Do you eat while you shop?

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    Do you eat while you shop?

    A pregnant mom was arrested for eating a sandwich in a store and it has started a debate about whether or not it's OK to eat while you shop.

    I am guilty. I rip open things and give them to my children to keep them happy while we shop. I just make sure the item is in a package with a bar code so they can scan it at the register. No one has ever said anything to me at the register.

    Anyone else eat or feed your children food you haven't paid for yet while you shop?

    Here's the story: http://www.boston.com/community/moms/articles/2011/11/04/sandwich_arrest_stirs_debate_over_eating_in_stores/
     
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    Arrested?  Ridiculous. 

    I agree with ALF that it's wrong, but I have to admit that once every few years I've been guilty of opening and eating something in the store.  

    If I had kids, we'd eat before we went.  Kids are messy, and I wouldn't feel right about leaving a trail of cheese puffs behind our cart.
     
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    The parents were arrested after they were done with paying for their groceries, forgetting to pay for the item eaten. I agree that it was an extreme reaction, however, the woman not only ate the sandwich but they walked out without paying for it... even if it was not intentional. I don't think the store should have had both parents arrested and result in having their child taken away though.

    I am one of those who prefer to have paid for something before eating/drinking. In my mind, I see those actions as stealing/shoplifting and I know I don't want to count on myself to remember that I ate something earlier while I am in checkout.

    But, I do expect to see changes over time where you pretty much pay as you scan the items... in which case, this will become moot. When that day happens - and seems to be getting closer - where we can just scan the item with our phone and pay right there via whatever payment agent (paypal or similar), then it will be interesting to see how grocery shopping will evolve.
     
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    She should not have been arrested.

    However, it is wrong to eat something before you've paid for it.  Pick it up, pay for it, and then eat it, while you shop [if you must] or before.  Grocery stores are also incredibly unhygenic, so unless you are slathering yourself and the cart w/ antibacterial wipes or gel before you go in and then proceed to much while pushing around a cart, you are basically eating in a toilet.   I always carry snacks in my purse for myself in the event that I get hungry, so I don't get why it was so difficult to either plan ahead or if you were so hungry when you got there, just sit down in the cafe section of the store for a snack before you begin shopping.     
     
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    I bring food with us to the grocery store.  Just a few crackers to keep DD happy in the cart.  However, I have both:
    a) ripped open a bag of something and nibbled before paying, and
    b) walked out of a store accidentally not paying for something (twice)

    Resorting to actual ARREST is a huge overdramatic reaction that will be permanently on this woman's record, and probably scarred their child for life.  Unless there was some other backstory with this couple that isn't noted (like prior theft), it just makes no sense.

    My best friend was in a grocery store with her 2 boys, ages 6 and 4, and pregnant with her third child.  Her younger boy is on the Autism spectrum and was having a full-on temper tantrum as she went through the self-checkout line.  She was so distracted by him and wanting to get out of the store that she scanned all of her items then bagged them and left, accidentaly not paying.  I could not IMAGINE if she then got ARRESTED for it.
     
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    I have reason to believe DD has shoplifted . We left a grocery store and underneath of her of legs was a jar of baby food.  I believe I probably should turn her in...

     
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    I've don't think I've ever opened something and eaten it.  I bet there is more to this story though.  The whole arrest seems a little extreme, but I bet this wasn't really an accident. Why did she put the wrapper away in her bag?   

    About a year ago, my 10 y.o. son was really thirsty when we had stopped at Trader Joe's after school.  I told him to get an individual bottle of water and start drinking it.  He got the water, but would NOT drink it.  I told him it was fine, and that we'd keep the empty bottle in the cart and pay for it with everything else, but he said it was stealing and suffered through the store until we checked out! lol
     
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    I don't feed my kids in the grocery store - I give them some item to hold for me.  They like to "help".
    The only time I ever ate something in the store was when I was pregnant.  My Dh looked at me and said, "are you ok?" I was about the faint. Grabbed a chocolate milk and chugged it right down. Paid for it when we checked out.

    The produce guy told me he finds cherry pits in the cherry section all the time.  People eat the cherries and leave the pits right there. Gross!
    And no - these people probably shouldn't have been arrested. I suspect there is more to this story than meets the eye.
     
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    There may be a lot more to this story than the article says. Maybe the store had the family "under watch". If it was a single incident, no - they should not have been arrested, and their child should under no circumstances have been removed from them.
    If the lady was that hungry, she needed a sandwich, she should have picked it up, paid for it and eaten it before she did her shopping. Or even better, she should have eaten at home before they went shopping or kept a small sandwich in her pocket book. She knew she was pregnant, and she knew, there was a possibility to become hungry after the long walk.
    I could never imagine eating anything in a grocery store. Alf is right, it is like eating in a rest room. One of the dirtiest items ever is the grocery cart. When I had young children, I kept a small bag of animal crackers in my purse - just incase it was needed.
    I have on occasion - like on a very hot summerday - picked up a bottle of water from the store's fridge and started drinking it the store. But I have always kept the empty bottle and paid for it on my way out.
    Munching on fruit is a no-no IMO. How are you going to put that on the scale and pay for it? I have seen customers picking up apples and given one to each of their children to munch on while they were shopping. To me that is theft. - Pingo
     
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    Oh, that reminds me of a time that I did open a bottle of water and drank half of it in the store.  I was so parched that I was recalling an episode of "I Shouldn't Be Alive," in which they said dehydration kills you by causing kidney failure.  Anyway, I used the self-checkout, and it was smart enough to know that the item was the "wrong weight," and asked me to double check that it was listing the correct thing.  I was surprised by its software's astuteness.
     
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    I am that woman with the crazy Mary Poppins bag.  I have never given DD something off a shelf to eat but I usually pack little tupperware containers of assorted snacks for her just in case she gets hungry (or if I do).  I actually do strategize to pack snacks that can't be mistaken as something I've taken off a shelf (won't bring an apple in a store even though they're one of her favorite snacks).    But I'm also the kind of person who makes a list of all the meals I"m going to make for the whole week and then plans the entire list of groceries then comparison-shops prices in circulars and makes separate lists for separate stores.  I feel like a failure if I have to go back to the supermarket after my weekly trip. 
    Not everyone is as much of a planner. 
     
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    You could core and cut up the apple and bring it in a plastic baggy if you're afraid of being accused of stealing.  I doubt anyone would think you packed a paring knife and cutting board to steal an apple. :)
     
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    Since I made the mistake of saying that eating an apple whole is "eating an apple like a grown-up" (seriously, what the heck was I thinking?--oh, I know, I was sick of cutting up apples) she now refuses to eat apples that have been precut haha.
     
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    OMG, that's hilarious!  (I'd have done the same thing, by the way.  DH loves them cut up for his lunches, and I wish he didn't care.  Maybe I'll tell him what you told DD about it, lol.)
     
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    I can't imagine eating fruit at the grocery store - without washing it??  You know how many people's hands have been all over it - argh.
     
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    Count me in  - in the group, who's DH wants cut up fruit for his lunch bag.
    LOL - Pingo
     
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    I'll be the first to admit that I don't know if I've ever gone through a grocery store where I haven't given my kids something to eat that I hadn't paid for at the time.  I've given them bananas (I always buy more and have them double weigh for the bananas consumed), deli meats and cheeses (they have the total cost of the product on the outside), juice boxes from the pack, squeezy applesauce out of the box, bags of goldfish which have been opened up, donut holes from the bakery, etc.  I have never not paid for those items when I checkout.  If I don't give them something to eat, I wouldn't spend as much in the store as I do as I would be rushing to get out of the store and food is a great way to contain my kids at the store.  Could I bring my own food?  Maybe.  Would my kids eat it?  No.  When I was in high school and worked at a small specialty grocery store people ate food more often than you would realize while in the store.  9 times out of 10 it was a mom with kids.  
     
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    I was in target this weekend and after reading this post last week, tried to pay for a yogurt smoothie pouch at the electronics section before DS started to eat it. The guy laughed at me and said to just pay later. the guy at check out looked at me and said "you don't want me to bag this do you."

    I tried!! And I am with lost- we had graham crackers and annie's bunnie cookies, but he wanted a yogurt smoothie once we were in that isle.
     
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    I agree there must be something more to this story.  It seems like people eat things in the store all of the time, it's really not a big deal unless they were constantly stealing food outright.

    I would never allow my child to eat something at the grocery store and not pay for it but for me it is nearly impossible to bring my toddler shopping and not open some item of food as a way to contain her in the cart.  Food brought from home is never as appetizing to her and feeding my child in advance doesn't do any good either - toddlers have small stomachs and can be full to the brink one minute and starving a half an hour later. We always pay for what she eats, and I don't allow her to eat produce that hasn't been washed yet, although she loves fruit and has thrown a few temper tantrums because I won't let her open a container of strawberries and eat them at the store.  But something like a bag of pretzels or raisins - totally fair game. In most cases, my daughter has one or two bites and then loses interest, which results in me bringing home several opened packaged items which she will snack on over the course of the rest of the week.  But, in opening those items, it also allows me to get my shopping done for the week, which ultimately leads to me being able to cook healthier meals for her and avoid take out. Win-win for all!

    At least where we shop, the grocery store pretty much condones kids eating.  Whenever we buy turkey meat and cheese for sandwiches for the week, the person at the deli counter will hold up the first slice to see if it's cut the way that I prefer, and 99/100 times will offer the slice of cheese, turkey etc. to my daughter for her to snack on. Our grocery store also offers "samples" of cheese, crackers, and other snacks at various stations throughout the store.  Like another poster said, it's good business to allow snacking during shopping because it keeps people around the store longer so they can buy more things.  

     
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    I certainly don't want to raise my index finger here, but parents are teachers and if we teach our children, that whenever we go to the store, we will be munching on goodies until we check out - naturally the children will expect that, every time we shop.
    But if we teach them, that grocery stores are for shopping not eating - they will understand and learn that.
    I may have been a mean mommy, but on the same note, we did not let our children eat in our cars either. Or in front of the TV for that matter. From an early age, they accepted, that eating took place at the kitchen table or at the dining table. For them that was just the way it was, when they grew up - Pingo
     
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    Once in awhile my son will eat an apple while we shop.  But then I ask the cashier to account for another one when we check out.  Though I have forgotten to on occassion.
     
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    Rama--I love shopping at wholefoods/trader Joes for that reason alone... the fact that they have samples out for everyone to try.  My daughter loves those places.  Too bad they're so far away from us.  

    Did you hear that wholefoods/TJ?  COME TO SOUTHEASTERN MA!!!  Maybe you will when we get our casino.  Then we'll be more than just a location to house your warehouses.  

    Then again, I do like to support small business, but these days grocery stores are fair game.  

    Pingo--I fully understand that I've put that expectation into my daughter's head, but I actually look forward to it because she sees grocery shopping as fun and exciting rather than a chore that needs to be done.  That and it allows me to spend time in the store rather than having to run out because my kids have low blood sugar.  In the grand scheme of things I don't feel like it's harming my kids in any way.  We all eat dinner at the table together every night, but where we eat our snacks is fair game.  
     
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    I don't let my son eat at the grocery store, the only exception is at the Deli counter when they ask if he'd like the cheese, etc., and the Bakery counter if they have the samples out.  Yes, my son is older (11) but when he was younger I brought snacks/water for him.

    How do you account for an apple when they need to be weighed?  Do you wash it first? 
     
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    Lostgrouse - I hear you on the lack of TJs/Whole Foods in Southeastern MA.  We live in that area and sorely miss those stores.  We usually drive to Needham to go to TJs and Dedham to go to Whole Foods - longer ride but worth it IMO.  I had heard a few rumors that both were coming to the Sharon/Foxboro area but haven't been confirmed by either store.  I think there was supposed to be a specialty market at the now-stalled Sharon Commons project. Such a bummer. 
     
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