Re: new to board - wedding guest dilemma
posted at 8/26/2009 1:42 PM EDT
You want to start hyperbolizing, twisting words and being sarcastic? Fine. Let's do it.
All I said is that it's the nice, thoughtful, considerate thing to do.
It doesn't take long, it doesn't cost any money and it doesn't make it any less your wedding day. But I guess you feel differently.
If that's the way you feel, fine, but I completely disagree.
It doesn't diminish a wedding to take 30 or 60 seconds to wish a close friend or family member "Happy Birthday"
And, I'm sorry, isn't the attitude that "this is the one day where all attention should be focused on you" what we try to discourage here?
Didn't anyone see the episode of Bridezillas where the pride smashed a cake in her aunt's face because her uncle had a cake at the RD for the aunt's birthday?
I guess I'm the only one who thought that was bratty of her.
I guess on your wedding day, God forbid you take any time to acknowlegde anythign else that might be occuring that day.
I guess for that day your guests are your guests and nothing else.
Silly me, I though it would be nice to say happy birthday to a friedn or family member during your reception dinner. I didn't realize it would just be too distracting, too much trouble and a complete PITA to take a few seconds to do that.
And while anyone would tell you that you're perfectly free to have dinner the night before your parent's anniversary. I would advise that you call them or send them a card for the day-of. I know that's a lot of trouble and a total PITA apparently, but it's a NICE THING TO DO!
Didn't know we advocated against doing nice things here. Good to know.
In Response to Re: new to board - wedding guest dilemma
Oh no, I'm planning a dinner out with my mother the night before my parent's wedding anniversary!!! SHOOT! I should reschedule. Their feelings are going to be SO HURT!
Posted by Goodness1