Posted by Goodness1
It is. But you are changing the subject. If the only point were to be in the presence of love and celebrate, then we surely wouldn't need expensive clothes and flowers and limos and favors and gifts and before and after parties.
The question before us is not, should we have a wedding, it is, when one is entertaining, is it proper to charge one's guests for refreshment. The answer is, no, it is not proper.
One should provide the level of entertainment and refreshment of which one is capable. In other words, throw the kind of party you can afford, do not rely on your guests to pick up some of the cost.
To another point earlier, yes, I was once offended by having to buy drinks while the couple spent over an hour taking pictures in their limousine with their fancy champagne. And yes, the flowers were lovely.
In most cases, I simply buy myself a drink and don't think anything of it - but as Ash has said, I would never do that at a party I hosted.