Issues with a family member.
posted at 7/13/2009 3:38 PM EDT
Ok, so my uncle is really starting to get to me, and I need to vent. Bear with me...I'm pretty angry so this may be long!
Said uncle, we'll call him Uncle Jerk, has always been the black sheep of the family, and pretty terrible to some of us at times. My grandfather got really sick about 6 months ago, and for whatever reason he's been picking fights with my mom and other uncles since then. He's been ok to me, until I got engaged. First, when shower invites went out, he and his girlfriend called my mom and MOH multiple times to complain that their 8-year-old wasn't invited. Needless to say, Uncle Jerk's trashy girlfriend didn't come to the shower.
Then wedding invites went out. People starting receiving them on a Tuesday. The next day, my parents got Uncle Jerk and Trashy Girlfriend's RSVP -- a decline. They would have had to picked up their mail, filled out the card, and chased the mailman down asking him to get it out immediately for it to get to my parents' house that quickly. Obviously they were trying to send a message.
Ok, fine, you don't want to come to my wedding. No big deal. But Uncle Jerk nearly ruined my shower. My whole family was at the shower that day (including the men), so they asked Uncle Jerk to visit my grandfather, who was still in the hospital, and he agreed. During my shower my grandmother gets the call that Uncle Jerk never came to visit my grandfather, and he spent the day alone. I burst into tears at the thought of him lying in a hospital bed, alone and lonely all day. Thankfully, my mom's friends saved the day and brought my grandmother up to see him after the shower.
And now here is where things get really bad. I was actually dreading my wedding for quite awhile, because I was so afraid that my grandfather would be too sick to be there. He's since had surgery, is doing great, and has every intention of being there. Well, I found out that Uncle Jerk has been trying to talk him out of coming to my wedding. Telling him he's too sick, he nearly died, and he's not ready to go to a wedding. And that since Uncle Jerk isn't going, neither should my grandfather. UGH.
Obviously my grandfather doesn't listen to a word he says, but the fact that he would go out of his way to hurt me like that is just appalling. I'm thinking of sending him a letter and letting him know how I feel. He's using my wedding as a way to give the big eff-you to my mom, and it's SO NOT RIGHT.
Sorry that was so long, but thanks to any of you who had the patience to read the whole thing! LOL!