Re: Facebook Nonsense
posted at 9/8/2011 10:17 PM EDT
In Response to Re: Facebook Nonsense
[QUOTE]If he saw losing her as a potential dating partner as a risk he'd have done something about it by now. That's not to say she isn't worth asking out, of course. He just doesn't want to for whatever reason, and, based on his background, I'm assuming it has nothing to do with lmb or how attractive (whole package) she is. And, the longer she hopes he'll "come around," the longer she'll be tied up emotionally in a pseudo-relationship going nowhere that might prevent her from noticing a truly available man who might show real interest in her. lmb, I hope you'll consider this and move on - remember the song lyrics, "It's sad to be stuck with someone else when the right one comes along," or something like that. Of course, you're not actually "with" this guy, but emotionally speaking you're involved in the fantasy of who you wish he were and the relationship you wish you had which mimics being in an unhealthy relationship in many ways. Hope you're doing well, rdg, with your FB dilemma. I haven't checked the other thread in awhile.
Posted by kargiver[/QUOTE]
The thread where I shut him down was a thread about a date. He was working up to asking me out for coffee.
Also - this guy hasn't been ready to date ANYONE - he's still adjusting to his divorce, getting his kids settled, and he has a heavy travel schedule. He doesn't know what he's looking for (he's talked about it) - and he listens to me. When I gave him the standard LL advise (e.g. heal from your divorce, get used to being single) he took it to heart.
I put out a feeler about how hard it is to meet 'blog people'. It's the best I can do to repair the damage.
But I'm also not going to invest any additional energy. If the timing wasn't right, it wasn't meant to be.