Budgeting- help!

  1. You have chosen to ignore posts from NEbride2010. Show NEbride2010's posts

    Budgeting- help!

    Hi ladies,

    I am new to this board...and need some help! I am starting to plan a 2010 wedding and am having a hard time determining what total budget to aim for. I haven't had a lot of friends get married yet and no one wants to say how much they spent on their wedding. I've been looking at books and the internet but they all seem to be out of date and generalized for the U.S. as a whole.

    My question is, what in your opinion will it cost to have a smaller "upscale" (nice but not gaudy) wedding for around 75 people in Eastern MA or RI (excluding Boston proper and Newport)? Venue is the most important thing to me (dream = mansion like Crane Estate or Aldrich), and I am OK with scrimping on everything else, but do need to do a dinner reception (Ok on Fri or Sun if cheaper). Also flexible on month but Sept would be ideal.

    Is $25K way off? $30K? More? I'm just totally lost...

    Thanks in advance for your advice!
     
  2. You have chosen to ignore posts from Vanessa11382. Show Vanessa11382's posts

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    Maybe its just me but I think you do it for less than 20k for 75 people. Maybe far less than 20k.
     
  3. You have chosen to ignore posts from jag27. Show jag27's posts

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    I think instead of having a "number" in your head, like $20K, I would price out different vendors to see what their pricing is first. Get some pricing for the different venues you like and see what it will cost per head. Also do the same for the photographer, DJ/Band, Flowers, dress, etc. Some vendors will post their pricing, but just request information if they don't. If you realize that you can't afford your dream venue when you want it (Sat night in Sept), see if the Fri night or Sun option will work. This will give you a better idea of what it will cost and see if it will work within your budget.
     
  4. You have chosen to ignore posts from framerican51008. Show framerican51008's posts

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    I would say that you could spend a LOT less than 20k if you're only having 75 guests. We're inviting between 180 and 200 and our total will come to under 25k, including honeymoon and everything.
    You seem very flexible, so I don't think 20k would be necessary... Only thing I can think of is that the venues you mentioned might have minimums, but maybe you can get around that by doing a Fri or Sun like you mentioned.
     
  5. You have chosen to ignore posts from 2009Bride2Be. Show 2009Bride2Be's posts

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    I have to agree - I think for 75 people, $20k would make for a really, really nice wedding.

    The venue will make a big difference in the price but since you're having a small reception I think that opens you up to a number of lovely venues at various price points, especially staying out of the city.

    If it helps at all my Photographer is $4k and my DJ (who also plays the piano & sings) is $1500. You can definitely get pics for less but we fell in love w/ our guy and wanted to put the money towards pictures.

    I think what you'll hear a lot is to pick a budget you can comfortably afford and then plan around it but I was never able to grasp the full picture and what was realistic when planning. I think if you can afford $20k and want to budget around that, you should be able to come in under that amount. If you want to get a ballpark, the venue will be the bulk of your budget. You could check out the websites of a few venues for pricing (many have pricing right on their site). That will at least get you started as to what to expect. I think I've read that the venue is typically 50% of your budget??? Something like that.

    Sorry for the long rambling message - good luck!
     
  6. You have chosen to ignore posts from irishchick. Show irishchick's posts

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    I figure it this way as minimum starting costs but these are guidelines and you can find ways to not even spend this much:
    Venue: $2500+
    Food: $100+/person
    Drink: $30+/person
    Photographer: $2500+
    DJ: $800+
    Band: $4000+
    Invitations: $6+/each
    Cake: $3.75+/slice
    Officiant: $125+
    Flowers: $75+/centerpiece
    Bouquets: $100+/each

    And there's more to go on top of that: ceremony space, if applicable; transportation; rentals/upgraded linens, if applicable; save the date cards and other stationary; favors; videography; other flowers, etc.

    $20K will get you a lovely 75 person wedding.
     
  7. You have chosen to ignore posts from kargiver. Show kargiver's posts

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    You can do a very elegant 75 person wedding here for about $20k, possibly under. Check out the Wayside Inn - it's a historic landmark so it's non-profit.

    Wayside Inn
     
  8. You have chosen to ignore posts from Brighton1. Show Brighton1's posts

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    You can definitely plan a nice wedding for 75 people on less than $25k. Have you looked at Linden Place in RI? My photographer posted pictures on her blog from a wedding there and they were gorgeous. Fridays & Sundays are discounted, especially in the off-season. My mom looked into Aldrich Mansion for my wedding, but it was like $7500 just to rent. A little more than we wanted to spend! If you want to go the mansion route, watch out for the rental costs. They can really add up.

    http://www.lindenplace.org/wedding_photo.htm
     
  9. You have chosen to ignore posts from Missy509. Show Missy509's posts

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    you can definitely have a wedding here for 75 people for less than 20k, it just depends on the venue you want to have it at. Some do not charge venue room fees, some charge up to $10,000 plus (think Newport, etc) just to use the facility!

    I would sit down with your FI, parents, whomever is actually paying for this, and figure out exactly how much you can afford. Then I would select venues online that interest you. you can go to sites such as the knot, etc to find a good list, and then look at the venue's pricing. be sure to always ask if they charge a room fee, because some of them will not tell you about it until you are there visiting, unless you ask.

    where you choose to get married will have a huge impact on the cost of your wedding.
     
  10. You have chosen to ignore posts from pinkkittie18. Show pinkkittie18's posts

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    you can have an upscale wedding for under 20k with only 75 guests. You just have to find a venue you like with reasonable food prices. My venue (New England Aquarium) was $2,500 to rent the space and $60 a head for food. We were able to save by doing a package- station dinner instead of a served dinner.
     
  11. You have chosen to ignore posts from miniquiche. Show miniquiche's posts

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    While I totally agree that you can have a fabulous wedding for 75 guests on $20,000, doing anything downtown in the city can be more than that. I'd priced out a couple of the downtown hotels and historic venues as being about $15,000-$17,000 for food & beverage and fees for 75 guests (nice menus, open bar, taxes and fees all came out to around $200), if that helps at all. So you'd have to add in all the extras like photography, dress, transportation, etc. on top of that figure, which I think would put you closer to $30,000...

    Just be sure to watch out for the nasty taxes and fees where ever you go- it's often 20% of your food cost, which can be a big egg to swallow when you're not prepared for it!

    Good luck though!
     
  12. You have chosen to ignore posts from downtoearth. Show downtoearth's posts

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    Start by contacting the Crane Estate and ask. Another upscale mansion is the Emerson Inn in Rockport. Their advantage is they have rooms for guests. Disadvantage is they only do afternoon weddings.

    They will give you a ball park figure for the reception. Add $500 for the ceremony, whatever you plan for the dress, shoes, veil. I wouldn't count rings in the budget, but it might make sense to do so. Flowers can run from $500 up. I spent $700 on 1 bride, 3 bridesmaids and several coursages and boutineers - no centerpieces. Limos cost more. Check out North Shore Shuttle and ask them their price. Start adding up and upgrading and cutting from there.
     
  13. You have chosen to ignore posts from octbride09. Show octbride09's posts

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    The Crane Estate is very expensive to rent. It's a $6,000 rental fee just for Friday's. Sunday's and holidays it's $7,500 and Saturday's it's $8K.
     
  14. You have chosen to ignore posts from kargiver. Show kargiver's posts

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    Any venue can give you a per person range for their weddings; they've done thousands of them and KNOW how much they cost. As for other wedding related items, here's what we paid (80 people):

    Horse and carriage, $200
    Dress, VOWS, $725 (Designer silk gown worth $1000s)
    Alterations, Anahit $400
    Shoes $75
    Veil $70
    Flowers, $650 (2 bouquets, coursages, bouts, unity candle wreath and candles)
    Tux $100
    Flower girl's dress $114
    Wedding Rings $1000
    Invitations $400
    Gifts (MOH, Best Man, 2 ushers, pianist (family), DJ (friend), flower girl, ring bearer) $1500
    Photographer $2500
    Do-it-yourself escort cards, table number crafts, etc, $200
    Postage Stamps for Inviations $80
     

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