when we can be socializing and dancing. But you can do them if you want to.)
    Introduce the one who wasn't at the altar first - "Best man and maid of honor - Brother and Friend!!!" Then introduce the alter guy - "And the OTHER Best man and bridesmaid - Brother and Friend!!!!"

    It will be fun and funny and everyone who loves your fiance will get it and smile.

    Another choice would be to introduce them together - "Our two best men - Brother and Brother!!!" then, "Maid of honor - Friend!" Then, "Our groomsmen and bridesmaids" - (then introduce them either in pairs, threes, or all together.)
     
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    2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

    How about the oldest of the 2 brothers stands next to him? Or the youngest.

    (I have two sisters. call us A, B and C. Anne is oldest, then me, then Carol.)

    So, when Anne got married, Beth was MOH.
    When Carol got married, Anne was MOH.
    When Beth got married, Carol was MOH.

    We sort of went in a circle. it worked for us. Maybe it will work for your fiance. ?? Just an idea.
     
  7. You have chosen to ignore posts from WhirledPeasPlease. Show WhirledPeasPlease's posts

    2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

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    2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

    The other ladies have you covered, I have nothing to add except that unless you are having programs and having the bridal party announced (I did neither of these things) then no one's going to know the difference.

     
  9. You have chosen to ignore posts from kargiver. Show kargiver's posts

    2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

    Maybe two Groomsmen and a MOH?
     
  10. You have chosen to ignore posts from octbride09. Show octbride09's posts

    2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

    [Quote]Maybe two Groomsmen and a MOH?[/Quote]

    that's what we have now.
     
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    2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

    How about the oldest of the 2 brothers stands next to him? Or the youngest.

    When they are announced, you could just have your DJ announce the bridal party and their names -- they don't need to be announced w/ a title. I also agree that you could just call them all Groomsmen and Bridesmaids. The title really is JUST a title.

    you can definitely have the MOH escorted by them both. I've seen that happen on several occasions.
     
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    2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

    Aunt Beth..good suggestion about switching up best men but I know FH won't go for asking one to step down.

    And, I'm only announcing MOH & Best Men into reception not entire bridal party because I agree that it wastes a lot of time.

    kargiver, I would never drop the MOH title given to my twin. She's been waiting 3 years since I was her MOH to return the favor and it's the first wedding she has been in other than her own. It means as much to her as it does to me. My fiance brought up asking me to ask his sister to be my co-MOH (maid and matron of honor). Not happening.

     
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    2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

    Would you consider having a second MOH to even things out, or is that too much work?

    If you don't want/can't have a second MOH, you could dress the two best men differently from the other GMs. One will have to stand directly next to your FI, though, not sure how you could work that out another way. Maybe the older brother? Maybe one can hold your FI's ring and the other your ring?

    I'd say have one best man walk with MOH (older bro?) and the other with the next BM in line, because it could look awkward with two guys and the MOH and one BM by herself.

    At the reception, you could announce the best men and MOH together. How many BMs do you have? Could the odd girl out be announced with another BM and GM?
     
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    2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

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    that's what we have now.[/Quote]

    I thought your problem was you have two "best men" not groomsmen...?

    Anyway, pinkie's right, no one will notice if you don't call attention to it.
     
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    2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

    don't worry and do what you want....we are having six groomsmen and three bridesmaids (a Maid of Honor, a Matron of Honor and a bridesmaid). The three girls along with 3 of the groomsmen (his brother BM, my brother and his best friend from college) will be standing with us during our vows. At the end of the mass and for the reception intro there will be two guys per bridesmaid...my single girlfriends are thrilled to have two guys as escorts ;)
     
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    2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

    I know the logistics are tough to figure out, but try not to worry too much. I have two MOHs and fiance onlys has one BM. No big deal. Especially because they are guys - they might not be as touchy about it as you think. I realize that is sexist, but I think in general that there tends to be less drama amongst the groomsmen. Good luck and don't worry :o)
     
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    Re: 2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

    Hi there,
    I am only going to give my 2 cents on the introduction part of your big day.
    I think it makes sense to have them introduced as:
    "Maid of Honor, Cindy Brady, escorted by Best Man, Tyler Dyer and Best Man George Glass".
    My reasoning is that if your FH picked then both, it must be for a good reason, and they should both be introduced as a Best Man, not Best Men.
    Good luck with your day,
    -Terry
     
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    Re: 2 Best Men/2 MOH's?

    You have probably figured this out by now, but I just saw your post and thought I would share...  We had 3 "best men" who were the grooms three brothers (plus 2 groomsmen) and 1 MOH who was my only sister (plus 3 bridesmaids).  It worked just fine.  The oldest brother stood next to the groom during the ceremony and the younger two brothers (twins) walked out with the MOH.  All three best men made a brief toast.  I thought it was fine (and quite nice) that my husband couldn't decide between brothers.
     
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