Re: new to board - wedding guest dilemma
posted at 8/25/2009 4:37 PM EDT
In Response to Re: new to board - wedding guest dilemma
In Response to Re: new to board - wedding guest dilemma : I just tried to leave you a personal message, but I must be a "personal friend" to do that. So - yes, I've deleted all my posts because I am done with this. I was never snarky about my relative - I lamented that this was a horrible situation to be put into. I asked for bridal perspective - but I did neglect to tell everyone that the day was chosen by the bride to save her mother money. no harm was meant. I did speak to MOB (very close family member) asking her to reconsider a year ago. She didn't want to upset her daughter, and because I thought it was a 6pm wedding, I let it go too. I only found out about 4pm yesterday, it's not a common topic, we talk about the shower, the wedding the honeymoon, the flowers, not the actually time. Also, Bride's sister had a 6pm Friday wedding, locally so I assumed it would not be a problem. I planned to wear business attire and go straight from work. There, now everyone knows. Loving family, everyone trying to take care of everyone else's feelings, I am just distraught that I cannot see a way to get to the ceremony on time. This was the wrong forum to ask for bridal perspective. I did get attacked. I won't upset the bride, what is done is done. A year ago I should have asked the time. We set our vacation schedules in January where I work (healthcare, remember????) so I don't have a lot of flexibility even two months out. The teachers in the family have ZERO flexibility - they will be late. Period. Bride is adorable but caught up in her own plans. MOB wishes she knew last year that the time was a problem, and I wish I had discussed it then. As for insults, I agreed with Sept2010 that her tone was b*tchy (her word). I did call many here vipers for their snarky responses, and said I was done with this board in the same breath. I called somebody heartless for saying I should pay 20% for the wedding. I've been told I'm unimportant, self centered, whiney and more than I can remember...this is not a healthy environment for a civil exchange. In 10 minutes I will delete this too. I just cannot believe how words get twisted and jumped on here.
Posted by clocktower1
No one said you were unimportant. We said talk to the bride. No one said "whiney." You're interjecting words into what you perceived to be an attack.
Once a date is set and deposits are made, it can be very difficult to change a date. They may have also told other people what the date was--after spreading the word, it's even more difficult to change the date.
North Shore to Boston is really obnoxious; I didn't see that because the posts were taken down.
I don't understand how this got so heated.