Re: Black Tie
posted at 6/13/2011 1:10 PM EDT
In Response to Black Tie
[QUOTE]My husband and I received an invitation to a wedding a few weeks ago. The envelope contained the invitation to the ceremony, a reception card, response card and a card the directed you to their website for more infomation (hotel, directions, registry, etc). I just went to the website today because I wanted to see what time it started (that info was not there) but I did see that they wrote that something along the lines of: Our wedding is black tie. We made arrangements at Men's Wearhouse for tux rentals. Here is a discount code. Has anyone ever heard of this? I have never been to a black tie wedding. I have been to a few black tie optional ones and no one I knew opted to wear black tie. So my questions are...1) does my husband need to rent a tux? Normally I would have said no he could just wear a dark suit but they clearly want people to wear a tux. 2) Do I need to wear a gown or can I wear a black knee length dress? 3) For those of you who had black tie weddings do you expect everyone to wear a tux? Were you disappointed in those who didn't? In case it matters I barely know this couple. My husband is friends (not close) with the groom. I don't know anyone else going so I can't ask what other guests are wearing.
Posted by KANN29[/QUOTE]
If the wedding is black tie, you need to dress in black tie. That means a tux and a gown. A knee length anything is not going to cut it. The time of day and the formality of the invitation and location for the reception should have told you the attire w/o having to go the website.
You could probably get away w/ a high quality dark suit for your DH but you need a floor length gown.
Sorry, but if hte wedding is at 5.30, it means the reception starts at 6 or later, which makes it a formal event by default. You do need to arrive appropriately dressed at the reception, which means a gown. You can get gorgeous gowns at Nordstrom for the same price as a cocktail dress. I just got a spectacular gown there for under $200. I've already worn in 2x in the past 3 months.
BTW, hasn't it been debated endlessly that you don't put the attire on the invitation? I would be appalled to see 'black tie' or 'black tie optional' or 'resort casual' on an invitation. People should know how to dress based on the time, location and formality of the invitation.
I see women in cocktail dresses at formal events all the time and am embarassed for them. It's not the proper attire. If you don't care or don't want to spend the money on a gown, fine, but don't kid yourself that people don't notice. My SIL wore a gorgeous cocktail dress to a super fancy family event, and I know that my MIL and several other old ladies noticed and cluck clucked behind her back. She was oblivious, but I was horrified when she came downstairs in a shorter dress but said nothing. Maybe that makes me crazy, but whatever.