Re: A Real DOOZIE!
posted at 9/17/2010 10:29 AM EDT
In Response to Re: A Real DOOZIE!
[QUOTE]You're all missing the point which was that marriage has absolutely nothing to do with your wedding. 1 is a legal/religious/social designation, whereas a wedding is a frivilous display that has only gotten more and more out of control.
Posted by some-guy[/QUOTE]
Yes, 'marriage' is a legal/religious/social designation. However, one cannot get married w/o a wedding first occurring. A wedding if it is a religious one, has specific steps that have to be followed. Even a JOP wedding has certain things that are required, ie vows. What you seem to have a problem with is a wedding RECEPTION, which is not required for a wedding to be valid.
I would agree that some can get out of control. However, most people have them b/c the wedding, and all that it symbolizes [ie, entering the marital state] is joyful to them and they want to celebrate w/ their family and friends. I know that's why we had our reception. However, it didn't get out of control nor did we go into debt. Since I seriously doubt that you were present at my or other poster's weddings [all of my DH's and my guests seemed happy to be there; I doubt even the best actor among them would be able to mask the vitriol that you spew regarding weddings], I don't know how you can make a blanket statement that ALL wedding receptions are out of control and expect anyone to take it seriously. Yes, SOME people get out of control [check out Platinum Weddings and the like]. But some people get out of control no matter what thye are doing. You don't need there to be a wedding for people to act like extravagant idiots.
ETA: you've mentioned before that you are married. Does your wife know that you have such a low view of weddings and marital state? Do you have NO happy memories of your own wedding? If not, how sad.
Do you never enjoy yourself, throw a party or have fun, just b/c? Living in a yurt and eating dog food b/c it's cheap while banking your bucks doesn't sound like a ton of fun. Sometimes you just need to cut loose and have some fun.