personal (bedroom talk)

  1. You have chosen to ignore posts from SShoreChic. Show SShoreChic's posts

    personal (bedroom talk)

    I've been dating the same guy for almost 2 years now, and he recently suggested we try (the back way). I'm scared, nervous, etc...
    I've been searching stuff online, and some of the blogs are scaring me and others are making it sound normal.
    Anyone have any suggestions, do, don'ts, etc...
    Sorry, if this is an awkward convo- just figured its easier and more honest, annoymously.
     
  2. You have chosen to ignore posts from lizinboston. Show lizinboston's posts

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    Surprised
     
  3. You have chosen to ignore posts from lucy7368. Show lucy7368's posts

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    "Men don't marry the up the but(t) girl!"
     
  4. You have chosen to ignore posts from movingtarget2. Show movingtarget2's posts

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    Oh yeah they do.  Not that I did.  :(
    I have no advice to offer that you can't get at Google (without the parent protection on) but it seems an enema is a good idea and lubrication, lubrication, lubrication.

    Its normal if you really like sex.  Its not normal if you don't like sex.  Based on all the videos I've seen if your a capable self diddler then its going to be alright.  But something tells me that spit trick isn't enough. 
     
  5. You have chosen to ignore posts from lucy7368. Show lucy7368's posts

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    It's a quote from Sex and the City.
     
  6. You have chosen to ignore posts from kargiver. Show kargiver's posts

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    It took a lot of courage for him to suggeste this.  His ego is on the line, and he, I assume, wants you to feel loved and appreciated, not scared and humiliated.  Not that you aren't entitled to your feelings, of course, I'm just saying what he's HOPING you'll feel.

    So, I'd say be totally honest with him about how you feel.  If you can't be honest you have nothing, and that translates to every area of your lives including the bedroom.  Silence only leads to resentment, and that doesn't go anywhere good.

    He had the guts to bring it up, and I'm sure you respect that.  I'm sure he'll have the same respect for you when you voice any concerns you have as long as you are sure to let him know how much you appreciate his wanting to get intimate in new ways with you.  I assume you do. :)

    P.S.  As far as health concerns go, I'd not leave that to online "research" or opinions.  Talk to your OBGYN.  They've heard it before for one thing and for another they have the correct answers.
     
  7. You have chosen to ignore posts from ALF72. Show ALF72's posts

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    Kar summed this one up perfectly.

    And Liz posted my exact reaction to his suggestion.  ;-)
     
  8. You have chosen to ignore posts from lucy7368. Show lucy7368's posts

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    I agree with Kar.  Just another thought, though.  You're going to want to relax, so you might look for a good bottle of wine.

    ... and try to steer clear of any blogs that use the term "abomination," as they will be less than helpful.
     
  9. You have chosen to ignore posts from WhirledPeasPlease. Show WhirledPeasPlease's posts

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    I agree with Kar and Liz. 

    Like Kar said, he's putting a lot on the line here. Ballsy (or the other, as it were). 
     
  10. You have chosen to ignore posts from GirlyGirl82. Show GirlyGirl82's posts

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    I know some girls that do this, and not only do they have no problem with the back door, but, they say they like it too.  Me on the otherhand, something about it skeeves me out and I can't do it. If you're not comfortable with it, tell him and he should understand. If not, ask him if it is okay to shove something up his back door. The mere thought of it usually makes them stop asking if they become annoying or persistent about it. After all, if he won't let something up his, he can't expect you to let something up yours!
     
  11. You have chosen to ignore posts from helphelpImbeingrepressed. Show helphelpImbeingrepressed's posts

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    Best troll ever.

    In any case, why on Earth would you chat up your doctor about it? I'd trust the internet a hell of a lot more, but I also wouldn't worry about it. Millions of people have been taking it in the buttt for as long as there's been hard-ons and leisure time. Christ, Procopius mentions hot DP action in his repeated bashing of the Empress Theodora in The Secret History. The porn industry didn't make this stuff up.

    In the off chance you're not a troll, there's an extensive article on buttsecks on About.com. The most important advice, imo, is to never stick anything up there that doesn't have a wide base. You do not want things getting lost and becoming an EMT's or ER nurse's hilarious story she tells at the bar.
     
  12. You have chosen to ignore posts from lizinboston. Show lizinboston's posts

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    LMFAO Help....

    Umm, wow...

    But I don't think SS is a troll, because I have seen her post on actual wedding stuff. Man you make me laugh.
     
  13. You have chosen to ignore posts from helphelpImbeingrepressed. Show helphelpImbeingrepressed's posts

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    Well, people hear "buttsecks" and their cardigans button up. It's old hat, people. Unless something goes really wrong, you're not going to hurt yourself and there's no need to squick out your poor doctor by asking her for pointers. Use lotsa lube, go slow, have fun (and a vibratorr - can you believe that word's verboten? - handy.) Whatever delivers the orgasms, my friend. Nothing to be ashamed of.

    Or are you amused that I brought Byzantine history into a buttsecks conversation? I assure you, if anyone could, I would.
     
  14. You have chosen to ignore posts from lizinboston. Show lizinboston's posts

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    I know! Apparently even the Romans had buttsecks!
     
  15. You have chosen to ignore posts from helphelpImbeingrepressed. Show helphelpImbeingrepressed's posts

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    Seeing as how they lacked KY and still had fun, I think our OP has nothing to fear.

    Still can't believe I can't type vibratorr. That there's the key to happy living. Why does BDC not want women to be happy?
     
  16. You have chosen to ignore posts from pinkkittie27. Show pinkkittie27's posts

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    LMAO

    this thread has become amazing. Thank you, helphelp! I was going to suggest Big O in Allston if they're still there for any FAQs. They used to run all kinds of workshops that I heard were very good and not sketchy.
     
  17. You have chosen to ignore posts from lizinboston. Show lizinboston's posts

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    She doesn't even need lube. Jenna Jameson says spit is the best lube...And I ONLY know that because I watched the E! True Hollywood Story on her!

    This has turned very dirty....
     
  18. You have chosen to ignore posts from pinkkittie27. Show pinkkittie27's posts

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    for a first time you need lube, unless you don't care about discomfort or possible bleeding. You're trying to put something of a certain size into a hole which does not usually have anything of that size inside of it.


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    She doesn't even need lube. Jenna Jameson says spit is the best lube...And I ONLY know that because I watched the E! True Hollywood Story on her! This has turned very dirty....
    Posted by lizinboston

     
  19. You have chosen to ignore posts from helphelpImbeingrepressed. Show helphelpImbeingrepressed's posts

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    Jenna Jameson's butthole I'm sure is considerably more experienced. Yes you need lube. Friction is a killjoy.
     
  20. You have chosen to ignore posts from lizinboston. Show lizinboston's posts

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    I guess. I've never done it, and will never do it. Exit only, thank you.
     
  21. You have chosen to ignore posts from lizinboston. Show lizinboston's posts

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    [QUOTE]Jenna Jameson's butthole I'm sure is considerably more experienced. Yes you need lube. Friction is a killjoy.
    Posted by helphelpImbeingrepressed[/QUOTE]

    LOL!
     
  22. You have chosen to ignore posts from WhirledPeasPlease. Show WhirledPeasPlease's posts

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    Even if you don't NEED lube, it's a happy addition. Especially the warming stuff.
     
  23. You have chosen to ignore posts from pinkkittie27. Show pinkkittie27's posts

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    *TMI ALERT*
    I've tried it. Wasn't a fan. Plus it lead to trapped air if you catch my meaning. But I have friends who love it though.

    In Response to Re: personal (bedroom talk):
    [QUOTE]I guess. I've never done it, and will never do it. Exit only, thank you.
    Posted by lizinboston[/QUOTE]
     
  24. You have chosen to ignore posts from helphelpImbeingrepressed. Show helphelpImbeingrepressed's posts

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    I think to enjoy it, you need to either like a bit of pain with your pleasure or get off on the taboo.
     
  25. You have chosen to ignore posts from lucy7368. Show lucy7368's posts

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    Wow.  This thread certainly got interesting while I was working. 

    Apparently, these things can be messy.  As in, don't do it if you have white sheets or an aversion to fecal matter.8

    I keep thinking of that Weeds episode.  "In my experience, the best lube is ... LUBE, so save your allowance."
     

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