Re: how to deal with bullying behaviour in a 2 year old room...
posted at 2/27/2013 11:16 PM EST
Ugh. I don't like it when parents "collect information from other parents" and then go "armed with info" to the director. Why? Because the other parents are not privy to all the information, because of confidentiality. So which child bit which other child, or hit them, etc. is possibly correct when a parent says it, but it could be incorrect because nobody is told who bit whom. (or hit, smacked, pinched, etc.)
Now, I KNOW you know what's going on with your son. And I'd agree, bullying isn't what a 2 yr old is doing. BUT what he is doing is unacceptable. He's doing it because he needs attention, or only gets attention for those negative things from his parents, or because he's pushed around by older siblings, etc. He doesn't know other ways to get attention in a positive way, so he pushes, takes toys, etc. And his language isn't there, yet, to say "Can I play with you, DS?" or to say "I want that toy, can I have it when you're done?" so he pulls toys out of hands (this is VERY common in a 2 yr old room, although we do work hard to help the children learn to ask and then wait for the answer).
Do meet with the director, because your son shouldn't feel picked on. While I won't say a child this age is a bully, I WILL say that sometimes one child does target one or two other children, for whatever reason, and it's hard to deal with.
Moving your son out of this room might be an option. But also saying 'I'm concerned about this child's behavior, it's been going on in two rooms directed at my son, and I need it to stop. So what can you do to help it stop? What, concretely, will you do?"
Good luck at your meeting.