greginmeffa - outed

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    greginmeffa - outed

    OK, cards on the table, "outed" should be " - a tribute".

    About 13 months ago, greginmeffa began inviting anyone who would come to the Malden Church of the Immaculate Conception Knights of Columbus chapter's St. Patrick's Day benefit dinner.  He kept it up here for a month.

    Greg's style was mostly "zingers".  They usually were short, cogent, and on the opposite side from me.  But they were often so sharply wry that I once suggested that if he only could draw, that he'd make a good political cartoonist.  I also picked up when he let it slip that he was actually married to one of us.  And I appreciated his integrity - that he didn't change his name after the election.  So I bit.

    When I turned up, I told someone who looked like he was involved in managing the event that I was looking for "Greg", and all that I knew was his first name was Greg, he lived in Medford, he participated in a political forum, and he was conservative.  TMI.  "The only Greg I know of is over there at the piano."

    There, his back to the vast church basement, was Greg, waxing away beautifully on the piano.  I approached him when the piece was finished, and asked, "Are you 'greginmeffa'?  The little smile was all the answer he got out.  "I am Firewind and I did see the Dalai Lama at the Meadow Glen Mall."  The sun dawning on his face was perfect.  All he could say was, "You came!"

    "Seems to me that you only write when it can be boiled down to a few words."  The grin again.  That was as far as we took it.

    I wish it were enough to say that Greg Vincent was nothing like his persona in BDC.  He was all over the place.  Greeting people.  Back at the piano.  Playing for the step dancers.  Serving.  "Take the red corned beef!  I made it!  Not the grey..."  Helping the elderly, who all knew him.  And back to me: "You came!"  What a smile.  After dinner, when coffee was put out: "Want something in it?"  "No, milk's fine."  "Do.you.want.something.in.it?!"  As Irish as Paddy's...

    I found a table among some very nice people.  Halfway through my corned beef, there was Greg, sitting at the table.  "You came!"  And, "Got everything OK?"  I'd already told the people my story.  They heard it again.

    I saw him whisper something to the first guy I'd approached.  After a while, the guy came over and handed me an application to be a member of the Knights of Columbus.  I had to decline.  "...Boston...no car...subway...bus..."  (...not Catholic...)

    Finally, "See you next year!!!"  Leaving me with a sore arm, and a warm feeling in all other respects.

    Last month, I looked up when the event was going to be this year.  March 15.  OK, not seeing him here for a while, I was going to ask, "Who are you now in BDC?"  Had he caved?  Looked up the particulars last night.  Somehow, I'd missed this...

    http://massachusetts.obituaries.funeral.com/2013/08/13/mr-gregory-vincent-8102013-medford-ma-malden-ma-somerville-ma-boston-ma/

    So ................. I;m heading over there now, and I'm going to tell everyone I meet: "I'm here because of Greg Vincent."  That way, I'll see his smile again.

    One last thing.  You haven't seen me on the board for a year now.  And if I may: That's the way to prevail.  He took the pi$$ right out of me.  Twice, now.

     
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    Thanks for sharing that wonderful story, and the very sad information. So sorry to hear of Greg's passing!

    He has already been sorely missed.

     
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    Thanks for sharing. This news bums me out.

     
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    That is a bummer. I figured something tragic must have happened based on the way he abruptly stopped posting. Part of me did have some hope it was because he was just done with BDC, but sadly that wasn't the case. 

     
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    In response to Firewind's comment:
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    OK, cards on the table, "outed" should be " - a tribute".

    About 13 months ago, greginmeffa began inviting anyone who would come to the Malden Church of the Immaculate Conception Knights of Columbus chapter's St. Patrick's Day benefit dinner.  He kept it up here for a month.

    Greg's style was mostly "zingers".  They usually were short, cogent, and on the opposite side from me.  But they were often so sharply wry that I once suggested that if he only could draw, that he'd make a good political cartoonist.  I also picked up when he let it slip that he was actually married to one of us.  And I appreciated his integrity - that he didn't changw his name after the election.  So I bit.

    When I turned up, I told someone who looked like he was involved in managing the event that I was looking for "Greg", and all that I knew was his first name was Greg, he lived in Medford, he participated in a political forum, and he was conservative.  TMI.  "The only Greg I know of is over there at the piano."

    There, his back to the vast church basement, was Greg, waxing away beautifully on the piano.  I approached him when the piece was finished, and asked, "Are you 'greginmeffa'?
      The little smile was all the answer he got out.  "I am Firewind and I did see the Dalai Lama at the Meadow Glen Mall."  The sun dawning on his face was perfect.  All he could say was, "You came!"

    "Seems to me that you only write when it can be boiled down to a few words."  The grin again.  That was as far as we took it.

    I wish it were enough to say that Greg Vincent was nothing like his persona in BDC.  He was all over the place.  Greeting people.  Back at the piano.  Playing for the step dancers.  Serving.  "Take the red corned beef!  I made it!  Not the grey..."  Helping the elderly, who all knew him.  And back to me: "You came!"  What a smile.  After dinner, when coffee was put out: "Want something in it?"  "No, milk's fine."  "Do.you.want.something.in.it?!"  As Irish as Paddy's...

    I found a table among some very nice people.  Halfway through my corned beef, there was Greg, sitting at the table.  "You came!"  And, "Got everything OK?"  I'd already told the people my story.  They heard it again.

    I saw him whisper something to the first guy I'd approached.  After a while, the guy came over and handed me an application to be a member of the Knights of Columbus.  I had to decline.  "...Boston...no car...subway...bus..."  (...not Catholic...)

    Finally, "See you next year!!!"  Leaving me with a sore arm, and a warm feeling in all other respects.

    Last month, I looked up when the event was going to be this year.  March 15.  OK, not seeing him here for a while, I was going to ask, "Who are you now in BDC?"  Had he caved?  Looked up the particulars last night.  Somehow, I'd missed this...

    http://massachusetts.obituaries.funeral.com/2013/08/13/mr-gregory-vincent-8102013-medford-ma-malden-ma-somerville-ma-boston-ma/

    So ................. I;m heading over there now, and I'm going to tell everyone I meet: "I'm here because of Greg Vincent."  That way, I'll see his smile again.

    One last thing.  You haven't seen me on the board for a year now.  And if I may: That's the way to prevail.  He took the pi$$ right out of me.  Twice, now.

    [/QUOTE]

    Thank you for sharing such a well written, bitter-sweet post. RIP greginmeffa.

     
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    R.I.P.

     
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    I'm breaking from my lenten break for a moment.

    Thank you for posting Firewind. I searched to find GreginMeffa's last post, unfortunatly the BDC gremlin got all his posts :(

    Rest in peace Greg...thoughts and prayers to his family.

     
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    What a shame. 52. RIP greginmeffa. 

     
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    I have a lump in my throat. RIP Gregin. I hope you're grilling up a storm wherever you are. 

     
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    Re: greginmeffa - outed

    Very sad news, I wondered what had happened to him.  I always enjoyed his onlingers.  Nice to see that much of what he shared was his real life.

     

    R.I.P.

     

     

     
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    Kind of makes things around here feel a bit more human, instead of anonymous political bloggers.

     

    R.I.P Greg... 

     
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    Cheers to a good man, taken too soon.  

     
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    I don't get to come here very often but, when I did, I noticed he hadn't been posting.  He was funny and quick.  Gone too soon.  RIP Greg.

     
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    R.I.P.

     

    From one software consultant to another...he was a worthy foil, indeed.

     

     

     
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    He was a person I enjoyed having the pleasure of speaking to.

    A regular on the Music forums ,a fellow Pink Floyd and Ritchie Blackmore fan....if that was all he was, it was worth it....but surely it seems he was so much more. 

    What a tragic loss. 52 seems so young, especially to someone who is 3 years older and expects to be here tormenting others for a while longer.

     
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    In response to ZILLAGOD's comment:

    He was a person I enjoyed having the pleasure of speaking to.

    A regular on the Music forums ,a fellow Pink Floyd and Ritchie Blackmore fan....if that was all he was, it was worth it....but surely it seems he was so much more. 

    What a tragic loss. 52 seems so young, especially to someone who is 3 years older and expects to be here tormenting others for a while longer.



    2013soxchamps has bumped some threads where Greg contributed, and you two remind me of another conversation.  Greg came up to me and said, out of the blue, "Do you like the guitar picture?  That's really my guitar!"  He told me its provenance - 1960-something, I can't remember, and I can't remember whether he said it was a Fender or Gibson.  He was so proud of it.

     
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