What to wear?
posted at 7/31/2011 10:20 PM EDT
So my boyfriend's half-sister is getting married in December and we just spent some time with his dad and stepmom who made me rethink my outfit choice for the evening... I know I have plenty of time to find something to wear, but it is on my mind so I thought I would post.
A little background- boyfriend's half-sister is younger. They haven't spent much time together and his dad has been a bit of an absent parent. Boyfriend can't stand stepmom and I have trouble getting along with her as well. To say the relationships are rocky at times and then impersonal at best is pretty accurate. Still, boyfriend was asked to be a groomsman and he accepted, saying he hopes he can get to know his sister better.
So the attire issue- stepmom has informed me that they wanted the wedding to be black tie, but changed it to formal on the invitation. The venue is a banquet hall in New Jersey and it looks relatively formal- more over the top than any banquet hall I've seen in Massachusetts. The wedding is at 3:00 and the cocktail hour starts at 6 so they'll be a gap, but both mother and daughter have insisted it is an "evening wedding" and therefore, everyone will be dressed up.
My plan was to wear a bridesmaid dress from a wedding I was in last year that I will shorten from floor length to just above the knee. My thinking was the fabric and style were more formal than other dresses and would fit next to boyfriend's tux better. The dress was altered to fit me perfect and is in great shape, so I would like to wear it again (this is a similar dress in a similar color: http://www.dessy.com/dresses/bridesmaid/6621/)
. Stepmom thinks this is way too informal. Daughter seems to think I'll be fine. Stepmom was almost infuriated that I wasn't planning to wear an evening gown or buy a new dress.
The issue is not around the bridesmaid dresses (a completely different color and style, long and cranberry red). I think stepmom is just being difficult, but I also want to fit in with the other guests who are mostly from the New Jersey New York City area so I'm not familar with how dressed up people get.
Has anyone been to a wedding in that area?