Re: August Infants and Toddlers
posted at 8/15/2013 10:33 AM EDT
Poppy - Ugh, that sucks! But try not to beat yourself up over it. You were right to be worried, you were busy, and you had a miscommunication. They're your kids, and you get to make the call. Hopefully she'll get over it soon. In the meantime, hopefully this is better than the worry you would be dealing with if they had both gone!
Chiclet - Baby Cafe is great. They kept me nursing (although supplementing) through 6 mos and with all of DS' quirks in that area, I doubt I'd have made it more than a few weeks. They don't give up on anyone, and, while it's awesome and supportive, it can also result in your running after every possible solution. Just make sure you keep perspective on what feels comfortable/reasonable for you.
FWIW, my experience on the tongue tie: The LC at Baby Cafe found a tongue tie that my pedi hadn't found either. It was much earlier, probably when DS was about 3 or 4 weeks old, and we took him to the ENT to have it clipped. It wasn't a big deal at all to do, but it wasn't the panacea I'd hoped for. He still had the exact same nursing issues after. I only share this because, if it took so many people to find it, it's probably not a significant tie and may not help to have it clipped. As the ENT will probably tell you, a lot of ties go away on their own (they tear gradually as the LO uses his tongue more and more). In any case, I don't really regret having DS' clipped, but just be prepared that it may not be totally necessary/may not help.
AFM - Thanks for all the advice on dealing with my dad. He is amazing with DS and generally very well-meaning, so the passive-aggressive stuff is manageable. I find with my dad, the best approach is to be very vocal about my choices. So when he was over last weekend and I gave DS a big piece of banana to eat, I told my dad flat out that I was giving him a bigger piece b/c that's how he prefers to eat it and he's good at taking small bites. Dad seemed fine, so we'll see. And to his credit, he will recognize when he's being ridiculous. He was sitting with me while I gave DS dinner on Tuesday and, as I put some bites of sandwich on the tray, asked me if it was too hot. I just looked at him until he started laughing and saying "Okay, I know, I know!"
We're heading to the beach with my family this weekend, which I'm sure will bring out a whole new level of overprotectiveness in my dad. He was legendary for not letting any relative take me more than a few feet away from him when we'd stay there when I was a baby/toddler. My mom finally had to tell him, regarding a very responsible aunt who wanted to take me for a walk "Her kids are still alive, you know!"