Re: need advice - dating a person with children
posted at 1/27/2011 3:55 PM EST
In Response to Re: need advice - dating a person with children
[QUOTE]B3 - How long did you know kids before your BF moved into your apt? We built a lot of trust and familiarity before coming together. Their dad needs to explain that he is happy, moving forward and wants them to be a positive part of his life. Look...I play the mean ol' daddy while Mrs. V feeds 'em sugar, paints nails and pops popcorn. She raised kids of her own so she has perspective. I enjoy her input about my kids. Why is it again that his kids don't live with him? That 'everyday' thing is a perfect time to build the trust. Intermittent contact makes it tough. You guys are babysitting...not raising kids.
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i knew the kids several months before the children knew he was living with me....and to be quite honest, they're totally fine with us living together. as they love to come into town(the 2 younger ones)(and when they do come into town, i stay on the couch and they all stay in my bedroom) and on several occasions ive had the kids without him(basically until he comes home from work)
we've putzed around town, went to museums, top of the hub visitor center, duck tours...so the kids and i get along great..
wife won custodial parent
as for why he doesnt have a place.... that's another long story...
lost his job last january 1/10, had to move out of apartment, moved into relative's apartment. then we started dating and voila, it just naturally morphed into him living with me...
i do agree we(or he) are baby sitting not raising... and that is one of the issues i have with him when he sees them... there is very little in guidance/parental input. its more like " lets have fun and not rock any boats while i have them"
which to me, is not helping the larger picture in instilling good values/ethics/respect .
so i have been watching from the sidelines