Baby Shower???

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    Baby Shower???

    Hello,

    I just got an invitation to attend a baby shower and wonder what I should do. attend or not?
    Here is a snapshots of events. My husband and futur father to be were really good friends growing up (basically until they got married). I had a bridal shower years ago the futur mother didn't attend, we got our baby and just got a congrats card (I didn't grow up with the whole shower culture). I didn't see these people for almost 2 years!
    in my shoes what will you do?
    Thanks a lot for your input!
     
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    Re: Baby Shower???

    I don't see what the problem is here.  If you want to attend and take the mother-to-be a gift, then go.  If you don't want to, then decline.

    My best friend had a baby shower for me two weeks ago.  I'd say about 60% of the people invited attended.  One person who didn't attend sent along a present anyway.  The rest didn't.  I'm perfectly happy with that.  I have no idea why they didn't come - some where busy, some probably didn't want to buy me anything.  It's not a big deal - really.  I was just happy to celebrate with those who did show up.
     
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    Re: Baby Shower???

    Thanks! I am from a country where baby showers don't exist and I always think if I am invited to showers to people I barely know I always think they are more after my gift then my presence
     
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    Re: Baby Shower???

    If you think that they are more after a gift than your presence then you should definitely decline.
    A shower invitation is just that, an invitation to attend an event. They aren't a bill for a present or gift card.  Like all invitations you are free to decline or attend as you wish. 
    Seems like the best thing to do is send a congratulatory card when the baby is born - just as the expectant parents did when you had your baby.
    :)
     
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    Re: Baby Shower???

    Just because you are from a culture that doesn't have showers, I wouldn't assume that every shower invitation is a gift-grabby thing in which they couldn't care less if you attended.  In this country, showers are for the people to come and celebrate the impending birth of a baby and gifts are customary.  If you are invited to a shower, your presence is as important as anything else.  If they didn't want you there, you wouldn't be invited simply for your gift.
     

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