I like the first one....
did you google it???
She's a doctor, he's not...
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Re: She's a doctor, he's not...
posted at 5/5/2010 12:14 PM EDT
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posted at 5/5/2010 12:20 PM EDT
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Just called my mom, she is a dermatologist and my dad is in a completely different business, she said there are two ways:
Dr. Susan Smith and Mr. John Smith; Dr. Susan and Mr. John Smith.
Hope this helps! :)
ETA: the man does not always have to go first. -
Re: She's a doctor, he's not...
posted at 5/5/2010 12:24 PM EDT
- FriarGirl03
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I think you're supposed to keep the man's first name together with the last name, so Dr. Andrea and Mr. William Jones would be correct over Mr. William and Dr. Andrea Jones. -
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posted at 5/5/2010 6:56 PM EDT
- jasmine09
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hmm, I deferred to Crane's for all my addressing etiquette questions.They recommend Doctor Jane Smith and Mr. John Smith. See:In Which Woman Is a Doctor Outside Envelope Inside Envelope Mr. and Mrs. Troy Clayton
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Doctor Christine Clayton
and Mr. Troy ClaytonMr. and Mrs. Clayton
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Doctor Clayton
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Re: She's a doctor, he's not...
posted at 5/6/2010 11:29 AM EDT
- Rapunzel41
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I just keeping thinking I always hear them called "Vice President and Dr. Biden" when they're referring to our country's VP and his wife...
Maybe that's because his title as VP is "higher" than hers as doctor... -
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posted at 5/6/2010 12:12 PM EDT
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Thanks guys! I could have googled it but I prefer to check with you all first :) -
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posted at 5/6/2010 12:38 PM EDT
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In Response to Re: She's a doctor, he's not...:Just called my mom, she is a dermatologist and my dad is in a completely different business, she said there are two ways: Dr. Susan Smith and Mr. John Smith; Dr. Susan and Mr. John Smith. Hope this helps! :) ETA: the man does not always have to go first.
Posted by Peonie
The first way is the most proper. I had to look this up for our wedding, too! -
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posted at 5/10/2010 3:27 PM EDT
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In Response to Re: She's a doctor, he's not...:I just keeping thinking I always hear them called "Vice President and Dr. Biden" when they're referring to our country's VP and his wife... Maybe that's because his title as VP is "higher" than hers as doctor...
Posted by Rapunzel41
Jill Biden is a teacher at a Community College - a doctor of education, not an MD. Most of my friends with this title don't use it socially - but I guess Jill likes to inflate herself a little. -
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posted at 5/10/2010 3:31 PM EDT
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In Response to Re: She's a doctor, he's not...:In Response to Re: She's a doctor, he's not... : Jill Biden is a teacher at a Community College - a doctor of education, not an MD. Most of my friends with this title don't use it socially - but I guess Jill likes to inflate herself a little.
Posted by randy07
I'd probably use it, if I had it. Getting a PhD ain't easy.
Then again, I guess that means you all need to start referring to me as either "Lucy, J.D." or "Lucy, Esq."
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posted at 5/10/2010 3:33 PM EDT
- LilSprout
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In Response to Re: She's a doctor, he's not...:In Response to Re: She's a doctor, he's not... : Jill Biden is a teacher at a Community College - a doctor of education, not an MD. Most of my friends with this title don't use it socially - but I guess Jill likes to inflate herself a little.
Posted by randy07
I think anyone who earns a doctorate degree deserves to use that as a title and not be considered to be "inflating" oneself. Some people slave longer as students getting a PhD than "doctors" do in med school. If I spent 8 years after undergrad in grad school you can bet I'm going to call myself Doctor! (I'm not, by the way, and neither is the doctor in my initial post.) Some PhDs in academia will one day go on to be professors and will prefer to be called doctor.
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posted at 5/10/2010 3:46 PM EDT
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haha I LOVE Sawyer!! -
Re: She's a doctor, he's not...
posted at 5/10/2010 3:48 PM EDT
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In Response to Re: She's a doctor, he's not...:In Response to Re: She's a doctor, he's not... : I think anyone who earns a doctorate degree deserves to use that as a title and not be considered to be "inflating" oneself. Some people slave longer as students getting a PhD than "doctors" do in med school. If I spent 8 years after undergrad in grad school you can bet I'm going to call myself Doctor! (I'm not, by the way, and neither is the doctor in my initial post.) Some PhDs in academia will one day go on to be professors and will prefer to be called doctor. And no one seemed to catch my "Lost" reference...
Posted by LilSprout
Lil
Just read this and I get the Lost reference...man am I going to miss that show! -
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posted at 5/10/2010 3:51 PM EDT
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In Response to Re: She's a doctor, he's not...:And no one seemed to catch my "Lost" reference...
Posted by LilSprout
Lost references make me tear up a bit, so I choose to ignore them when I'm at work.
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posted at 5/10/2010 5:43 PM EDT
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How did we all miss that Sprout?!! -
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posted at 5/10/2010 9:41 PM EDT
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Of course it's appropriate to use the title Dr. in academia! It's the social usage that is questionable. -
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posted at 5/10/2010 11:32 PM EDT
- FriarGirl03
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My email signature at work is Friar Girl, MBA and I hate it. It feels so pretentious to me! Before I got there, my pompous coworker added ", MBA" to his email signature and I wasn't about to let him get the attention for the same degree I have. I never would have put it in there if he didn't. I don't think that knowing I have an MBA is going to make anyone think better of me. I'd rather have my work speak for me than my degree. -
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posted at 5/11/2010 10:32 AM EDT
- lucy7368
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My e-mail signature actually doesn't say "Esq.," because it's a sign of respect. You should use it to refer to others, but it's not appropriate to use it to refer to yourself, unless, say, you're signing court pleadings or something where you need to be a lawyer.
But, generally, I don't see anything wrong with using titles that you have earned. It really irks me that it is OK to tout all kinds of sports acheivements and physical accomplishments, that beauty is praised (right, because being born good-looking is really tough work), but people are expected to downplay their intelligence or they're seen as "pompous" or "smug." You know why that is? Because the people who make the rules aren't very intelligent, and they want to make the rest of us feel bad.
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posted at 5/11/2010 11:39 AM EDT
- framerican51008
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I agree Lucy! I had an epiphany back in high school... There was this guy in chorus who was very talented and also very bright. People (including me) would get annoyed with him for randomly singing or being the loudest. One day I thought to myself, So what?? Why should he have to bring himself down to our level when he really is more talented? Why should he have to reign himself in? (There definitely does get to be a point where it's too much, but a small amount of so-called showing off is ok :o) -
Re: She's a doctor, he's not...
posted at 5/11/2010 11:55 AM EDT
- lucy7368
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It took me a little longer. About halfway through college, I realized that I shouldn't have to pretend to be stupid so men would like me.
Then, I didn't date for a very, very long time.