Your thoughts on the Time cover?

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    Your thoughts on the Time cover?

    Lots of talk about the Time cover this week.
    If you haven't seen it, you will find it in the links below.
    Did you have a strong reaction to the cover? Here is what some of our bloggers had to say. Do you agree with any of them?

    Find out what mom blogger Kara Baskin has to say in The 24-Hour Workday:
    http://www.boston.com/community/moms/blogs/24_hour_workday/2012/05/motherhood-mom-enough-advice.html

    Barbara Meltz of Child Charing weighs in:
    http://www.boston.com/community/moms/blogs/child_caring/2012/05/time_magazine_s.html

    And here is what health blogger Deborah Kotz posted in Daily Dose:
    http://www.boston.com/Boston/dailydose/2012/05/has-attachment-parenting-gone-too-far-time-magazine-cover-says-yes/euGWReA98P8yRCUnjFklbO/story.html
     
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    OK - I'll bite. I think people should make their own choices about how they parent their children. And I don't think anyone else should judge those choices unless real harm is being done to the child.

    I will say that I strongly resent the implication of the title of the article. Whose to say I'm not "mom enough" if I didn't nurse my children for years or have them sleep in a bed with me?

    That being said, Time Magazine is totally irrevelant and on it's last legs. I hope they are happy about boosting sales by bashing mommies.
     
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    misslily - I totally agree with you on the comment that Time is on it's last legs and is clearly created this cover to stir up controversy.

    As for the movement detailed in the article - I believe this movement is really for a needy mommy, and will create a needy kid.

     
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    I feel bad for the child, since this picture will follow him for the rest of his life.  Clearly she's not mother of the year for subjecting her child to this. 
     
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    [QUOTE]I hope they are happy about boosting sales by bashing mommies.
    Posted by misslily[/QUOTE]

    I agree, and I am also sad that they took a very natural, very common, and-- unfortunately--often misunderstood part of the relationship between mothers and children (i.e. breastfeeding) and sensationalized it with a provocative image of a "yummy mummy", a child who may look older than he really is, and having that child stare down the camera (while standing on a chair no less).

    This was another image Time could have used: http://lightbox.time.com/2012/05/10/parenting/#2
    It's so much more representative of the relationship mothers who practice extended breastfeeding have with their children. Why couldn't they use that? Oh, right. It wouldn't sell magazines and rock the blogosphere.
     
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    Princess-Cal I would encourage you and others to do more research on the "movement" as the article and picture really do it a diservice. It is quite the opposite of what you think. The idea as I see it (we practiced many of the concepts, but many we didn't) is to meet your child's needs as an infant/toddler so that they will feel confiedent in themselves and in identifying their emotions and needs. Sure we're the parents, but kids have wants and needs, likes and dislikes just like any other person.
    I think this article does a better job at summing it up:
    http://www.circleofmoms.com/attachment-parenting--co-sleeping-moms/dr-seuss-and-ap-626600

    I don't know that I would go screaming from the hilltops that we practice AP as we don't follow it to a T. We raise our kids with common sense and if some of that common sense mimics AP principles, then so be it.
     
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    I wonder if they would have posted that pic if the mom didn't look like a supermodel.  Or if the child was a girl.  I've only EVER seen the publication of older children breastfeeding when the child is a boy.  
     
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    I think there should be a moratorium on people putting their kids' personal business in a forum like that--whether it's this gal, the mom in Vogue who wrote about her kid's diet, the mom who blogged her every single day "don't let Junior forget deceased Daddy" project with her four year old, the people describing the health battles of the kids with rare diseases and describing their every suffering moment or unusual adaptations like the dad in the NY Times Magazine last year whose kid is on a 90% fat calorie diet for some obscure metabolic disease and by implication invited 5,000 people to write in to tell him he was abusing his kid and/or offering naturopathic cures. 

    Beyond the old-fashioned humorous Bill Cosby-Erma Bombeck-Dave Barry type of thing, none of this is really helpful.  It is dehumanizing.  My kid as science project.  My kid as anthropology study.  My kid as museum exhibit.  My kid as philosophy dissertation I never got around to writing.  Frankly, they all start looking like My kid as side-show attraction and My kid as means for Mom (or more rarely Dad) to sound like some kind of profound, important person in public.  It's somehow...pornographic.  Not in the strictly carnal sense, but in the sense of taking personal and emotional experience that should be private and displaying it in public for money and attention.
     
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    Amen, purplecow, I couldn't agree more!
     
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    Hooray Purplecow!  I'm sick of it too. And I think it's a lot more about the moms than the kids.
    In the book I read about French parents they talk about how American moms wear their nursing like a badge of honor. "I nursed for 18 months...3 years...until she went to boarding school." Great, good for you, but I really don't need to know about it.

     
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    Purplecow, totally agree.  This type of thing pretty much ruined the social life of a former student of mine whose mom wrote for the local newspaper and would include blatant information about his special diet and medical issues, which for anyone, let alone a 5th grade boy, would be mortifying.
     
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    Most people have simply lost any sense of boundaries and/or privacy.
    I remember a few years ago the woman next to me was about 39 weeks pregnant and this guy in our office came up and said, "So are you dialated at all yet?" I know he was just trying to be interested because his wife had given birth 6 months before, but she (and I) were mortified that someone would ask about someone else's private area.
     
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    omg, misslily...what a horrifying example of boundarylessness.
     
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    The Mom in the pic is late 20's early 30's....the kid is 3 or 4 yo.....
    ..............anyone wanna bet that her chest hangs down to her waist as she "attaches" her other kid's and gravity takes over.....and the kid - nothing a few decades of therapy won't cure.......really, when does Mom expect the child to grow when her breast is in his mouth for 4+ years? Heck just typing sounds wrong and creepy!
     
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    It's just too much information!  What people do in the privacy of their homes is their business but I can't help thinking how smart animals are...the mother instinctively pushes her little ones away when she feels they can eat on their own.
     
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    One of the best true TMI stories I know:

    My husband had a coworker (let's call him Bob) whose wife was pregnant. One day Bob came into the office brandishing an Excel spreadsheet calculating how long it would take for Wife to lose her (medically optimum, of course) pregnancy weight based on calories expended by daily nursing and go back to her pre-kid size.  He'd given her about six months.

    Bob was surprised that the rest of the dads in the office did not think this was the best idea ever.
     
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    Oh, how I feel for Bob's wife...that's really disturbing not only that her husband would take that to WORK, but that he'd expect her to lose weight according to his spreadsheet.  Under that much pressure, what are the chances she'd be able to lose ANY weight?
     
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