Lessons from Love Letters

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    If you leave a journal standing up with a big sign that says "DON'T READ THIS JOURNAL OR ELSE"....  someone is going to read it.
     
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    orchidkitty, Agreed.

    I posted that comment later at night when I'm feeling more sensitive & vulnerable. 

    Now that it's morning & I'm feeling my Sicilian self, I should have wrote, "Listen to your head as the heart can lead us astray."

    But we should always be true to ourself.

     
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    Don't masturbate to violent porn with your girlfriend sleeping in the next room. But, if you must, at least try to keep your noise level down.
     
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    Don't cheat. Ever. Rico will destroy you.

     
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    Well, some people need practical advice.

    Seriously, what was that LW's BF thinking?
     
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    Le petit mort becomes le grand mort, OrchidKitty?
     
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    Don't masturbate to violent porn with your girlfriend sleeping in the next room. But, if you must, at least try to keep your noise level down.
    Posted by captainfriday


    Or for God's sake, close the door.
     
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    I'd add:   "No matter what you say and how clearly you say it, someone will interpret it to mean the exact opposite of what you intended." and: "If you think you had problems when you wrote your letter, wait until you read all of the additional problems people *think* you have."
    Posted by Jim-in-Littleton


     
    Seebz sayz:  HAAAAAAAAA HAAAAA AAAAHAAAAA!!!
    Very very true on both of what you said Jim-in-Littleton! (rolmao)
    Also, I'd like to say - IF IN THE BEGINNING of a relationship you feel it won't work because of different values and outlooks and goals then BREAK UP IMMEDIATELY because if you give it a chance and then you fall in love - THEN HE'LL END UP BEING THE JERK IN THE END AND DUMPING YOU AT THE WORST POSSIBLE TIME IN YOUR LIFE AND HE WON'T GIVE A DARN.  In other words - DON'T SETTLE or else it'll come back and dump you.
     
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    you gotta love a thread that references the Darwin Awards
     
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    1) It's ok to be alone

    2) When getting out of a relationship, give yourself time to learn and understand your part in the breakup, before you move into another relationship.  Or you will be doomed to repeat your mistakes.

    3) Get a horse (if you're a man) or a sundress.
     
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    Some times it's a good idea to step away from the vortex for a while... if you can!
     
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    Don't feed the trolls. 

    Quoting the trolls is feeding the trolls. 

     
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    1. Don't even acknowledge the trolls.  i know, I'm the LAST one to talk after today, but to be fair, today was an exception.  Usually trolls are just jerks in general, but the viciousness of today's attack on MoVa was just unbelievable and unforgivable.

    2. And my other rule - that I would never post anything on the blog that I wouldn't say in person - is still in effect.  I would absolutely have said what I did in person to him. (wait, was that a dangling participle?

    3. Never dangle your participles.
     
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    1) Cupcakes are delicious.  DG doesn't like them.
    2) Any strange alcoholic beverage must be discussed, then tried at the next LL gathering (e.g. chocolate cake shots).
    3) DNFTT.
    4) Never assume anything.
    5) Cheating is bad, mmmkay?  Rico hates cheaters (and used to be one himself).
    6) Snark is the commenter's best and most prized weapon.
    7) B00BS!  B00BS!  B00BS!  B00BS!  :::fist-bumps Smashy, hands over $1 bill:::
    8) Shoes are an acceptable topic.
    9) Be nice, dammit!  You people need to be nice to each other! :::hands Lily- $1 bill:::
    10) EVERYTHING I NEED TO KNOW IN LIFE, I LEARNED ON LOVE LETTERS! Laughing
     
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    In Response to Re: Lessons from Love Letters : JBar, I don't know why today would be an exception because as far as I can tell, hottubguy is not a troll. He was not having one of his finer moments, true. I had issues with him a few weeks ago; we messaged each other. He clarified his points and apologized for offending me. I thought I saw him apologize to MoVa too, but a lot of posts have been removed. He did apologize to me on my home page. Either way, come on. Forgive him. Don't hold grudges. Move on. I also think it some of the names he got called (there was even an expletive used once or twice) were cruel. If someone is a jerk to you or to a friend, don't be a jerk back. It's a simple as that. Personally, I got really annoyed at the way he was taunted by the group. The cat avatars was in part a move to alienate him. I remember the day I left in a huff, and a bunch of people started saying "Ding-dong the witch is dead" and then preceded to post Wizard of Oz avatars. I can deal with people critisizing my behavior because it wasn't always pretty (I believe I have improved in the area), but to gang up and change your avatar as a sign of solidarity against "meanies" is mean too. Maybe more so because you do it en mass. I say this all with respect and not to demean or scold anyone. What I saw today -- well, I don't know about you but when people talk about how we mock and pick on people we don't like -- I saw it today. Okay, so I was scolding. But you know what? Today's argument left the letter writer in cold. When she could have had advice, she got infighting. That kind of sucked.
    Posted by Sally-


    Sally I understand where you are coming from but I will disagree on a couple of fronts.  One, he did not apologize to MoVa.  The more people told him how mean he was, the more cruel he became to her.  When other people leaped in to defend her, he demanded that SHE apologize to HIM for posting her news, which I found astonishing.   Two, the cat avatars were not meant to taunt him - they were meant to comfort HER. Three, taking the focus off the LW was not my fault, it was his.  He posted what he knew would be an inflammable post and completely got off on the rise it got out of everyone.  So I don't blame me and I don't blame MoVa. I blame him.  Four, the posts reacting to his comments were removed but last I looked, his actual comments are still there.  So he or one of his fans were reporting my comments, but I never reported his.  I wanted them to stay posted and visible, as a testament to his meanness.  Lastly, and this one is delicate - perhaps MoVa felt that she could share this sad news since your recent similar post was received with warmth, and compassion, and sympathy.  She was completely blindsided by his cruel comments, and crueler retorts.


     
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    I said the f-bomb.  Twice.  I can agree that it wasn't my best moment here, but perhaps we're all just having a bad day, and it hit the right spot.  That said, I did apologize in the blog, and I'll apologize again for it here.  I'm sorry for crossing the line and offending people (namely, you Sally-).

    I really just hope we can drop all of this balderdash so we can get back to the regular horsehockey that us sons-of-guns are well known for, like joking about each others' genitalia, making sexual innuendo, and being passive-aggressive to alienate others.  No more f-bombs though.

    :-)
     
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    I checked in last night to find the remainder of yesterday's comments and these comments.

    Another choice when you don't like something someone posted is to just ignore it. Change the topic and move on. Chances are it'll get buried. Johnny, for one, is great at putting something funny in that will distract everyone.

    There is also a choice to report something offensive as "attack on another commenter" and put in that the person is just trying to start a fight. Sometimes that's exactly what a commenter is doing - trying to discharge their own tension by picking a fight.

    There are at least two people who like to post, sometimes under new names, purely to try to get fights going. If I detect one, I post "There ain't no sanity clause." Other people post "radio silence" or DNFTT.

    I don't believe in censorship as a general rule and I rarely report anything, but it seems to be necessary to use the report function to keep this blog reasonably civil.  It seems on a daily basis to be a group of cordial friends, but it's really not limited to that. Anyone can read and anyone can post, and you might not like their opinion. The comment about the LW's boyfriend being a loser was idiotic and cruel, but it was pretty informative as to how some people think. In my mind it was OK for the LW to read that; it probably never occurred to her that she and her BF were being viewed with that level of hostility and ignorance. New information.

    Being nasty about a family pet dying, though, is one of those things that just should have been reported immediately, because it had no redeeming value and was designed to pick a fight. IMHO.
     
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    Being nasty about a family pet dying, though, is one of those things that just should have been reported immediately, because it had no redeeming value and was designed to pick a fight. IMHO.
    Posted by Green-Mountain-Views




    And that is why it's extremely disappointing that THOSE posts (or at least some of them) remain, but so many others have been removed.  Those comments were designed specifically to HURT, and they were unnecessarily cruel.  Which speaks a lot to the character of the person who wrote them.
     
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    This goes along with a post that someone else says, but most of the time if you're asking what someone's problem is we'll tell you what YOUR problem is.

    And I don't care how "selfless" you've been all your life, no one is going to tell you it's ok to steal someone's else boyfriend. Especially your best friend/roomate's.
     
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    I think it was Porkchop that pointed out underneath all the cruelty, people usually have a point. I think it's safe to say, if you want to be heard, don't be angry.
     
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    In Response to Re: Lessons from Love Letters : No offense taken from me, Porkchop. Speaking of the f-bomb... I think it's used so often that it's lost its shock value. In some quarters, it's become almost like saying "darn."  And sometimes, it seems appropriate...  For example, even though I'm an avid gardener, I am afraid of spiders, frogs, and snakes. Earlier this week, I was just finishing breakfast when I thought to myself, hey self, you should go out and empty the pool filter basket. So, I trotted out to the pool, pulled off the cover of the filter basket cover, reached in, and grabbed the filter basket handle. When I pulled out the basket, not one, not two, but THREE FROGS leaped out at me! I screamed the f-bomb and hurled the basket into the shrubbery. Most of the neighbors have school-age children, but so far, nobody has knocked at my door to complain. And actually, if anyone was to be offended, it would probably be the moms, because I've heard the kids swear like sailors when they are playing in the street and out of earshot of their parents. So, there you go. 
    Posted by orchidkitty



    Um, orchidkitty, if anyone was to be offended, it would probably be the frogs.


     
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    In Response to Re: Lessons from Love Letters : Um, orchidkitty, if anyone was to be offended, it would probably be the frogs.
    Posted by EnjoyEverySandwich



    I sure am offended, and I'm not even French.
     
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    A good thing to remember with trolls, or basically with any posting on the interwebz, is that nobody can MAKE you feel something.  And if you do feel something, you still have a choice about how to respond. 

    It's usually a good idea to sit back for a moment and ask "now why did that %#&^* post that Adolph Hitler liked kittens?"  If it's to get a reaction, the best response is usually not to give one. 

    And can I say that I wish the mods wouldn't remove so many posts.  It's really hard to keep up with what the heck is going on, when all the clues are removed.
     
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