Re: Where are peoples manners?
posted at 6/7/2011 11:57 AM EDT
In Response to Re: Where are peoples manners?
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Where are peoples manners? : What I am saying is that being nice is the right thing to do, and while it's great if someone thanks you for it -- and they should -- being thanked is NOT why one acts nice. If we were only kind to those who praise us for it, nobody would be nice to babies or animals, for instance. Those ingrates. Personally, I thank everyone for everything they do that's nice. Because I am a nice person. So calm down please.
Posted by lemonmelon[/QUOTE]
While I agree that you don't do nice things just to get praise, it still is annoying when you clearly go out of your way for someone, especially a stranger, and they don't acknowledge it in any way. In fact, I'd venture to say the person that doesn't say thank you is worse than the person that doesn't offer a seat. If we can assume that most people who don't offer a seat are lazy, inconsiderate jerks, I'd say the person that doesn't say thank you is self-centered and entitled. There's more of a chance that the person who doesn't offer a seat has a valid reason for not doing so - such as a disability, illness, not paying attention, etc., than the person who is getting the offer having some unknown reason for not being able to say, "THANK YOU!"
My husband, who is quite the gentleman, laughs at me because I hold doors for so long for other people, many of whom don't even smile. Two times I've seen my 9 year old grab a door as it was closing and hold it open for an adult, who didn't even say anything! Once yesterday, and then again today, I stopped short to let someone cross the street, and neither of them gave me a second glance.
I do nice things all the time, because I am a nice person, but it doesn't take away from the fact that many people don't care. Often, I find the people who complain the loudest about bad service, inconsiderate behavior, etc. are the very same type of people who come across that way to everyone else, but they're so focused on themselves, they have no clue.