August I&T

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    August I&T

    Anyone here?? I feel like I'm having all kinds of parenting questions lately! Or, just need to vent... :)


    I have a DS who has been in a horrific phase for the past couple of weeks and making us insane. It seems the "terrible 2's" hit early! (he is 2 this weekend) I think we went through this with DD and it ended after a few weeks, so am hoping the same will be true for him. He is so incredibly whiny and difficult. And heavy, and wants me to hold him whenever I am nearby. Exhausted!


    How's everyone else?

     
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    Aww Poppy, I hear you.  Seems like 2 has been a roller coaster for us too.  DS is all over the place emotionally.  No advice here just general sympathy.

    We took DS to the aquarium yesterday.  It was a lot of fun.  We were in and out before noon so it wasn't too busy and he loved it.  

    I also called EI today for an evaluation.  DS's speech isn't progressing like it should.  Our pedi was slightly concerned at his 2 year check up and asked for a follow up at 2.5 but after a month I felt like we shouldn't wait.  I talked to our pedi last week and got the referral we needed.  Anyone else do EI for speech related trouble?  Any advice?

     
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    These boards have been dead as doornails recently!

    I can echo the terrible twos...DD hit 2 and it was literally overnight that the "terrible" part kicked in- tantrums, hitting, kicking, being fresh on purpose...It was really rough for 2 -3 solid weeks, and I don't want to jinx myself but it's seemed to improve recently.

    We have her new room all set up and decorated, and now the next step is to move her in! We got her a toddler bed so we need to move the crib mattress and then just see if she'll sleep in there. She was scared of the room at first because we had it painted, but we've been spending lots of time in there and talking it up as such a cool room, that hopefully she'll want to be in there overnight. DH is getting frustrated with me because I keep putting it off...but I'm dreading her getting up and out of her bed countless times a night!

     
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    Hi everyone!  I feel like I'm genuinely mourning these boards.  Such a hive of activity and such a support when I was pg and when DD was new.

    Poppy, hang in there.  No real advice.  I do notice that with DS, I get frustrated and then DH reminds me that DD did the same things, and then that helps me be a bit more accepting.  (Not a lot!  Just a little.)  My DS is 15 months now, so far from 2, but he wants to be held and carried around *constantly*.  He's obsessed with looking out the front window (which is too high for him by himself) and he always wants to go outside.  And he throws everything.

    CLC, we did EI for my DD for gross motor skills.  So it was not for speech, but I can tell you that the evaluation was really pretty cool.  And then when we had six months of weekly visits, I mentioned to the therapist that I was a little concerned about DD's expressive language (her receptive was clearly fine) and she started weaving in some language elements.  Not sure if they helped or not, but they were a lot of fun for my DD!  (She had gotten to the point where she didn't want to do the gross motor activities, and she would do the "all done" sign when the therapist showed up!)

     
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    The boards have been quiet! I suspect it's b/c there's no easy way to get there from BDC's new homepage. I know I could just bookmark it but, really, who thinks that far ahead? :-)

    Sorry to all of you dealing with the early terrible 2s. We had some of that, too. DS is now almost 2.5 and DH and I were just remarking how he's improved recently. I don't think it's a coincidence that his language has gotten really good in the last couple of months. There's far less frustration over us not knowing what he wants. So, unfortunately, no advice, more just this, too shall pass...not that we don't still have tantrums, of course. Last week, we had 15 minutes of screaming "Mac and cheese!" after he asked for something else for dinner, I made it, and then refused to give him mac and cheese when he changed his mind. Sometimes you just have to laugh at them a bit... :-)

     
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    What's happening to these boards? The only people who can find it are spammers! :-)

    Sorry for everyone facing the Terrible Twos. Every time DS gets cranky, I just give him a piece of cheese. Apparently he gets "hangry" just like his Mama. He was a hot mess this morning - didn't want breakfast, kept tripping and falling into things, found the water dispenser in the fridge door twice. Thank goodness he's cute!

    We dropped DS's crib to the lowest level yesterday. We were just talking about how we haven't had to drop it because he never tried getting out. Then yesterday morning, doesn't he throw his foot up on the bar. We jinxed ourselves! The kid is already over 32 inches so it was just a matter of time I guess.

    This is probably a stupid question, but what are you all using for towels with your toddlers? We're still using the same hooded towels since he was born but they're obviously a little short. Do they make hooded towels for toddlers? Should I just use a regular towel?

     
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    In response to Chiclet831's comment:
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    What's happening to these boards? The only people who can find it are spammers! :-)

    Sorry for everyone facing the Terrible Twos. Every time DS gets cranky, I just give him a piece of cheese. Apparently he gets "hangry" just like his Mama. He was a hot mess this morning - didn't want breakfast, kept tripping and falling into things, found the water dispenser in the fridge door twice. Thank goodness he's cute!

    We dropped DS's crib to the lowest level yesterday. We were just talking about how we haven't had to drop it because he never tried getting out. Then yesterday morning, doesn't he throw his foot up on the bar. We jinxed ourselves! The kid is already over 32 inches so it was just a matter of time I guess.

    This is probably a stupid question, but what are you all using for towels with your toddlers? We're still using the same hooded towels since he was born but they're obviously a little short. Do they make hooded towels for toddlers? Should I just use a regular towel?

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    We switched to regular bath towels a long time ago...the hooded ones were just too small and thin!

     
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    We switched to regular towels too.  I do think they make hooded towels for toddlers but it was just easier to use something we had on hand.  

     

    EI evaluation is set for the 10th of September and wouldn't you know it DS has been coming up with all sorts of new words this week.  Of course!  Oh well, still no harm in getting him tested so we are going to stick with the plan.  

     

    This seems to be the only board people are still posting on, so wondering if anyone can weigh in on my post in TTC.  After 2 miscarriages in a row we're moving forward with seeing a specialist at Brigham.  Anyone else been through this? Anyone they would recommend?  Also, anyone use clomid after repeat miscarriages? 

     
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    Thanks for the advice on towels! It's funny how you just get into a pattern of using the same stuff and then you step back and think, "He's probably too big for this now, isn't he?"

    DS is home today with Hand Foot and Mouth Disease AND Impetigo. Go big or go home, right? He doesn't seem phased by it yet, but I'm sure that's coming. When I left for work, he was sitting in his high chair with DH eating an egg and cheese sandwich. We were at a cookout this weekend with DH's family and he was talking up a storm. We're pretty sure he said, "I all done" when he was being pulled around in a wagon with his cousins. I was holding him and he said something that no one else understood. I heard him say, "Bubble get down" so I put him down and he went straight for MIL's bubble machine. Everyone was amazed that 1. he could put together that complete of a thought (can't really call it a sentence) and 2. that I understood him. I always tell people that I don't know a thing about kids but I'm an expert on DS.

    CLC - I think you're smart to still get your DS evaluated. They can give you advice to encourage his speech, even if they don't determine that he needs a therapist. He can only benefit from the extra attention. As for your appointment with the RE, I'm not sure about clomid for repeat miscarriages. I'm not an expert by any stretch, but I would think they would prescribe something to boost your progesterone early on. I don't know if clomid does that too? Or maybe their thinking is that the eggs that you're releasing aren't great so if they stimulate ovulation, you'll have a better chance of releasing a stronger one? I'm glad you're getting a second opinion. I'm not saying your OB is wrong to suggest clomid, I just think you need a better understanding of what it will do for you. When is your appointment?

     
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    I haven't been on these boards for awhile plus they have been dead!  Thought I would pop back on and there were posts!

    Sorry for everyone dealing with the terrible two.  DS turned 2 about 5 weeks ago seems like it is starting for us too! He has been protesting when I ask him to put his cup in the sink.  I have to give him the cup and walk him over to the sink.  The other struggle is brushing his teeth.  He hates it but if he just would cooperate it would be done quickly!  And the poor dogs, he has been getting better but he will just kick them for no reason.  There are a lot of time outs in our house!

    I am wondering if anyone has any suggestions on moving from the crib to a bed.  With another baby on the way I would like to make the change sooner than later but DH doesn't get why we need to.  I think he is dreading DS being able to get out of bed him self.  Has anyone kept the older child in the crib when the new baby came and then made the transition later like when the baby is ready for the crib?  

    CLC- Sorry to hear your still going through a tough time.  Although I don't have any good answers for you, I have heard great things about Boston IVF.  I know a handful of people who used and had success with Dr. Brian Berger.  Good Luck with your journey.

     

     
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    Thanks all.  I actually decided to go with Boston IVF after all.  They have a dr, Dr. Zimon, that comes to the Cape once a week.  So I actually won't have to travel up to the city which is a nice benefit.  I was able to get in with her a week from Friday.  We got the results of our chromosomal panel last week and all was normal so that's a relief.  Hopefully Dr. Zimon will help us get some answers. 

     

    Chiclet - that's a really interesting thought about the Clomid stimulating better eggs.  I hadn't thought about that before.  I will wait to talk with Dr. Zimon before I rule anything out.

     

    I considered selling my toddler yesterday ;) Just kidding of course.  DS learned how to spit this weekend! Ugh.  Don't let you kids watch Madagascar!  He saw that movie last week with DH and thought the scenes where they all spit out the salt water was very funny and we have had an issue with spitting ever since. I've been backing off Time Outs lately because they weren't working and I was just ending up more frustrated.  It seemed ignoring his bad behavior worked better.  But a time out was necessary for all the spit that was on my floors yesterday.  It worked for a short-while but wasn't quite the solution I was hoping for. 

     
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    I haven't been on these boards for awhile plus they have been dead!  Thought I would pop back on and there were posts!

    Sorry for everyone dealing with the terrible two.  DS turned 2 about 5 weeks ago seems like it is starting for us too! He has been protesting when I ask him to put his cup in the sink.  I have to give him the cup and walk him over to the sink.  The other struggle is brushing his teeth.  He hates it but if he just would cooperate it would be done quickly!  And the poor dogs, he has been getting better but he will just kick them for no reason.  There are a lot of time outs in our house!

    I am wondering if anyone has any suggestions on moving from the crib to a bed.  With another baby on the way I would like to make the change sooner than later but DH doesn't get why we need to.  I think he is dreading DS being able to get out of bed him self.  Has anyone kept the older child in the crib when the new baby came and then made the transition later like when the baby is ready for the crib?  

    CLC- Sorry to hear your still going through a tough time.  Although I don't have any good answers for you, I have heard great things about Boston IVF.  I know a handful of people who used and had success with Dr. Brian Berger.  Good Luck with your journey.

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    Pugs I think we have very close due dates and toddlers close in age already- my DD turned 2 in June and we actually just moved her into a toddler bed, in a new room, this past Friday. I too wanted her to be fully adjusted well before baby arrives, especially because she was moving into a new room as well.

    We did a gradual process of moving some of her things a bit at a time, then letting her "help" put the bed together and talked to her frequently about her nice new room and her new big girl bed. I kept putting it off but DH was getting frustrated with my stalling so we finally just did the final phase on Friday (move crib mattress, rest of toys, etc) and she slept in there. She was excited at first, but when it was PJs/actual bed time, she was nervous and cried a bit. I had to rock her in her old room for a little while first, then bring her to her new room, and sit with her for a little bit til she was pretty much asleep. The second night I didn't have to do the rocking, but every night since then I've still sat with her for a few minutes. She lays in the bed while I read to her, put on her white noise machine, she gets sleepy and settles in. It helps that in the weeks before we made the transition, I got her used to going into the crib awake and falling asleep on her own (yes I rocked her to sleep for a long time :)  )

    Be prepared for crying. Not necessarily your DS (well, maybe) , but you. lol...When DD laid in her new bed for the first time, and looked like such a big girl, I just ended up losing it. She got out her bed and said "It's ok mommy, it's my new bed. You're sad, I'll get you a tissue" and she did. So of course I cried even more...love the pregnancy hormones! The next day she told friends of ours that she slept in her new big girl bed, and mommy cried. LOL

     
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    Don't you love it when they call you out for crying?  :)  So, Pugs, we kept DD in the crib when DS was born.  She was 2 years 9 months when he was born.  Our reason was because after 2 years of ups and downs, she had *finally* become a dedicated sleeper, and we just couldn't handle disrupting that.  We had used a hand me down cradle for DD that was in use elsewhere when DS was born, so we bought a "mini crib".  DS slept in that in our room.  Our thinking was that if needed, he could stay in it a lot longer than a bassinet or a co-sleeper thing.

    As it ended up, we moved when DS was 3 months old.  So at that time we put the full crib for DS and DD got a twin size bed.  The mini crib turns into a twin headboard and footboard (you have to buy side rails).  So we were able to frame it as that they were "trading" and she helped put the new bed together, et cetera.  It worked out great for us.

    CLC, best of luck to you - hope the new doctor can help figure it out.  Chiclet, that is SO adorable and cool about your DS' language!

     
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    Thanks for the input ladies!  I don't know what we are going to do yet!  I have a twin bed for him just need to make to jump!

     
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    CLC--I'm so sorry for your losses.  I finally visited this board after a long break, and thought I would reach out, since I've dealt with the recurrent pregnancy loss issue. We also had a panel of testing, including tests for blood clotting factors and chromosomal abnormalities.  The tests didn't find any cause for my losses, which is the most common outcome of this testing panel, for better of for worse. 

    My OBs at MGH did not believe that progesterone supplementation helps prevent miscarriages (they argued low progesterone could be a sign of a problem, but not the cause of the problem, if that makes sense). And they also did not believe that blood thinners were helpful unless you have a diagnosed clotting problem, which I did not have based on my bloodwork. So they encouraged me to try again without intervention.

    No one suggested a fertility intervention like clomid--it really surprises me that they suggested that if the concern is about miscarriage rather than getting pregnant?I'm under 35, so they wanted me to try again for up to 9 months following my 2nd loss before they would pursue any workup or treatments related to infertility.

    This article has some helpful information:

    http://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/25/health/25brod.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.nytimes.com/2008/03/25/health/25brod.html

    I'm sorry you are going through this, and I hope you have a healthy pregnancy soon. It's a tough process.

     

     
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    Thanks Siena.  First appointment with Boston IVF is tomorrow.  I'll let you all know how it goes.

     
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    DD is now 5 months old which is just incredible to me. She's discovered her voice and babbles a lot now. And like many of you said, babies change all the time and she nows sleeps in her own room in a crib. She doesn't sleep through the night but i dont really care and she does sleep well so I'll take it. Waking up once or twice a night to nurse is good. 

     

    In other news, I lost my job two weeks ago. Fired. I wasn't happy there so its a blessing in disguise but still stressful having no income coming in. I still have DD in daycare 3 days a week because I really like the center, we can afford it for now and those 3 days give me time to look for work and go on interviews. I have one tomorrow the next time over from where I live. 

    "I'm always thinking one step ahead. Like a carpenter that makes stairs"

     
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    CLC - Good luck with your appointment today. I hope you get some good answers.

    Northern - Welcome back! I'm sorry to hear about your job. I hope there's a new one coming for you soon!

    Siena - It's nice to see you back here too! :-)

    I hope you're all doing well! I managed to catch DS's hand foot and mouth disease. I don't care what any doctor tells you, that rash is ITCHY! I wanted to chop my hand off! DS has his first sleepover at Mimi and Papa's this weekend so we can go to a concert. I'm pretty nervous about it. He hasn't been put to bed by someone other than me or DH, um, maybe ever? 

     
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    Thanks guys.  The appointment was great.  I really liked Dr Zimon of Boston IVF.  She's going to do lots of more tests on myself and DH and then see where to go from there.  She's wondering if I have PCOS that was never diagnosed.  So we are going to start all the testing in the next few weeks and see what it comes out with.  We did talk about Clomid and she mentioned if I had PCOS that it would be the way to go so we shall see.  

     

    Chiclet - enjoy your concert.  I'm sure your DS will be just fine.  I'll say even though I've spent many nights away from my DS it never quite gets easier.  I'm always up and ready to go get him bright and early.  But hopefully you can relax and enjoy your night out.  Sorry to hear about Hand Foot Mouth, that can't be fun!

     

    Northern - welcome back.  Sorry to hear about the job but I hope this gives you an opportunity to find something you enjoy.  That's great about your DD, she's getting to such a fun age.  I love when they start finding their voice and babbling away.  Too cute!  I also love that they get big enough for the exersaucer.  I wish I could still put my 2 year old in one some days :) 

     
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    So, I broke down last night into a crying, babbling mess telling DH that I'll never make it through the 2s because I hate feeling like a mean mom.  He consoled me, but I am here because I know you girls will understand.  I hate giving time outs and I fell like every other word out of my mouth lately is "No."  Ugghhhhh!!  The worst part is, she really is a good kid (except for when she is acting like the sour patch kid on those sour/sweet commercials), and most time outs arise from her not listening because once her mind is set on doing something she doesn't want to stop.  I love her determination and hope that she never loses it, but really, there are somethings that two years old just cannot do.   Ok - rant over - thanks for listening....

    CLC, so sorry to read of your losses.  I hope you have luck with Boston IVF.  And good luck to those with LOs one the way (or just arrived).  Hopefully we can get these boards up and running again...

     
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    Sorry Nov, we all feel your pain.  You're not a mean mom, you're doing what's best for your LO. Just keep repeating "And this too shall pass".  Something must be in the air because this weekend was brutal for us too.  I actually told DH how upset I was that I needed a break from my own child.  It happens.  Hopefully things improve and you can enjoy a long weekend to end the summer!  Seriously how is it Labor Day??? 

    First round of testing with Boston IVF today: 18 vials of blood.  I should get some sort of award for that!  They also did a Day 3 ultrasound to count the follicles.  The tech couldn't tell me anything which I found super frustrating but I understand.  Now just waiting for the Dr's office to call to let me know what's next.  Pretty sure I'm headed in for HSG in the next few days.  

     
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    Nov, I definitely have weekends like you are describing too. Sometimes, it seems like all we do is yell at DS. Sometimes it's so hard to keep them safe AND not break their little spirits. But then there are days that they give you that big belly laugh while you're playing together and you think that maybe they will turn out okay. 

    CLC - 18 vials!!! I would have lost my mind. It's so frustrating when they can't give you answers right away. Then you try to decode what the nurse says. Ugh!

    DS's sleepover went well. He went right to sleep for DH's parents. He was kind of emotional when we picked him up, but I think he was really tired. He didn't wake them up, but maybe he didn't sleep well while he was there? We had a blast at the concert too. 

    DS has had a really hard time at daycare drop off this week. He has new teachers who he seems to like but as soon as I start to leave, he has a complete fit. I tried the whole "Drop and Dash" thing today and then I watched him on the monitor in the director's office. He just sat on the floor going, "Mama, Mama" all sad. He gets so attached to people and I think seeing two new faces has been a struggle. He's still got his friends and I think his teachers will be really good once he gets used to them. It's just been a struggle to get there. I'd also LOVE to wean him once and for all (he still nurses in the morning and evening) but I'm worried that it's too much to do that while he's going through this business at school. This morning, he nursed on one side and then got up and walked away so I went with it. It's just so hard to know what he needs!

     

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