posted at 5/5/2013 12:23 PM EDT
Most two year olds aren't able to be in time out - that whole "number of minutes per their age" tihng may be fine at 3 or 4 yrs old, but at 2 yrs old, most children don't have the self control to stay on the step/in the chair/in their rooms (without opening the door) for any minutes, never mind 2!
So, yes, they may be told to find something else to do if they are throwing blocks after a reminder or two. "You can't throw the blocks. Can you build up high, look, can you put it on top of mine?" that child will either build with the blocks or throw again. if building, great, you keep playing and building (then knock it down and build again). if the child throws (and many will, because they just want to be throwing, not building stupid blocks in a stupid tower, ha ha) then you calmly say "you can't throw the blocks. Let's go get the balls and throw them. Or let's go get playdough and use that (because if you don't allow ball throwing in your house, and you can't go outside in that moment for about 1000 reasons, you want to find something physical for your child, not sitting down and doing puzzles because your child is needing something physical in that moment, not cerebral). And then you FOLLOW THROUGH by taking your child's hand and doing that thing. You don't just direct them to go and hope they go, because they won't. Again, they are 2 yrs old.
Remember, though, if your other twin is playing properly with the blocks, you can't clean up the blocks becuase other twin (or other sibling) is throwing htem. Not fair, and I've seen many parents do it because it's easier than dealing with the throwing child. So it's back to paragraph one if there are 2 or more children using said blocks.
Shadow, shadow, shadow, hover, hover, hover and your child will stop biting in a week or so because you'll stop it (and I wouldn't even speak when I caught and redirected - I just take the child's face and move it away, or move the biter in a different direction, so that the biter doesn't hear "no biting, no biting" a thousand times a day. The less said the better, because even negative attention is attention and a child craves attention. Once a child stops biting so much, they tend to stop attempting so much because it's moved farther back in their mind.
there are just some children for whom it occurs to bite and others it doesn't - doesn't mean there is anything wrong with that child, etc. Now, a 4 yr old or older shouldn't be biting, period, and if that chlid is biting, then there is a problem. I mean a 4 yr old who is developmentally on target with language, cognitive development, and emotional development, etc., not a child with special needs or with emotional problems.