Thank you note
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Thank you note
posted at 11/8/2010 9:52 AM EST
- DRezCMPS
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I was in a wedding over the summer and sent a $$ gift 60 days after attending. The groom 1st questioned why I had not given a gift yet and then questioned the $$ amount I gave! It's been 4 months since I sent the gift and I have yet to receive a thank you card. Thoughts? -
Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/8/2010 10:28 AM EST
- WhirledPeasPlease
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I wouldn't hold out for a thank you note; this couple sounds pretty uncouth. And gross. How close are you to them? I'd probably start phasing them out.... -
Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/8/2010 10:34 AM EST
- pinkkittie27
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I agree with WPP, that behavior sounds very rude and it seems they're not apt to show any gratitude whatsoever. -
Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/8/2010 11:54 AM EST
- kargiver
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What is your question? -
Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/8/2010 2:53 PM EST
- pinkkittie27
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In Response to Re: Thank you note:What is your question?
Posted by kargiver
I think this might just be a vent. Which is totally understandable given the situation -
Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/8/2010 3:07 PM EST
- kargiver
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Maybe, and that's fine, but she posted, "Thoughts?" so I assume there's a question about the situation she wants answered, but I have no idea what it is. -
Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/8/2010 3:26 PM EST
- Prill
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I actually don't think there was a question at all and it is just some rando who is fishing for some controversy.
But that's just me being cynical. -
Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/8/2010 3:49 PM EST
- kargiver
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Yeah, that's why I gave a curt, "What's your question?" -
Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/8/2010 4:47 PM EST
- pinkkittie27
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how could a post such as this one stir up controversy? is there really anything else to say but "they were rude, don't expect a TYN"? -
Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/8/2010 4:59 PM EST
- ALF72
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If it makes you feel better, take them off your Christmas card list. -
Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/8/2010 7:29 PM EST
- laryan
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the groom questions why you didn't give a gift when he got married then has the nerve to question the amount??? that shows a lack of class...then to not send a tyn???
i agree with whirled peas please...time to phase them out
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Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/9/2010 4:01 PM EST
- lemoncoke
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Did you send cash? or do you have a cancelled check? I'll wager wyou'll never send $$ again! -
Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/10/2010 12:32 PM EST
- DRezCMPS
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This is (or I thought was) a close friend from high school and this is certainly a bit of venting (feels good!!)...beyond the vent, do I sarcastically mention "Oh, by the way my address is...." or just let it go? My wife and I really got what we were looking for from this post: "confirmation of rudeness and lack of gratitude." Yes, I did send a check which was cashed, despite the less than desired amount! -
Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/10/2010 12:58 PM EST
- pinkkittie27
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no, take the high road, don't say anything. it would only reinforce their bad behavior. -
Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/10/2010 1:06 PM EST
- DRezCMPS
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thx pinkkittie
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Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/10/2010 1:16 PM EST
- kargiver
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I agree with Pink - sarcasm will only make you feel good for a second and then you'll regret stooping to that level for a long time. Relationships change; sounds like this one has. -
Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/10/2010 1:23 PM EST
- DRezCMPS
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thx kargiver...it's unfortunate as he was an old HS friend. -
Re: Thank you note
posted at 11/10/2010 1:34 PM EST
- kargiver
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It is too bad, and my heart always hurts for friendships that become obviously not what they once were. But, over the years I've come to be able to appreciate friendships for what they were for the time they were and mourn their "passing" quicker. That moment you discover it's not what it was, though, is always disappointing. There are very few relationships that withstand lifetimes of constant change so be extra thankful for those! :)