Re: August Infants and Toddlers
posted at 8/5/2013 1:26 PM EDT
About the transition to 2 kids-mine are just shy of 3 years apart-I love the age difference, though I'm sure you adjust to what ever age difference you have them and love that! DD will be 2 soon and and DS 5 shortly after-so DS was almost 3 when I had DD. I will never forget when we loaded all of us into the car go head home from the hosptial and DS in the back said "well, here we go!" And the adventure began!
I can't say that I had resentment twoards DS, but I did lose a little connection with him for a while. DD needed my time, and DS was more independent. DH took over a lot of the entertainment for DS at that time. Our Pedi warned us that DH wouldn't really connect with DD until about 3-4 months-basically because he will be running interferrence with the older child.
DS at 3 "got it" that I needed to focus on DD more in the beginning, and I did make an effort to put his needs first (when appropriate) to show him that he was still a major priority-DD could fuss/cry for a min while I tended to DS.
Now as they are both older it is just amazing to see their relationship! DS has learned the way to deal with a toddler is to distract her, so when she was getting into a bag she shouldn't have, he distracted her and I heard his voice down the hall saying "Quick Mommy, I have DD, go hide the bag!" too cute. When DS was having a melt down the other day, DD went to him gave him a bear hug and kissed him. When one is in trouble the other tries to stick up for them. This happened even as DD was about 6 mo old-if DS got in trouble, she started to cry and distract us. DS finishes DD's sentences, is her biggest champion in potty training (the two of them have a little post potty dance they do together)-don't get me wrong, they fight over toys too!
It's amazing/interesting to see how their personalities are similar and different at the same time. DS walked at 10.5 months, DD at 12.5 months, DS was a great teether, DD I'm ready to extract her teeth myself. DS was much more prone to stomach bugs and fevers, DD not so much.
Best part of having two, is having date times with each one indivdually! When DS start's acting up more, we schedule a date time, just him and me, and it's great to connect and have fun and focus just on him.
It was once described the sibling relationship will be the longest relationship the two of them will have (god willing), it's going to have ups and downs, but a relationship unlike any other they will have.
As for morning routine- when DD was little, I'd get up around 6am (I alwasy shower and do hair at night) get myself ready, get DD ready-dress, bottle (she weaned herself around 4 mo-so that "saved" me time in the AM), then wake DS up, and usher him through the routine. DH would be in charge of playing/entertaining one/both as necessary-then he helps load everyone into the car and are off and out of the house by 7:10-breakfast bars and milk in the car now. DS at 3.5 was an absolute pickle to get dressed-I don't miss that age/stage. Now, most mornings, I find both of them in DD's crib playing/talking. Everyone into the bathroom, pee, brush teeth, wash face, then tell DS to get dressed, I dress DD. Then tell DS to get dressed a few more times...DH is now awake and helping get DS dressed/deal with DD I get dressed and we're out the door. the key to a smooth morning is two parents! I've done it when DH's been traveling, by myself, but I get up a little earlier then.
As for dinner-your crock pot is your friend! Make a big batch of brown rice for the week, dole out as much as you need for dinner, heat up and you're good to go. And don't forget to assign your DH to pick up a roaster chicken even once in a while-it's his responsibility too! (though I do a roaster chicken in the crock pot and it's delish!)
Poppy-I think you're ds is just going back to habit. try and stay strong with no bottle and he will settle down. Soon he'll be off all bottles right? Whole milk can be very filling, so much so that I had to take DS off of it early because he'd be too full to eat any food.